1 When courtship is rejected

Lin, female, 22 years old, third-year forestry major. Coming from the northeastern region where his ancestors were all forestry workers, Lin was extremely happy to be able to go to university in the provincial capital. After arriving at school, he studied hard and achieved excellent results. He was rated as one of the top three students in his freshman year. As we grow older, our admiration for the opposite sex increases day by day, and we hope that a prince charming will appear soon. When she expressed her feelings to another boy in her major, she was politely rejected. During the winter vacation, she couldn't help but write another letter to the boy, but he had already left home when he invited his classmates to go back to school with him, so his brother forwarded the letter to the school intact and "expedited" . After the letter arrived at school, his classmates in the same dormitory thought something had happened at home, so they opened the letter. The matter was made public. As soon as the news came out, she, who was originally introverted and melancholy, felt heavier and more conflicted in her heart. For this reason, she was in a trance all day, depressed and could not sleep at night. She felt that she had lost face and had done something embarrassing. thing. When she saw her classmates laughing together, she thought they were making fun of her, so she went up to explain to her classmates, but she couldn't explain it herself, which made the whole city uproar. As a result, I often suffer from severe headaches, chest tightness, and my days feel like years. I am unable to concentrate on my studies and eventually have suicidal thoughts. After she finished writing letters to department leaders, parents, and classmates, she took a lot of sleeping pills. Teachers and classmates found out in time and sent him to the school hospital where he was rescued.

Comments: When his courtship was rejected, Xiao Lin felt that his behavior was unworthy of his parents. On the other hand, he felt that his self-esteem was traumatized and he could not hold his head high among his classmates. He developed anxiety, depression, and even committed suicide. Self-harm. In fact, she pursues her own love and bravely speaks her true words to the lover in her heart. This is a manifestation of her bold pursuit of a better life. There is nothing wrong with her and she should not blame herself. However, love is mutual, and everyone has the freedom to love or not to love. Failure to get one person's love does not mean losing the love of all the opposite sex. There are fragrant grasses everywhere at the end of the world, so why worry about others not recognizing you. When Marie Curie was 19 years old, she fell in love with a handsome and wealthy college student. Due to family opposition, the college student was unable to fight, so Marie Curie had to endure the pain of falling out of love. Madame Curie was also in pain at the time, but she immediately controlled her feelings rationally, fell in love without losing her ambition, concentrated all her energy on scientific research, and obtained new scientific discoveries, which also led to a new love. .

Case 2: When the breakup has become a fact

Little E, female, 19 years old, a second-year student in a higher vocational college. He said that he had been in great pain for the past month. Sometimes he would hit his head against the wall and even thought about committing suicide, but he finally did not have the courage to do so. During the winter vacation, her boyfriend broke up with her. She could not accept it and felt very sad, helpless, unwilling, and depressed at the same time. She always thinks about the happy time when the two were together in the past, but now faced with his cold, ruthless and decisive attitude, she can't believe that it is true, and always fantasizes that the two can reconcile. I feel very bitter and tired. In the past two days, I feel like I am about to collapse and I can no longer bear it.

Comment: The sadness, pain, despair, melancholy, anxiety, emptiness and other emotions caused by lovelorn hurt the person involved. Falling out of love is one of the most serious psychological setbacks in life. If the negative emotions caused by a broken love are not resolved in time, it will lead to physical and mental illness. Falling out of love is a common frustration in love, and many young people suffer from it. Little E should face reality and accept the fact of breaking up, instead of blindly staying in past memories and reconciliation fantasies; carry out positive self-psychological debugging, such as finding relatives or close friends to talk to, and appropriately transferring emotions to Regarding other people or things, learn to look at problems dialectically; eliminate the trauma of the soul as soon as possible and restore psychological balance and health.

Case 3: Behind the Broken Love

Little D, male, 22 years old, fourth-year engineering student. The student said that when he was studying foreign languages ??outside school, he met a girl from his school. He had a good impression of her and took the initiative to approach her.

Therefore, when he feels that he has been hurt, he instinctively becomes angry and aggressive, but instead of venting in a socially recognized way, he looks for an extreme behavior to vent, which may lead to violence against the person who hurt him.

For teachers and students in schools, it is necessary to strengthen psychological supervision, such as conducting some activities so that people's energy can be transformed through normal channels. If teachers and students have the concept of mental health, they can discover something is wrong with others early and help them alleviate the problem, which may prevent the occurrence of extreme behaviors. Case 16: Homosexuals kill their "boyfriends"

Shenzhen A boy from a university in the city killed another boy with whom he was very close. According to police investigations, the boy and his boyfriend were in a gay relationship, while his boyfriend was bisexual and was in a relationship with another girl. The boy thought that his boyfriend had betrayed him, so he killed his boyfriend in anger, making a huge mistake that could not be undone!

Comments: Homosexuality, heterosexuality, and bisexuality are considered to be different sexual orientations. Homosexuals among college students tend to pursue relatively stable emotional and sexual lives. The boy in this case took drastic action after discovering his gay boyfriend's "betrayal", which resulted in bad consequences.