Have you ever borrowed money from anyone? After reading this article, I was touched in my heart... It's so well said. I ask my good friends to read it carefully, especially the following paragraphs: they are worth pondering.

Last month, a friend of mine, So-and-so, needed some money urgently because of something unexpected in his business. When he called me, I felt a little strange, because our relationship was just It was limited to ordinary friends, so there was a little hesitation. I said: I will call you later.

I thought about it for ten minutes and decided to lend him the money.

Last week, he returned the money to me and then invited me to tea.

He said: You agreed to lend me money, which is beyond my expectation!

I asked: Why?

He replied: I have made 9 calls before calling you, and you are the 10th.

When you say "I'll call you later," I think I need to make the 11th call. I made these 10 phone calls based on my close relationship. The more I called, the less confident I became. Therefore, calling you is like treating a dead horse as a living horse. After that, we talked a lot about this topic, and he summed it up by saying: If it weren’t for this loan, I thought I had many friends. Now I understand that I am so lonely.

I was thinking about this for the next few days, and then I decided to find out if I was as lonely as my friend. Before doing this, I called him and told him my idea, and he laughed: I advise you not to play this kind of game, it will make you feel like you have fallen from heaven to hell!

I picked out the names of the good friends around me now. These people are all local, and those from other places are not included for the time being. They have never had a financial loan relationship with me, nor have they ever had any relationship with me. Work has nothing to do with it. We are often together, either eating, drinking tea, or hanging out in bars. Most of the time I help each other with small favors. We are friends in the pure sense. There are 9 of us, and If they have the financial strength to borrow a few thousand yuan, it will definitely not be a big problem.

I sent each of them a text message with the same content: I am in some trouble now. I need to ask you to borrow X thousand yuan and return it within a month. If it works, give me a call. If it doesn't work, just send me a message. It doesn't matter. I'll wait for your reply.

I sent it yesterday afternoon, before dinner time, and received 7 messages and 2 phone calls. Messages are generally responded very quickly, no more than an hour. One of the calls came about 20 minutes after the message was sent, and the other one came about 2 and a half hours after the message was sent.

The contents of the 7 messages are as follows:

Chen: I’m so sorry! I'm having a bit of a difficulty at the moment, really, otherwise I would have nothing to say about your matter. Just ask YYY, I'm sorry!

Qiao: XX, my brother-in-law just asked me to borrow 10,000 yuan last week. There is still a chance next month. I’m so sorry!

Tang: It’s been very difficult for me during this period. I lost a lot of money playing mahjong some time ago. XX, I’m sorry. If I were in a good situation, it would be absolutely fine.

Wang: I’m so sorry. All my money is in stocks. I’m sorry!

Chen: XX, why do you want to borrow money? I just lent someone 10,000 yuan with interest yesterday, and you didn’t tell me earlier. I’m sorry, please think of other ways. .

Lu: Sorry, my stocks have been locked up recently and I don’t have any cash in hand. I’m sorry!

Chapter: XX, my son will be transferred to a certain YY school at the beginning of school. He will have to pay 5,000 at the beginning of school. I really can’t help you, please forgive me!

The calls were from friends named Wang and Zhang

First call:

Wang: Hello, are you XX?

Me: Hello, it’s me!

Wang: What are you doing? Why do you still need to borrow such a small amount of money? What happened to you?

Me: Nothing happened. My money is in the market and I won’t be able to get it out for a while. My brother is in trouble and needs it urgently.

Wang: As long as nothing happens.

Are you in the company?

Me: Ah, yes!

Wang: My son was hit by a bicycle at school and his calf was fractured. I haven’t been able to go out for several days.

Me: Huh? Why didn't you listen to your son's fracture? Want to help?

Wang: I took a week off, but my wife’s damn company couldn’t take leave. I’m going to ask my mother to come over next week to help take care of her. Don’t worry! Tell me your bank card number and I'll ask my wife to call you at work tomorrow.

Second call:

Zhang: Hello, XX, this is Zhou YY, where are you now?

Me: I’m at the company!

Zhang: Oh, I just arrived at the store and the money is ready. Should I send it to you or should you come and get it?

Me: Why am I so embarrassed to ask you to send it here? Let’s do this. I will go to your place and write you an IOU later, and the money will be transferred to my card when it arrives.

Zhang: Then give me your card number and I will call it for you now. What do you think? ICBC or CCB?

Me: Whatever is convenient for you?

Zhang: Opposite my store is ICBC. Please give me your ICBC card number.

Last night, Wei and I went to a coffee bar together and expressed our feelings to each other. I told him that the two friends who lent me money have never troubled me to solve anything for them, but other friends have troubled me from time to time. Sometimes it is about computer problems, sometimes about stocks, and sometimes about investments. Question...

He asked me: Are you going to tell the truth to your friends who lend you money?

I said: Unless I start to get nervous tonight!

He smiled and said sadly: From now on, you only have these two friends.

I don’t remember reading any book. There seems to be a saying: People who have helped you will always help you, but people you have helped may not. I also laughed, looked at the smoke rising in front of my eyes, and said lightly: I understand in my heart, and there is nothing wrong with not saying it. In this way, when you encounter difficulties in the future, you will know who to ask for help, and you will avoid asking unreliable people, which will make you feel uncomfortable, make others feel embarrassed, and delay things.

Know what kind of friends you can play with, and know what kind of friends you can rely on. For those friends you can play with, just have fun together and don't bother them with things; for those you can rely on, treat them well. Even though I have many friends, only these few are truly reliable. Cherish your reliable friends and strive to make yourself a reliable friend of others. Only in this way can you take root in this city.

Comments: No matter how popular you are, there are still only a few people who can help you when you are in trouble. Carnival is just the loneliness of a group of people. A true friend is the one who can accompany you through loneliness, loneliness and silence. In fact, I have read this sentence before, and it seems to come from a story about a Jewish businessman asking for help. I also think this sentence is very reasonable. What exactly is a friend? I think the following definitions can explain this very well:

1. It’s not that good friends have endless things to say when they are together, but that even if they don’t talk, they won’t Feel embarrassed.

2. A friend is someone who sees you through and is willing to be with you.

3. A friend is someone who comes to see you for no reason. Like this article? If you like it, please share it! Let more people see it!