You can look at your performance and opinions first.

Proud of having many friends.

Prove your worth by solving problems for your friends.

Unwilling and afraid to refuse a friend's invitation, everyone came.

I look forward to the constant recognition of my friends.

I long for everyone I know to be sure of themselves.

Poor time management, not doing what should be done, often beaten by friends.

Think that the foundation of all success comes from the help of friends.

Too addicted to the atmosphere of conversation, so as not to produce appropriate pressure.

When many people who are eager for success talk to me about how to make friends and how to deal with the world, they think it seems to be a very naive question. In fact, simple problems often affect great development. The depth of understanding of simple problems determines a person's understanding level, which is why it is said that "the road is simple".

All kinds of inappropriate phenomena in making friends stem from incorrect ideas and habits, which in turn leads to incorrect behaviors.

Getting along with others is a science, making friends is an art, and all friendships come from your kindness and ability from the inside out.

Establish a correct concept and have enough self-confidence. Although we need others' affirmation to prove our worth, true maturity comes from self-confidence. If we can only rely on external praise to promote our growth, then we are still not mature enough.

Society is hierarchical, and it changes with the ups and downs of our lives. Recently, our college classmates got together and finally got together. After getting along for a long time, I began to divide it intentionally or unintentionally. Those who come by car gather here and those who come by bike gather there, which has nothing to do with the friendship established before. The past friendship can be recalled, but it is limited and cannot support the future development for a long time. The development of friendship in the future needs the docking of people from the same class. For this problem, we should realize that everyone's growth class will change, and we should make clear our position and try our best to move up.

Making friends is a process of influence and being influenced. Getting along with friends should have a positive impact on other people's ideas and behaviors. Everyone wants to be with happiness. Don't treat friends as "trash cans" for negative emotions. Over time, the "trash can" will leave you. Similarly, making friends also has the risk of being affected. Don't take yourself too "sacred" and gradually get away from bad friends. Don't think that you can transform others, or that you are an adult and know whether your actions are correct or not, but don't forget the influence of thoughts. A person with a bad hobby must have a problem with his thoughts, and the influence of his thoughts will slowly seep into our brains like moistening things silently. Therefore, to stay away from bad friends, especially when running a business, you need good personality support.

Find an excellent and successful person to be your mentor. We adults will be ashamed to say what we admire, and we will suppress our admiration. In fact, the object of worship in our youth is the driving force that affects our by going up one flight of stairs. He is our guiding light. Only by worshiping can people have the passion to struggle, which is not a symbol of naivety. John C. Maxwell, a famous American leadership expert, made a questionnaire survey of successful people.

These data may make you think. It is true that some people become leaders because their organizations have gone through some crises and they are forced to take responsibility. Another small group of people are born with this talent and ability, so that they can learn to lead themselves. But more than four fifths of people become leaders because they are influenced by the leaders around them. Only leaders can bring out leaders.

Choose a mentor you respect. This tutor not only has a successful career, but also has a pure personality, which makes you willing to follow the study, get along with him as much as possible, observe how he associates with people and learn how he thinks, and gradually you will have keen observation, correct thinking and a positive world outlook.

Pay moderate attention to yourself. Caring about friends' comments is actually a manifestation of our extreme concern for ourselves, which makes friends dislike or very eager for their affirmation. The fundamental reason is that we care more about ourselves than others and are too eager for others' return. How to relax your mind and really care about people from the heart, the key is to have a healthy mind, ignore any comments from others and work hard. Many people only worry about what others think of them, try their best to protect themselves from being taken advantage of and spend a lot of energy getting along with others. In fact, he cares about consolidating his rights and interests. One of my suggestions is not to take yourself too seriously.

Friendship is a resource that needs to be managed in advance. The degree of obtaining this resource depends on your investment in development and the recognition of the other party. In this link, in order to avoid over-exploitation of friends' resources, we can see that some people have been asking for it in various ways, which makes friends disgusted and leave you. From this perspective, the relationship resources of friends are not inexhaustible.

Keep a confident and peaceful attitude. As long as people make mistakes and people don't like you, business operators need to have this kind of peaceful attitude when interacting with friends. As long as they do it seriously, don't care about the evaluation around them. Evaluation depends not only on how you do it, but also on their understanding level.

So how do we adjust ourselves, expand our influence and manage our friends outside the enterprise? Here, I give you some specific suggestions:

Respect everyone you know. We may not like some people, we may disagree with some people's views, but we should respect others from the heart, which is reflected in caring for others, restraining ourselves and tolerating others. The differences between friends may just make up for our own shortcomings, so the premise of getting along with friends is tolerance. Many of our friends who do business take their habits in the company outside the workplace and get used to others listening everywhere, so that the types of people they contact are affected.

The harvest of thoughts is an important role of friends' communication. As business operators, we have a lot of troubles at work, and we need friends to enlighten us. Therefore, don't ignore friends who are beneficial to your ideological growth and have a leading role in your life path. Who you make friends with determines what kind of person you will become.

In fact, friends follow the principle of reciprocity, and they should not go beyond the scope of friendship in getting along. When you ask a friend for help, you should consider clearly in advance whether your friend is willing to do his best for you and whether your request will embarrass your friend, so it is very important not to speak easily.

Keep a moderate distance. Everyone always has his own private sphere and doesn't like outsiders to enter. Once he is too enthusiastic, he will make others feel disgusted. Two friends I know, once one of them celebrated his wife's birthday, and the other friend came uninvited, which disturbed the atmosphere of the other's private family dinner and aroused the antipathy of friends. The relationship between the two gradually alienated. Similarly, a person's friends are divided, and such friends often don't adapt to another kind of friends.

Communication between friends is managed by "heart". Friends are not always together. The key is to hang each other in your heart. Once I went to the north to give a lecture, I was invited by my classmates to a restaurant that recorded the traces of the 1960s, where newspapers of that era were sold. At this time, I remembered a friend's birthday, bought an old newspaper published that day and gave it to this distant friend to remind him of his birth. My friend was very moved to receive this inexpensive gift. Once when I was away on business, I passed a stall and saw a strange little wine bottle. Remembering that an old friend of mine has a hobby of collecting, I bought it for him. The key between friends is "remember". In fact, we have many ways to convey our feelings, such as holiday cards, birthday wishes, greeting calls and so on.

The friendship of friends is the savings based on their own abilities, so we can't ignore the usual accumulation. At the same time, friends will change with different stages.

As a business operator, being good at choosing friends is the key to success, being good at managing friends is the step to success, and being good at learning from successful people is the way to rapid growth.

Trilogy of success:

Listen to a successful person's speech, read his articles and learn from his success.

Make friends with successful people and imitate their success.

Attracting successful people to do things for you will help you to be more successful.

This is based on your desire for success and also depends on your accumulation of growth. The most important thing is that you deserve to be with success!