when we get to know people around us, we can only make a first impression through our first contact with him, and then we can gradually discover his true nature through further communication. However, if you want to survive in society, you must know how to hide and disguise your truest self, so that you can better show others a positive image. When we make friends, it is difficult to find the true side of each other. However, in the wine bar, we can judge his character by his behavior. After all, the wine bar is the most relaxing moment, and people's true temperament can be revealed.

When you find that the people around you have the following three behaviors, please be vigilant and don't get too close, because he is not worth your deep friendship.

1. People who keep urging people to drink wine but never drink it themselves

China is a country that advocates hospitality, and it is always a pleasure to have friends coming from afar. When entertaining guests, we always serve wine and delicacies to our friends and let them taste our wine warmly and politely, so in ancient times, "urging people to drink wine" was still synonymous with enthusiasm and courtesy.

In the current wine market, persuading people to drink has changed their taste, and people who persuade people to drink have become very shameful.

There is a colleague in the department who has a good relationship with me. She talks about everything with me and is like a sister. However, when I attended a wine party with her, I completely changed my mind about her.

In the department, most colleagues can't drink alcohol, especially female colleagues. However, as a Hakka, I can drink more, which is known to all. Once, in order to repay our company's assistance, the customer hosted a banquet and invited colleagues from all over the company to dinner. At the beginning of the dinner, the customer's boss came to propose a toast with a glass and said a lot of polite thanks to us. Then we all raised our teacups in return for not drinking.

Unexpectedly, my good colleague added, "Manager Chen, she is a Hakka and she is a good drinker." Later, she replaced the glass on the table with the teacup in my hand and motioned for me to drink with manager Chen. Suddenly, my face turned red. I explained that I couldn't drink because I was uncomfortable recently, but she kept echoing: "Where are you uncomfortable, drink quickly, and don't keep manager Chen waiting too long."

in this way, under her coaxing, manager Chen and I drank three glasses of wine in succession. I didn't expect that the person who kept urging me to drink at the wine shop was actually my best colleague. If true friends would advise not to drink too much, so as not to hurt themselves, then I would really recognize her face.

Then, the leaders of the client company came to propose a toast in succession. Under the leader's signal, everyone raised their glasses and took a representative sip. During the period, a client who worked with her took the initiative to find her for a drink. Unexpectedly, she pushed me out again and introduced to the client: "Come on, Mr. Li, you can find her when you drink. She is very good at drinking."

that night, my colleagues kept urging me to drink with my clients, but I never touched alcohol. Afterwards, I laughed at my good capacity for drinking, and I will be the representative to drink for her next time.

I am really speechless for this kind of colleague. When others make things difficult, they will only push me forward, while they are hiding in a safe corner to spy on all this. This selfish person is not worth making friends with.

2. Talk about other people's privacy in public

In a wine shop, if everyone drinks too much, they will become uncomfortable. Some people will sleep on their stomachs when they drink too much, while others will talk endlessly.

Brother Li of the department is a generous person, but his only shortcoming is his simpleness, and he likes the public to talk about other people's privacy. Once, leaders such as managers and supervisors were present at a department party. However, Brother Li, who was drunk, began to feel a sense of existence. In order to attract the attention of the leaders, he said drunkenly, "I'll tell you something. Do you know that Li Ming's girlfriend made a scene in the company?" Everyone was surprised, and Li Ming at the same table looked at Brother Li in horror and wanted to cover his mouth.

Then, Brother Li said drunkenly, "I said, Li Ming is such a bad boy that he bullied his little girl, and now he's dating another woman. What do you think?"

Some colleagues who like to listen to gossip heckled Brother Li to go on. Brother Li, who was flushed, talked about it and put all the private affairs of Li Ming and his girlfriend on the table, which made Li Ming feel ashamed.

In fact, Li Ming and Brother Li are good buddies, and Li Ming will tell Brother Li about his private affairs. I didn't expect Brother Li to make his private affairs public in order to show his presence in front of leaders and colleagues. Li Ming hated him and vowed not to associate with him from now on.

it is shameful for anyone to use other people's privacy to add words to himself. Consume the sincerity and trust of others, and finally you can only be reduced to a situation without friends.

Third, people who pretend to drink

I believe that everyone has the same experience. When others take the initiative to propose a toast to you, you only find that the other person's glass is boiled water after drinking it, which gives people a feeling of disrespect.

some people don't know how to drink, so they like to change their wine into boiled water, and they have to take the initiative to toast everywhere. In the end, it's not good to be found.

My colleague is allergic to alcohol. He can't drink, but he likes to show off and likes to raise his glass and ask people to toast everywhere. If he drinks white wine, he changes the wine into boiled water in advance, and if he drinks foreign wine, he changes the wine into tea. When he found someone else to clink glasses and drink, he also booed and drank three glasses together until he got others drunk.

In fact, drinking is a courtesy. When you take the initiative to propose a toast, it represents your sincerity. However, it is somewhat unreasonable to propose a toast to someone else's wine when you know that the glass is filled with tea. This kind of deceptive behavior is not worth advocating. You can show that you can't drink, but you respect each other very much. You can only drink tea instead of wine to show your gratitude. I believe others will feel your heart and sincerity when they hear this sincere words, and naturally they won't mind if you drink tea instead of wine.

Wine is like personality. When you find that people around you have the above three behaviors, you should be vigilant and don't get too close.