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"It is appropriate to make five friends."
Why is it appropriate to make friends with only five points? Some people say that you can make good friends without being sincere. I don't know if I can make sincere friends with five points, but friends with five points are definitely the most comfortable to get along with. Why do you say that? Listen to me slowly.

The ancients said that "a bucket of water will overflow if it is too full", which is absolutely not unreasonable.

I didn't know people didn't feel that way. When you get along with someone, you play together at first because you get along well with each other and get along comfortably. But with the passage of time, the relationship is not getting better and better, but because of more and more familiarity and more and more contradictions. This is because they are too familiar with each other and forget each other's principles and bottom line. Because they think they are having a good time and know each other well, they are becoming more and more casual, but they don't know it is precisely because of this growing nature. Push the friendship to the abyss step by step, and slowly say nothing to each other, so this leads to the girlfriends in the eyes of others, who can't say three words in private without anyone.

For example, my three college roommates happen to be interns in a company. Two of them live in a dormitory, and one lives in another room with someone who doesn't know the company. To outsiders, two roommates must have come out of the same school and got along happily together. However, the opposite is true. I often hear one of my two roommates complain to me:

"Do you know her? Don't go to bed early at seven or eight every day. I was going to bed at eleven o'clock, and she began to call, deliberately lowering her voice and telling the other roommate that she was asleep and couldn't talk, and then she didn't hang up ... "

"I don't clean every time, but complain about not cleaning every day. Sometimes I really want to say, wait until I do my job. "

"A chair and a table in the dormitory will be given to her as soon as she comes, as if she had written her name. At first, she knew to tell me, but later it became more and more natural. I had to climb a small stool to eat when she played games. "

And so on ... I sometimes ask her, why don't you just tell her? She said: "I don't want to say it, but sometimes it is suppressed. We all know each other so well, and we are all such big people. They don't want to be unhappy because of such a trivial matter. Besides, sometimes she can't hear you when you talk to her ... "

Then, on the other hand, another roommate who has no acquaintance lives together at first. Strangers may not be used to living together at first, but they get along almost. At other times, they do their own things, don't bother each other, and consider each other's feelings in everything they do, but they have a good time.

Therefore, friends and acquaintances are also a double-edged sword. On the one hand, they are familiar with each other, so you can talk about everything, but on the other hand, familiarity will also bring many contradictions. If I had to choose, I'd rather have ten friends with four or five points than one friend who knows each other well enough to forget the bottom line.