First, make time to make friends.
Many people who don't have any personal resources are always used to using the excuse that they don't have time to make friends, thinking that there are too many things that take up time in life. Although they want to make more friends, time is not allowed. In fact, as Mr. Lu Xun said, time is like sponge water, and there is always a squeeze. As long as you really want to make friends, there is always time. Moreover, many things that modern people call time-consuming are not as important as making friends. The most common is the time to brush the phone. If you save it, isn't it easy to make some friends?
Second, pay attention to small things.
Make friends, make friends Your personal resources are often not big things, but small things that friends contact. In those small things, for example, invite friends to dinner, call friends to say hello, help friends a little, and so on. Although it seems trivial, it is of great significance to deepen friendship and accumulate personal resources.
Third, take the initiative to open your heart
Although it is said that "it is necessary to guard against people", if you really see a person and want to make friends with him and make him your network resource, then don't be embarrassed, take the initiative and open your heart to the other person first, otherwise you will be too passive to expect others to make friends with you actively.
Fourth, tolerate the "shortcomings" of friends
No one is perfect, everyone has his own shortcomings. If you are too picky and can't tolerate any shortcomings of others, it is inevitable that there will be an embarrassment of "looking at no friends". Tolerance of friends' shortcomings, as long as it is not too much, will not touch your bottom line and principles, don't care too much, seeking common ground while reserving differences is the real way to make friends.
Fifth, try to help friends.
Although there is a saying in society that "helping is duty, not helping is duty", if you really want to make friends and make them your personal resources, you should try your best to help your friends, and it is best to remember what you got from them and forget what you paid. In this way, you will have more and more friends, and your network resources will be wider and wider.
Ask a friend to help you.
Friendship is interaction. We should not only try our best to help our friends, but also not be too open-minded. We should ask our friends for help generously, and don't be afraid to trouble them. Remember a sentence, "a good relationship is trouble." Giving is more important than getting, but if you just give, how can your friends be your personal resources?
Seven, actively contact with friends.
A friend is a friend. No matter how good a friend is, feelings will fade if you don't contact for a long time. So be sure to keep in touch with friends actively, don't be too utilitarian, and don't wait until you need friends, which won't help turn friends into your personal resources. Some people say that relationships are like knives. If you grind them often, they won't rust. If you don't keep in touch with your friend, you will actually lose this friend.
Eight, regular emotional investment.
I don't know if you have ever felt this way. When you are in trouble and want to ask a friend for help, it suddenly occurred to you that many times before, you could have stopped by to see your friend, but when you didn't go, or when your friend asked for you, you always acted very cold. At this time, if you tell your friends again, you will always worry that your friends will refuse, and you will inevitably regret not burning incense at ordinary times.
Modern people's lives are really busy, but no matter how busy they are, don't forget to make emotional investments regularly. Making connections is actually the same, just like depositing money in a bank. The more deposits, the higher the return, and the same is true of emotional investment.