Sadly, although she has a husband, a son and a daughter, she usually does many good deeds. Yes, there are only four people in family of origin, but they live in different cities. My father lived in the mainland for a long time because of his career, and my brother followed in his footsteps and worked in different provinces on the other side. I have been working in Taipei since graduation. Taipei and Taichung each occupy half of my life, and the time that our family can be separated in a year can be counted by the five fingers of one palm.
My mother can take care of herself when she is in good health on weekdays. It is necessary for me to make a regular phone call every day, and commuting to and from Taichung on weekends is also a regular frequency in my life. However, what I am most afraid of is that my mobile phone suddenly reminds me that the caller ID is my mother's number, because that means my mother is suddenly ill! Once at eight o'clock in the evening, my mother's crying voice came from the other end of the phone: "Sister, can you come back now?" Mom has a fever ... "After explaining to her husband, she said to her mother at the other end of the phone," No problem! I'll go home at once! I immediately transferred to the high-speed train by MRT and returned to my home in Taichung. I thanked my cousin who was at home with my mother, and I saw that my mother's eyes were full of tears because of her high fever and weakness. After noon the next day, I saw that my mother was in a stable mood and quickly took the high-speed train back to work in Taipei.
I still remember when the high-speed railway was first opened to traffic. After I got on the platform, I thought the bus hadn't arrived yet, so I sat on the platform and had a rest. Later, I was scared out of my mind with a beep. It turns out that the high-speed train car is already behind me, and the beep is a warning that the door is about to close. Even if I tried to rush to the door, it was too late. I watched in chagrin as the car door closed in front of my eyes. What a big door! The platform guard comforted me and said, "There are many trains. Just take the next flight. But what I don't understand is that I'm too tired to hear the high-speed train coming into the station and the broadcast behind me.
Impressed, I asked my mother for leave in advance. Because I am busy at work, I want to stay in Taipei for rest on weekends, but at 9 o'clock on Saturday morning, my mother whispered, "Sister, my mother is sick!" " Please spend the night with me last night. Can you come back? I cried and told my mother that I would go home at once. Coaxed the young child and said, "grandma is ill, let's go home and see her!" " When I arrived in high-speed railway station, I saw a long queue of ticket buyers. Even if I am worried, I still try to book tickets online with my smartphone first, and then go to the online ticket machine where there are relatively few people to pick up the tickets. Then I said to the high-speed rail staff, "Sorry, my shift was two hours late, but my mother was ill.". Can you give me a ride first? " Thanks to the high-speed rail staff's understanding and quick shift change, I was able to return to China quickly. Thanks to my relatives who stayed with my mother all night, I helped my mother cook porridge and read "Why didn't you tell me last night?"? ! "Mom whispered," I think you are too tired from work. See if you will get better today, so I won't bother you ... "The mother and daughter looked at each other with tears.
On Sunday afternoon, my mother was still too weak to get up. I contacted my husband by phone. I want to stay in taichung with my mother. My husband said that he could come to Taichung and take the children back to Taipei first ... My mother always said, "Don't bother, just go back, I can do it myself." I said to my mother, "How can I just leave?" Those are tears that can't stop. Fortunately, a single friend of my mother came to see me in the evening. I crustily skin of head and asked, "Aunt, my mother is not feeling well. Can you please stay with her for one night? " "Aunt agreed. ...
I am very grateful to my relatives and friends in Taichung for their help in these experiences, and I have not considered moving my mother to Taipei, but my mother insists that everything is fine at ordinary times. I have been thinking about it with guilt, and every time I give trouble to my relatives and friends. However, I am in Taipei, and there seems to be no way to provide a reciprocal return except for repeated thanks.
Until I saw the development of a dating website company in Digital Weekly, it suddenly occurred to me that if I find someone like me, but my work place and home have just changed, for example, the other person used to live in Taipei but works in Taichung, can we exchange concerns? Actually, I don't need substantive care. What I need is that when I can't go back to Taichung this weekend because of overtime, the other party can help me to see my mother and talk to her! Then I can also provide the same emotional support for each other's parents after work on weekends; My mother suddenly fell ill. The other party can help me go home to see what help my mother needs before I go back to Taichung. Call me and tell me that he/she has taken care of it first. I don't need to panic. Of course, in order to avoid fraud groups, I have to meet first, make sure that both sides can provide each other with necessary assistance, and then introduce my parents to each other, much like a dating website, but the purpose is not to make friends, but to exchange concerns.
In fact, such an organization has been established in North America. It's a support group set up by 10 good friends in real life. Among them are divorced single mothers who need to take care of two teenagers, and friends who have been diagnosed with cancer need to take care of them. Because of their work, they know each other's care needs and are willing to help each other when they need it. The website "Sharing Care" not only has many stories of caring people, but also has a well-made teaching manual to guide everyone how to form a caring exchange group, but unlike my own needs, there is no caring exchange in different places! I think, in Taiwan Province Province, there are not a few people who have to leave their hometown to work like me, but they are worried about their hometown mothers (a nice old term). Would you like to exchange care with me?
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