"Which handsome guy doesn't love, which girl doesn't love spring?" It is a normal phenomenon that teenagers have a vague curiosity and yearning for the opposite sex after entering adolescence. What's more, today's high school students, because they grew up alone, are eager to have a good person to talk to and solve their troubles and academic confusion. To this end, they hope to find a sincere friendship between male and female students on campus, a purest feeling based entirely on the natural attraction of both sexes. Therefore, as a teacher, how to deal with the "budding" phenomenon of boys and girls' emotions can be described as an "art". Typical case: they are very much in love in public in the street. They are the League branch secretaries of Class One, Grade Three, in a middle school. They are not only excellent in personality and study, but also handsome, and they have sweet dimples when they smile, which is very pleasing. During this time, Li was a little absent-minded, but her grades and performance were still excellent. The man sitting next to Li is tall and handsome, but he does too much mischief in class and his grades are sometimes good and bad. The teacher intended to let Li be driven by his study and discipline, but after two months, his grades fell instead of rising, and his classmates dismissed rumors: "Teacher, they are in love." At the class meeting, my head teacher read an essay entitled "Always Here" in front of the whole class, telling the students: "Because you are too young and fragile, your tender shoulders can't bear too much social and responsible love burden, so the relationship between boys and girls in high school should be like a crystal clear stream, and no one should stir up the whole stream first." From the eyes of my classmates, I feel that they think my education method is euphemistic and timely. A few days later, on my way home from work, I suddenly found a pair of students in school uniforms playing kissing in front of me. I looked intently: It was Sally and Xiao Wei in my class! At this time, they also found me. Li blushed and was at a loss. They stared and waited nervously for my criticism, but I jumped in the car and left. On the second and third days, their feelings of anxiety and pain were self-evident. As long as it is my class, Sally and Xiao Wei either keep their heads down or dare not look at me. After several days of cold treatment, I didn't talk to them. At a class meeting, I want to brainstorm with my classmates' wisdom and let the whole class discuss: "The way we make friends in China, especially between men and women." Some students said: "China is a country of etiquette, and we have always paid attention to' a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water'"; Some people say: "China people are not as frank and straightforward as westerners in making friends, while orientals have a graceful beauty"; Some students also quoted "after dusk, the willow shoots on the moon" to explain that it is an implicit thing for men and women to meet and invite each other. At this time, I felt that the time was ripe, so I said, "How would you feel if you saw young men and women cuddling in public?" Some students said: "it is against etiquette and pollutes others' sight"; Some students also said: "society is open, they do their thing, and we choose to avoid it." I further pointed out: "What if high school students in school uniforms are very much in love in the street?" Some students rushed to say, "it is detrimental to the image of our high school students"; Some students also pointed out: "High school students should rationally control their own behavior and should not do anything wrong at our age." At this time, the eyes of these two classmates let me know that they are deeply guilty of their actions. Afterwards, Li told me frankly in her weekly diary: "Thank you, teacher, for giving me a dignity and a secret that I will keep in my heart forever." Will precocious fruit be sweet? The answer is no. But more and more love fruits in life blossom and bear fruit in the season when they shouldn't, and I am one of them. Perhaps in "Seeds of Love", I am filled with too many curious fantasies about this beautiful world, and I can't wait to try to find the other half of my life in order to entrust our lonely and empty feelings as an only child. Teacher, your intention is very good. From beginning to end, you didn't criticize me, but it made me feel worse than criticizing me, because you taught me deeply in this euphemistic way: I tasted bitter fruit. To tell the truth, my troubles and anxieties shattered the so-called beauty of love in my imagination. Besides, I am the League Secretary in my class, so I should be strict with myself. I really regret it now "Later, their communication gradually returned to normal. After that, Li Daxue graduated and worked in a securities company. She performed very well and was rated as "excellent female employee". Every year on Teachers' Day, she sends me a bunch of beautiful flowers. Xiao Wei plans to study abroad after graduating from Shanghai Jiaotong University majoring in computer management. Suggest countermeasures and collect the most romantic things. Many young students started what they thought was "first love" when they were students. First love is both exciting and confusing, even bitter and expensive. If there is such intimate behavior as Li He, or if they really taste the forbidden fruit, then a little reprimand from parents and teachers may lead to accidents. Therefore, what they need most is tolerance, understanding, care and timely and appropriate guidance from teachers and parents. I believe that through this swamp of youth, there is a blue sky ahead. [To Parents] Parents may wish to have a heart-to-heart talk with their children about "puppy love". Son, you look forward to the nourishment of love, but this love may be a storm. Can you stand the test? Can your tender shoulders really bear the weight of love? First love is really tempting, but you should know that romantic things are often ethereal. Son, why don't you collect the most romantic things? [To Adolescent Students] With the advent of adolescence, boys and girls will have some special emotional experiences, which are driven by the germination of sexual consciousness, but it looks beautiful, like white clouds in the blue sky, but it floats with the wind. In the face of life, sometimes we need to endure some premature desires and some dreams that can't be realized for the time being. As Li said in the article, "What I tasted was bitter fruit. "A period of trouble and anxiety shattered the so-called beauty of love in my imagination." [Mind Self-help Training Camp] Love is not a game. If high school students want to get involved in the field of love in the student stage, they may wish to see if they are ready or suitable for falling in love through the following self-test. Check the following items next to the items you agree to. () Do I know myself? () Can I tell my ideals, goals, personality, advantages and disadvantages? () Do I have the ability to handle problems independently? () Do I have the courage to face difficulties and take responsibility? () Do I know how to accept and appreciate myself and others? () Have my thoughts and behaviors matured? () Am I willing to make contributions and sacrifices for the people I love? () Do I know how to love and care for others? () Do I have enough financial ability to support the cost of love? Conclusion: () I am not suitable for dating yet, and I must improve myself first. () You can fall in love now, but you still need to listen to the opinions of the old people. () I haven't figured it out yet. I need to think it over. (Author: □ Shangnan Middle School Psychological Counseling Center Xiaoqing Sun) Praise