It is better to follow the trend than to change each other. No matter whether you cooperate with your elders or peers, you can't get rid of the established impression. Any cooperation begins with the prejudice of both sides. Don't try to change the behavior of your elders, it will be a bit unrealistic. You can't change your parents, so how can you expect to change your partner! What we should do is to accept and try to understand the differences between different generations. As long as it doesn't hinder the smooth achievement of things, let the other party "be yourself".
I don't know how to make friends with old school friends. Then break the deadlock by sharing food! In the initial stage of cooperation, both sides are mostly in a wait-and-see state, leaving the idea that you are shy or afraid of your elders and taking the lead in extending a hand of friendship. First, observe how he likes to be called, call him by the name he expects, whether it is big sister, big brother, English name or title, understand the motivation behind his desire to be called like this, and maintain respect.
Try to find out the same language or common narrative words, especially Taiwanese, Mandarin, Hakka and Aboriginal languages, and practice a few more words to enhance affinity instantly.
If you still feel a little inaccessible, then food is the best way to break the ice. Share fresh-cut fruits and hometown snacks, such as steamed stuffed buns and dried fruits, open a friendly bridge in a simple and old-fashioned way, and become friends as soon as you eat them.
The love of food is regardless of age, and food is a good medium to build a bridge of friendship quickly. )
Persuade with actions, which is serious and popular. Facing partners of different ages and different working environments, we should put aside age and return to the essence of work, and regard mutual respect and achieving goals as the highest principle of getting along. The established impression of elders on young people is divided into "strawberry family" and "promising youth", so the first secret of initial cooperation is to spend more time being classified as "promising youth" by them in a quiet mode, which will help you get twice the result with half the effort.
The so-called humility mode is that you are polite but show some professional persistence. Your elders have lived to this age and seen all kinds of grandiose performances. On the contrary, a low-key but persistent approach can make them agree with your major. Once a serious impression is anchored, they will be more willing to help with their heart and efforts.
Never think: you will do it. He may sometimes meet an elder who agrees but things are delayed, or you can just let him refuse you. There may be other reasons behind this, such as he is stuck in a certain process or his own scientific and technological ability is limited. Grasping the root cause can effectively solve the problem. After all, courage is not only the patent of elders, it may also happen to you and me.
In the early communication work or cooperation project, if it involves scientific and technological operation, put some small test checkpoints in advance, such as asking him to add your line, form a group, share photos, see if he is familiar with the operation, whether he has an email address, whether he can fill out Excel forms and so on. , and confirm some capabilities related to the following cooperation contents. Knowing your elders' scientific and technological ability in advance will help you to communicate in the future, and also help you decide whether to use google form, email or fax for data transmission, and whether to communicate by telephone or line.
In any case, we still suggest that science and technology should be combined with traditional methods. In the process of cooperation, we should arrange several confirmation opportunities, ask which party needs assistance actively, and teach the secrets of operating scientific and technological products through exchange teaching. If you still don't understand this situation, why the elders won't or resist such simple technical operation, then remind yourself that the elders used abacus when they were young.
Time should be arranged so that he can speak freely. It is important to arrange for everyone to speak freely, speak slowly and listen more, because the elders will have a lot of experience to pass on and share! It is suggested to set a time for expression and sharing before cooperation. If it happened later, it would be more difficult to clean up after something went wrong. Be sure to let the elders speak their minds before the task begins.
If there are some suitable parts, inviting them to participate in the change directly in the follow-up practice can enhance self-confidence and centripetal force for the task. Another purpose of this sharing period is to clarify the cooperation expectations of both parties and unify their cognition.
Please remember that "listening" is to understand each other, not to answer. Don't explain or overturn ideas in a hurry. Trying to understand the motivation behind the speaker will be of great help to future cooperation. Everyone's thoughts are based on different experiences or values. The elder always said that he ate more salt than you did. This is an indisputable fact, so his thinking level is more complicated. Sometimes, it's not that the two sides can't communicate, they just have their own opinions. At this time, handle the feelings first and then solve things, take a step back and think about each other's feelings, and then communicate slowly according to his expectations.
Clear code of conduct and goals First of all, working with seniors and sisters is just like doing things in schools and companies. Just because you are a junior doesn't mean you need to give in to everything. Remember to regard "respect" as the biggest criterion of attitude and behavior. Don't ignore the cognitive gap caused by the generation gap. You must repeatedly confirm whether you have * * * knowledge of mission objectives and behavior guidelines, and understand where the scope of the "framework" is, what can and can't be.
When working with team members with a large generation gap in the early stage, clear working principles should be given when assigning tasks, leaving no vague space, avoiding off-line performance and increasing the cost of follow-up communication and coordination. At the end of the task, give sincere encouragement, make members feel a sense of accomplishment, and strengthen positive behavior at the same time. Please always be kind to any elder who is willing to cooperate with young people, because he may also adjust himself with efforts beyond your imagination.
It is absolutely necessary to have a clear division of labor, respect different work assignments, evaluate the characteristics of members and the projects they are good at, and appropriately authorize them, especially in front of elders. Don't give an elder a task that he is completely unfamiliar with his past life experience, and respect his ability accumulation. Even though he may sometimes try to lead the overall situation with his past experience, please regard this as human nature, respect, listen and make a final decision, and don't forget to thank him for his advice whether he adopts it or not.
A clear division of responsibilities can effectively reduce the pressure on both parties and ensure that both parties can be fully authorized under a certain framework. Sometimes, the operation method may be different, but as long as the goal can be achieved smoothly, it is possible to produce new ways of cooperation.
Paying attention to physical limitations is a necessary consideration for partners to cooperate with their elders, and physical condition is a necessary factor to be considered. To understand the possible physical weakness of elders, it may be necessary to give them more reaction time, and the word level of the document needs to be improved to make them easier to read and sometimes unable to arrange physical tasks. We need to pay more attention to their physical condition and protect their self-esteem.
The content distribution of cooperation should not highlight the weak parts of elders, or deliberately reduce their workload to avoid making them feel discriminated against. If you encounter barriers caused by physical obstacles, you must give back in an encouraging way to reduce depression.
The cooperation between the two generations driven by all the ceremonies enjoyed by * * * will inevitably produce many sparks and * * *. Due to the limitation of language and background, it is relatively difficult to establish a sense of belonging in the early stage of integration. We can try to create an interesting ceremony. * * * team ceremony can strengthen the sense of belonging of different partners and reduce the anxiety of elders and younger generations in the face of differences.
(* * * Enjoy the photo ceremony, sometimes it makes people shy, but it can quickly unite the team. )
Smile is the universal language. In addition to the above nine items, there is another secret trick: a sincere smile. Pay more attention to your facial expression Sincere smile from the heart is the most important small link in cooperation. If the situation permits, try to hug, hug and shake hands, as if you were his children and grandchildren or a forgotten friend, and let the elders agree with you, and everything can be solved satisfactorily.
A cheerful and friendly attitude is the key to the cooperation between Qingdao and Baiyin. )
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