Why doesn't a person often chat with the opposite sex after marriage? 1, maintain a marriage relationship with the opposite sex, and the other half will care, which will affect your relationship. I saw an interactive question and answer on Zhihu. A netizen teased his wife who had been married for less than a year. Unexpectedly, I found that my wife still maintained a marriage relationship with her heterosexual friends after marriage, and even forwarded all her chat topics to her heterosexual friends. This netizen is very sad. He and his wife once told her to distance herself from friends of the opposite sex, but instead of doing so, she had a big fight with him. What did she mean when she said that she would break off contact with all her friends of the opposite sex after marriage?

In fact, what this netizen wants to express is not that his wife and friends of the opposite sex can't get along. After all, everyone has the right to make friends, whether they are heterosexual friends or gay men, as long as the relationship is ok. However, the netizen's wife didn't care about the distance when she made friends with the opposite sex. She is married, even cuddling with friends of the opposite sex and even going to bars with friends of the opposite sex in the middle of the night. What this netizen can't accept is that his wife actually told her friends of the opposite sex every problem between them.

Put yourself in others' shoes. My other half has always maintained this intimate relationship with friends of the opposite sex. Maybe you can be open-minded enough not to care about anything. Two people together. However, the premise of falling in love is to trust each other and learn to keep a degree in words and actions. Especially when dealing with the opposite sex, even if you are married, it is recommended to keep a certain distance, so as to reassure the other half and not affect the emotional connection between you.

2. Being too close to friends of the opposite sex is easy to create an illusion that you like. Many married people cheat after marriage. The bigger reason is that they form an illusion that they like when they are in contact with the opposite sex. I thought that I loved each other, mostly because I got along with each other, and I formed an illusion psychologically, and finally I was wrong. In most heterosexual contacts, we can chat with the opposite sex and are bosom friends. To a certain extent, we have tacit cooperation in many aspects.

This kind of tacit cooperation is well hidden in itself, if you have always maintained a good relationship with each other. The tacit understanding will gradually become like in the long-term fermentation. Most of the feelings between friends of the opposite sex are generated like that. Frequent chatting and sharing of daily life will unconsciously lead to a state of dependence. Once the psychological state of dependence is caused, the goodwill between each other will follow.

Especially for married people, marriage and family are not very satisfactory. Or often have conflicts with the other half. If you get along well with friends of the opposite sex at this time, you will tell them even if something happens. Gradually, you will become interested in the other half, and gradually fall into it, causing the illusion of love.