2010-03-31 21:34:10 From: Big Glasses (passing through this life, cutting off delusions)

No matter how smart or capable a person is, no matter what background conditions he has Well, if you don't know how to behave and do things,

then his final outcome will definitely be failure. Being a person and doing things is an art, and it is also a knowledge. The reason why many people spend their entire lives doing nothing is because they have never figured out how to behave and do things.

Everyone living in the real society is eager for success, and many people with lofty ideals have paid a lot for their dreams, but received very little. The question cannot help but arouse people's deep thinking: You can't say that they are not working hard enough or hardworking enough, but why do they end up with nothing accomplished? This is worthy of serious consideration by each of us

On the surface, it seems very simple to be a human being and do things. Who wouldn’t? In fact, it is not the case. For example, if you become a teacher

, your subjective desire is to be a good teacher, but in fact you are not popular among students; when you go into business, your subjective desire is to make money

It was a lot of money, but it was lost. Put aside these surface phenomena and explore the crux of the problem, and you will find that doing things is indeed a difficult knowledge to master.

It can be said that being a person and doing things is a science that involves all aspects of real life. It is impossible to get a full picture by studying just any aspect

. To master this knowledge and grasp its essence, we must refine and summarize real life and draw some laws of universal significance so that people can have rules to follow and not get confused. No emotion.

Understand one idiom and you will benefit from it throughout your life!

1. The secret of social interaction - teaching you how to build a successful career

(1) The secret of "modesty"

The only word "modesty" is the best in life. If Being arrogant and arrogant will only lead to losing the fundamentals of life and ending up in a state of loneliness and infamy.

1. Don’t be arrogant

2. Don’t get carried away when you are proud

3. Don’t boast about your abilities

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(2) "Lan" word tactic

When dealing with people, making friends, and dealing with snobbishness, it seems that there is no need to be too demanding, and the word "Lan" should be the first thing to do. If you take a more relaxed view

and take a more open view, life will suddenly become brighter and more enjoyable.

Just like "the plainness is the truth".

1. The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water

2. Take a short look at life and treat life well

3. Be indifferent and clear your ambitions, and don’t let fame and wealth cover your eyes.

4. Reduce desires and satisfy the soul

(3) The word "frugal"

Those who do not understand the word "frugal" do not know how to succeed. Any success A career depends on the accumulation of bits and pieces; those who do not understand the word "frugality" will only lose their success, and excessive arrogance will often ruin their quality.

"Frugality cultivates virtue" is a good lesson in doing things for others.

1. Start by saving living expenses

2. "Being poor and generous" is not advisable

3. Beware of abnormal frugality: stinginess

4. Don’t be tainted by your desires, and cultivate virtue through frugality

(4) The word "自"

Be a person with personality and give yourself a little confidence! The road to success is your own, and a bright future comes from self-reliance.

Be self-reliant, do not succumb to any authority, and use your own efforts to find your own self-esteem.

When a man establishes his life, he makes his own decision!

1. Self-improvement and self-reliance are bound to succeed

2. Taste all aspects of life independently

3. Use yourself to challenge authority

4. Self-confidence - let the winds blow from east to west and north to west

(5) "Etiquette"

Be born in a land of etiquette and be a polite person. A polite person is a good person, popular and has many friends. A polite person

knows how to do things, pays attention to image, is well-educated, does not make enemies, and everything goes smoothly on the road to success.

1. Treat others with courtesy

2. Be polite and polite to many people.

3. Pay attention to etiquette and dress to give people a good impression

(6) The word "zheng"

Be an upright person, a person with a sound and perfect personality, and be respected by others. Being a selfish person, doing things that deceive one's heart

and taking precautions against the virtuous will have no chance of success.

1. Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you

2. Jealousy is a taboo for upright people

3. Don’t do anything to deceive yourself. It is a kind of pleasure

2. Image-shaping secrets - teach you elegance

(7) "Zhi" secrets

Give yourself enough A long lever that wants to turn the earth. Make a wish for your life, set a goal,

Set up an idol, be down-to-earth, the awareness of success needs to be cultivated, first make a determination, and then date with success.

1. Measure your virtues and measure your abilities, and build your character by your will

2. Determine first, then there will be hope if you have the will

3. Cultivate a sense of success: Determine to be the king

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4. Set up idols and change yourself

(8) The word "time"

Be a person who cherishes time and be punctual in doing things. To shape their own image, modern people cannot do without the concept of time. Arrange your time

reasonably, use your time effectively, be punctual, cherish time, and do not procrastinate.

Remember: time is money.

1. One second is worth tens of thousands of gold

2. Don’t ignore your spare time

3. Stealing other people’s time is equal to murder

< p>4. Do things according to importance and make more effective use of time

(9) The word "diligence"

The more effort you have, the more chances of success you will have. Countless facts prove that the shortest way to success is diligence. Don't just talk

Don't be lazy, don't be industrious, put diligence first, God will pay off, and God will reward those who work hard!

1. The shortest way to success: Diligence

2. More efforts, more opportunities

3. Diligence in action is better than diligence in words

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(10) The word "practical"

Be a down-to-earth person and do things in a down-to-earth manner. No one can climb the ladder of success with his hands in his pockets.

Leave a real image to others, add a solid foundation for your own success, proceed from reality, and be responsible for yourself.

1. Dedication is the guarantee of success for a doer

2. Do every job well

3. People who put their hands in their pockets, Can't Climb the Ladder of Success

(11) The word "Expert"

Only when you have expertise can you have perseverance, and only when you have perseverance can you have yourself.

You live in an era of knowledge explosion. If you are a genius, not concentrating will be your misfortune; if

you have ordinary qualifications, please don’t be pessimistic, as long as you Determine to do one thing well in your life, and you will succeed. Young people, don't leave an image of being fast and hasty.

1. Put all your eggs in one basket

2. To be versatile, there is no better way to develop a "unique hidden weapon"

3. To be single-minded, let your disadvantages change Become an advantage

(12) The word "caution"

Life is long and short, and the key is just a few steps. In the jungle of human nature, there are many benefits and temptations in the workplace.

You should not be afraid of too much when you are old. You should think twice about everything. Don’t be afraid of 10,000, just be afraid of the unexpected. Once you reach out to the wrong person, get into the wrong line, or do the wrong thing, your reputation, career, and image will all be in danger.

Be careful!

1. Don’t get into the wrong profession

2. Think about it before you “jump”

3. Don’t act hastily

3. Self-improvement tips - teach you how to save your destiny

(Thirteen) "Hard" tips

Being a person is difficult, doing things is difficult, and in the face of thousands of difficulties and obstacles, you must How can we improve ourselves without doing something "hard"? If something is forced

, you should dare to say "no"; if it is a legitimate interest, you should be merciful; even sometimes you have to be a bit aggressive,

You must have" There are times when you are "thick-skinned" and you also have times when you are "tough-skinned".

1. Rejection is an art

2. Don’t be polite if it’s my turn

3. The power of anger

4 , Be shameless and do things with a tough head

(14) "Little" tactic

The owner of a seafood chain restaurant probably worked in the aquatic products market, and a family The owner of a leather shoe chain store

Maybe he was a shoe shiner at first. If you want to do big things and make big money, you must first do small things, make small money, put down your arrogance, and give up small profits.

Start with the details, first sweep the house, and then the world!

1. If you don’t sweep one house, how can you sweep the world?

2. Do small things first and make small money

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(15) The word "Rui"

The little sparrows are flying and jumping, racing against time, constantly looking for food. The same is true in life. In the face of cruel competition,

You can only forge ahead, be a good pioneer, set the next goal as your goal, dare to take risks, dare to venture, and wait for the rabbit.

Things will happen after all. Very slim.

1. Don’t be satisfied with current achievements

2. Pursue with determination and never back down

3. Don’t throw away your energy, success will come sooner or later

(16) The word "create"

To improve oneself, one must have the courage and knowledge to surpass oneself. What is transcendence? Transcendence means trying too hard and innovating. At the same time

Innovation means taking risks, the so-called wealth is gained through risk. Thinking about things that others can't think of, doing things that others dare not do, and daring to be the first in the world,

lies in the transformation of thinking.

1. Dare to be the first in the world

2. Creativity that breaks the rules

3. Miracles can be created even if others abandon me and I take them

4. The offensive and defensive methods of reverse thinking

(17) "Tong" tactic

If you are poor, you will think about change, and if you change, you will be able to communicate. Those who understand current affairs are heroes, and those who adapt to changes are heroes. There is not one path to success, so why hang yourself from a tree? Seize the key to success. If the east is not bright, the west is bright. No matter it is a black cat or a white cat, the most important thing is whether it can catch "rats".

1. Cleverly adapt to changes

2. All roads lead to Rome

3. Success lies in generality, and generalists will win

< p>(18) The word "yan"

Giving praise to others is like giving food to a hungry beggar. Throughout the ages, countless people have changed their ordinary destiny with their

gold tongue. Speak humorously and find the same language... One word "Word" will last a lifetime

1. Find topics that suit others

2. Compliment is the best "lubricant"

3. Successful life, humor and wit

4. "Buzzwords" add color to your appearance

4. Interpersonal interaction tips - teach you to win friends

(19) "Kuan" tips

Interpersonal interactions should focus on the future and not dwell on the past. Forgiving others is the best way to treat yourself - being angry for your enemies only hurts you. When doing things, don't be too narrow-minded.

The sea embraces all rivers, relying on a tolerant heart

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1. Forgive your enemies

2. Be tolerant and achieve success

3. Be willing to forget and not remember old evils

（ 20) The word "harmony"

In a sea of ??people, if we don't want to be isolated, then let's learn how to get along with others! The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds.

You are not required to like everyone, but at the same time, there is no best person in the world.

Harmony is valuable, so we must leave steps for each other and give face to each other.

1. Think about others and pave the way for yourself

2. If you save face for others, others will do good things for you

3. The way of husband and wife is also He Yizhi

(Twenty-one) The word "trust"

How many people trust you, how many chances of success you have. What is "trust"? Trust is a kind of personality power

It is a friendship that transcends money, it is understanding, appreciation, and overcoming, and it is irreversible. Therefore, what you say must be done, and what you do

must be resounding. Help if you can, but don’t promise easily!

1. Help when you can, don’t make promises easily

2. Keep your word and be principled

3. Be a person before you do, and be a person first Obtaining trust

4. The cornerstone of credibility, life and death friendship

(Twenty-two) "Help" tactic

"The good wind will send me to the sky with its power." . Interpersonal communication, mutual benefit. Helping others is a favor for yourself

Credit Card Savings, especially lending a helping hand to people in times of trouble and rescuing heroes in distress. If you sincerely help others, the rewards will be self-evident.

1. Help others to get rich, and you will benefit yourself

2. With good wind, you can reach the sky by borrowing a ladder

3. Seize the opportunity and help others

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(Twenty-three) The word "respect"

People want face and trees want skin. People exist in society and have to play various roles, especially in interactions with each other.

They need a certain degree of dignity to support them. This is a weakness of human nature. Only after understanding this can we realize the necessity of the word "respect".

1. Be taboo for your superiors and taboo for your superiors

2. Don’t talk about your pride in front of frustrated people

3. Respect each other’s "sparkling points" "

(Twenty-four) The word "friend"

Human relationships are warm and cold, the world is hot and cold, and ordinary friends live their lives normally. When making friends, you should not be eager for quick success and quick gains. When investing in friendship, it is better to take a long-term approach. Worship the cold temple, burn the cold stove, and burn more incense. Even just a few words of greeting are the ways to make friends.

1. Burn incense when you are free, and there will be help when you are in an emergency

2. Friendship investment should be long-term

3. Worship the cold temple and burn the cold stove. Handing over to heroes in trouble

5. The secret to overcoming difficulties - teaching you to be relaxed and happy

(Twenty-five) The secret to "firmness"

Facing setbacks In the face of difficulties, remember Churchill's famous saying: "Never, never, never give up!" In fact, there is no such thing as luck in the world. Even if there is, it is the result of persistence. For the final victory, we should face all kinds of temporary humiliations with perseverance and perseverance, and we should not give up until we reach the Yellow River!

1. Accumulate and endure loneliness

2. Whoever laughs last will laugh the sweetest

3. Persistently pursue and never give up

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4. I will not give up until I reach the Yellow River

(Twenty-six) The word "strategize"

There are confusions in life and difficulties in doing things. Faced with "mountains and rivers", "To reach this level, a strong will is not enough, nor is it possible to break through it

hardly. Solving problems relies on the brain. The brain generates thinking, allows thinking to be powerful, and solves problems easily in unexpected places.

1. A clever woman can make a meal without rice

2. From "the mountain is heavy and the river is heavy" to "the flower is bright"

3. The power of thinking

< p>(Twenty-seven) "Qu" word formula

To get rid of the dilemma of people and things, it is inevitable to ask for others, and it is inevitable to be humble when asking for others, but focus on future success

Gong, even if you live like a cockroach, you should not hesitate, Feng Shui will take turns after all. Put down your arrogance, bend when you need to, be able to bend

Be able to stretch, and be a hero if you bend to stretch!

1. Live like a cockroach

2. Put down your body, the road is ahead

3. You respect me one foot, and I respect you one foot

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4. A low-level person who "submits" will not die

(28) The word "quiet"

"Don't break out in silence, just stay in silence Destroy! "When encountering big things, you need to be calm. Calmness is a state, a kind of tolerance, and a kind of cultivation. Making a calm decision is often the best way to get out of trouble. At the same time, calmness is also a kind of wisdom.

Be patient and wait for changes, and win in chaos!

1. Turn a cold bench into a manager's chair

2. A calm mind leads to wisdom, and wisdom leads to success

3. Be calm and content with yourself

4. Only by being calm can you become a great person

(Twenty-nine) "Happiness" word formula

There are no absolutely happy people in the world, only hearts that are unwilling to be happy. Life is short, instead of being anxious about everything, it is better to be silent.

Remember, success starts with a smile. Things often go wrong in life. Be optimistic, create your own happiness, and learn to solve problems easily.

1. Success starts with a smile

2. Learn to create happiness

3. Learn to solve problems easily and happily

4. There is no absolute happy person, only a heart that refuses to be happy

(Thirty) "Reliance" word tactic

Life does not wait and does not depend, yes, pie in the sky will not fall People will starve to death, but it’s not enough if they can’t rely on them at all. Relatives, friends, classmates, and fellow villagers are a kind of "human resources". , it doesn’t depend on creating

conditions but also depends on it!

1. Let your friends be your support

2. Rely on your fellow villagers when you are in trouble

3. Relatives and relatives, the closer you go

Learn like an owl, open one eye and close one eye. You say I'm confused, but I'm not stupid! It’s just that things in the world are constantly changing. It’s difficult to create a career and lose money quickly. People say that when the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people observe it carefully, there will be no disciples. The truth is, being wise protects oneself. Great wisdom often leads to great fools.

There are many smart people, and the word "foolish" is very rare!

1. Foolish people are always smart

2. Don’t think you are smarter than others

3. Don’t take things too seriously

4. Who is the hero?

(32) "Forbearance"

A true hero, why should he be short of breath? Only by starting well and finishing well can he be invincible! Forbearance can protect one's life, and it can accomplish things. Forbearance is great wisdom and courage.

It is also a great blessing! Tolerance is thick, tolerant is black, to endure villains, to endure powerful people, to endure things that are unbearable in the world, and to do things that are difficult for others to do if you don't be a person of your temper.

1. Forbearance is great wisdom, courage and great blessing

2. Don’t be a man of temperament

3. An undefeated life, a ninja is invincible

(Thirty-three) The word "retreat"

Those who have been in the world for a long time and have mastered human relations always keep the word "retreat". Retreat is a strategy, retreat is an exchange, and it is also a means of maintaining survival. The philosopher said it well, "Don't spit in the well. When you are thirsty, you should come to the well to drink water."

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1. Calculating everything is wrong, taking a step back and thinking everything will go well

2. Refusing to compromise means refusing to succeed

3. Can't afford to offend, hide away Affordable

(Thirty-four) The word "Yuan"

Being round and round, everything is exquisite; doing things perfectly, everything goes as planned. People are unpredictable, so it is best to keep things in reserve.

You can study the "fuzzy philosophy". If the carriage of life is equipped with square wheels, you have never heard of it, and neither have I

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(Thirty-five) "Danger" tactic

"After all the luxury and success, will there be both peace and happiness and disaster? "Historical lessons are like this, and so are ordinary people. Living at home,

No one can escape the word "danger" at work or in the workplace. People who have no long-term worries must have immediate worries.

1 , Think long-term first, there is no danger in the near future

2. Guo Ziyi retreated from the maid to avoid trouble

3. Going to the mountains and countryside to be a farmer-Fan Li lived a wealthy life

( Thirty-six) The word "pretend"

Life is a drama, you sing and I come on stage, whether you can act or not depends on whether you can pretend to be a hero

, It’s hard to pretend to be weak. As the saying goes, if you shoot the first bird, you are not afraid of thieves. When you don’t have the strength,

Please hide your excess talents. !

1. There are benefits to deliberately showing weakness

2. Use "mimicry" and "protective color"

3. Success requires feigning death and feigning defeat

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