When the old man was young, his feelings were frustrated, so he closed his heart and refused to open his heart again, so he was single for so long. It can be seen that the old man is also an infatuated person, otherwise he will not remain single after his feelings are frustrated. After all, those playboys are all for meeting and falling in love, and will not choose to be single because of one person.
Therefore, it is not easy to open the knot of the elderly, and we can start from the following aspects.
Try to integrate into each other's lives.
If you want to open a person's heart, you must keep the same frequency with the other person, that is, you must integrate into each other's life. In this way, if the other person thinks that you can blend in with him, he will gradually try to accept you.
Spend more time communicating with the elderly.
Such people are used to living alone for a long time, get along with them, prepare for long-term battles, and spend more time communicating with the elderly. For example, people care more about each other in life, and their hearts are fleshy. I believe that after a long time, they will slowly accept you.
Try to get the other person to tell his story.
If a person can tell his past, it means that the other person has let go. Therefore, we can slowly let the old people tell the past themselves. If there is something that makes you sad, one day you can say it with a smile, which means that you have actually put it down.
So when the old man doesn't want to talk, he actually won't let go, so he doesn't want to open his heart. And if one day, when he is willing to say it himself, it is only a matter of time before he opens his heart.
Therefore, it takes time and patience to enlighten each other slowly if the elderly want to open their own knots, so as to completely open each other's knots.