Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. Also known as "making decisions", men should make meatballs (meaning reunion) and prepare six bowls of dishes (meaning Liuhe Liushun) to entertain matchmakers and relatives and friends. Put the engagement jewelry, the "Gankun Book" attached by both men and women, and Liuxiang dried fruit in a special "red bucket" and send it to the woman's home by tracing people. The woman's family also prepared six kinds of banquets for matchmakers and relatives and friends. After 1970s, there were two kinds of engagement ceremonies: big engagement and small engagement. "Big decision" means that both men and women hold a breakfast banquet and the woman prepares a luncheon. After the young men and women are engaged, the elders of the male (female) family should send "meeting gifts" respectively, and the engagement gifts are still sent to the woman's house by the matchmaker, but the custom of carrying red buckets has been abolished. Xiaoding doesn't invite guests, but young men and women meet and exchange souvenirs to discuss marriage.
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Also known as hiring and sending "daily bills", or "sending money". Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. When the man prepares breakfast, he invites relatives and friends, gives the matchmaker a red sticker with the wedding date and dowry, and sends it to the woman's house. The heavier the engagement fee, the more decent the man is. If the woman doesn't accept or accept less gifts, it is considered as "demeaning herself" and will not be "valued" when she goes to the man's house in the future. After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), the gift money was abolished. In the 1960s, the wave of bride price resurfaced. In rural areas, there is a circulation of "Liu Liu" (bride price 360 yuan, 6 sets of clothes, 60 Jin of red wine, 60 Jin of pork, 360 Jin of fish and 360 eggs), and the money and goods of the bride price should be combined into six, as well as sewing machines, gift machines and watches. In the 1980s and 1990s, we still needed color TV sets, refrigerators, washing machines and gold jewelry.
Pick up the bride (in a sedan chair) for the wedding.
Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. Three days before the wedding, the man will give the woman a cloak, a bun and so on. The day before the wedding, the man's family will send an altar to the woman's family to "keep the mother's wine". When a daughter gives birth to a child, her family will use this jar to deliver wine to her daughter. On National Day, the man hired a sedan chair to drum music, carried a big lantern to the woman's house to greet the bride, and carried the bride's dowry with him. At noon, the woman's family held a "mother banquet" to send the bride. In the afternoon, the bride will cut her hair, dress up, put on new embroidered shoes and robes, tie them in a bun, bid farewell to her parents and elders, and then be carried by her father and brother in a sedan chair. Some want to "get married in tears" to show that they are "two families" from now on; Some brides have to change a pair of earth shoes when they get on the sedan chair, which means not to take away their parents' "Feng Shui". The bride's younger brother was called "uncle" in the sedan chair to see her off. Drums beat all the way, and firecrackers kept ringing. After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), old customs such as sedan chair have been abolished. The bride was greeted by the groom and accompanied by several girlfriends. One of them went to the man's house with an umbrella or in a decorated wedding car.
wedding
Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. In the old days, when the sedan chair went to the man's house, the groom had to stand on the balcony to show that "men are superior to women." At the same time, firecrackers are set off in front of the door to pick up the bride, and salt is sprinkled in the brazier to make a loud noise, which is the symbol of "lucky strike". The bride got off the sedan chair and gave the boy a bunch of dried longan to show "complete happiness and a full house of children and grandchildren". The master of ceremonies led the newcomers into the hall to pay tribute to the drums. That is, one worships heaven and earth, one worships Gaotang, and three couples worship each other. Then worship the elders and in-laws, and everyone who is worshipped should give gifts. Then the wedding reception began, the band played music and sang wine, the younger brother took the lead into the hall, and the groom went to the banquet to propose a toast. The bride, led by her mother, toasted her relatives (some people offered tea after the party). According to the order of generations, elders should give gifts, commonly known as "meeting gifts." The bride's in-laws want to give her little brother a red envelope. After the ceremony, send the bride to the bridal chamber, raise a glass and drink, and then hold a banquet. In some cases, every time a dish is served, the bride has to change a dress to pay tribute to the guests. After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), this custom was abolished.
(of relatives and friends) teasing the newlyweds on their wedding night.
When a couple enters the bridal chamber, relatives and friends of all ages can go to the bridal chamber to amuse the newlyweds. Ask the bride and groom to perform. As the saying goes, "the bride is not big for three days" and "the more noisy she is, the happier she is", which aims to increase the lively atmosphere, but some people break up because of rude banter. Before going to bed, please ask your elders to recite auspicious words and throw money and colorful fruits on the bed, commonly known as "throwing the bed", in order to give birth to "your son" as soon as possible. The light in the bridal chamber was on that night. If someone steals the bride's embroidered shoes and clothes, the groom has to redeem the wine the next day. After the founding of People's Republic of China (PRC), the custom of throwing beds and stealing shoes has been abolished.
(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.
Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. On the third day, the newlyweds went back to their parents' home in a sedan chair to visit their parents-in-law. When I went back, the woman was in front and the man was in the back. When I came back, the man was in front and the woman was in the back. My father-in-law invited me to stay for Chinese food, and my husband invited me to stay for dinner. Relatives and friends of the bride will give the groom a meeting gift. Three days later, the new wife began to do housework in the kitchen. At the full moon wedding, the bride's family sent red household appliances. Before the New Year's Eve that year, I sent new year's goods to my parents-in-law. In the first month of the following year, the relatives of the man invited the bride, and the relatives of the woman invited the groom, commonly known as the bride. Relatives don't accept candy from the bride and groom.
(of a man) marry and live in her mother's house.
Also known as "recruiting talents" and "recruiting relatives". Traditional marriage customs in Nanping city. A man "marries" a woman's house, mostly because the woman's house lacks labor, or there is no son to continue, and the husband is the son, and the family is still a continuation of incense. After marriage, the man does not need any economic expenses. Most of the furniture and banquets are arranged by the woman, and the man only subsidizes the woman with a certain amount of money. Before adoption, both parents should conclude an adoption contract, one for each party. The eldest son takes the mother's surname. If only one son is born, the two surnames are shared. If the mistress goes to the woman's house, Wuyishan area is called "home".
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Traditional birth customs in Nanping city. When a daughter is pregnant after marriage, she is called "Xi", and her mother's family wants to give her pig's belly and eggs to eat. Dressing the baby with clothes, shoes and hats before giving birth, commonly known as "health". After giving birth, the son-in-law must send the eggs and wine to her mother's house within three days to report the good news. The spout of the wine is round, indicating the birth of a boy; Flower cutting means giving birth to a girl. In-laws took chicken, rabbits, eggs and other nutritious foods to visit their daughters and grandchildren. In-laws give eggnog sent by their son-in-law to relatives and friends, and relatives and friends make "third birthdays" on the third day of confinement, also called "third birthdays" and "three dynasties" to commemorate the child's first birthday. Please name your elders.
Celebrate the birth of a baby when he is one month old.
Traditional birth customs in Nanping city. When a baby arrives in Zhou Yue, it is a "full moon". The head of the full moon should be shaved, and a full moon banquet should be held to invite relatives and friends who give gifts. During the dinner, the baby in the bag met all his relatives and friends. All the relatives and friends praised him and wished him health and intelligence. A meal is over.
One year old.
Traditional birth customs in Nanping city. Baby's first birthday, close relatives give gifts to congratulate, commonly known as "send the week." At noon, put Four Treasures of the Study, abacus, sword, etc. On the screen, sitting on the screen with your baby in your arms and letting it touch things on the screen, commonly known as "grasping the week". What a baby touches for the first time indicates his future ambition. For example, touching a pen and a book indicates a good article, and touching an abacus indicates a good business, so as to come to Doby to have fun, grasp the week, have a feast at the table, and break up.