1. Inferiority
If children are often instilled with the idea of ??poverty, then the children will feel that their family is really poor and cannot afford this or that. rise. I can't hold my head up in front of my classmates because my classmates have a lot of pocket money and have a lot of beautiful clothes to wear. They can sign up for interest classes of their choice at will, but my family is so poor that they can't even eat, let alone the so-called pocket money. Beautiful clothes, and that out-of-reach interest class.
When a child stands in a group of classmates, his clothes are the simplest. When others are eating snacks, I am always the one who quietly walks away. When others are talking loudly about which interest class is better and which interest class has a more humorous teacher, the child will never get a word in. This will make the child feel low self-esteem in front of his classmates and make him feel that he is not the same person as other classmates. In serious cases, it will also cause the child to be afraid to interact with others, causing social phobia.
2. Please others for money
As the saying goes: "Parents are the first teachers in their children's lives and are also role models for their children to learn from." Parents often refer to "our family is very "Poor" is a phrase that has been on the lips of children ever since they were young. The more times children hear it, the phrase becomes deeply engraved in their minds and lingers on.
When the child is still in the early childhood stage, the child will say to his playmates: "Our family is poor, our family has no money, we can't afford toys, we can't afford snacks. I will be good friends with you." If so, can I play with your toys? Can I eat your snacks? "Children will work hard to please others in order to get to play with other people's toys and eat other people's snacks.
3. Don’t know how to share
Parents who often say to their children: "Our family is very poor, our family has no money" will be very stingy with their children. For example, in daily life, it only takes a few days to buy a meal of meat. (I guess with people’s living standards nowadays, as long as they want to eat meat, they can have it for every meal!) If you don’t see fruit a few times a month, your child’s The pencil is too short to be willing to replace it. In the child's draft book, first write once with a pencil, then once with a ballpoint pen, and then again with a water-based pen. Finally, you can also use it to write calligraphy with calligraphy to see how poor it is (and how much money you save).
Because "poor" has been deeply engraved in the child's mind, when the child finally has fruit or snacks, he usually will not choose to share them with others, because Maybe he can only eat that once a month and eat so much, so why would he be willing to share it with others?