I am also an introvert, and I am even worse than you. My first day was boring, all by myself. Next semester, I met a good friend. At that time, she was an extroverted person and studied poorly. Because of her classmates' indifference, I helped her come over and even study, so we became good friends. At that time, life at school was quite happy. After the second day of junior high school, I became a little extroverted under her influence, but she became fond of provoking those powerful people. Sure enough, something happened. After a while, she was always scolded by those people. Let's become good friends with him and participate together. At that time, I was still stupid and still with her (I didn't know all the shady things she did). I was kept in the dark until she left. With her gone, I have few friends. I am really lonely, and no one knows me and helps me. Maybe the girls in our class are enthusiastic. They also saw that I was unhappy, so they helped me and advised me, so I made many friends. I have a good relationship with everyone in my class. It took me three years to know who my friend really is. I really regret it. This is my personal experience! I think, if you want to make friends, you should open your heart, don't rely too much on others, and don't care too much about others' opinions. You can also put yourself in others' shoes. Many troubles will disappear. You can't just wait for your friends to come and give them more help. After a long time, everyone thinks you are very good, and you will naturally be very popular. I hope it helps you!

How do introverted people make friends?

How do introverts improve interpersonal relationships?

Many introverts hope to change their introverted personality, improve their ability to communicate with others, and then have good interpersonal relationships. So they read a lot of books on interpersonal relationship and learned a lot of interpersonal skills, but they found that the effect was little and not obvious. This shows that learning skills alone is not enough. They can't have good interpersonal relationships not only because they lack skills, but also because of many deep-seated reasons. At the same time, does this also explain from one side that the current interpersonal relationship books are flawed and incomplete? Introverts need to change and improve their beliefs, attitudes and skills if they want to have good interpersonal relationships.

First, belief: establish the belief of "win-win" (equality and mutual benefit)

If you want to have good interpersonal relationships, you must have the idea of equality and mutual benefit. In fashionable words, it is to have a win-win thinking.

There are several modes of thinking in dealing with interpersonal relationships:

1. I won and you lost:

We have been taught since childhood to strengthen this concept. Do better in exams than others, run faster and jump higher in sports competitions than others, and win the championship. In a word, only by surpassing others and winning can we feel happy. We regard life as an arena. To be successful and happy, we must surpass others and leave others behind.

In addition, selfish people hold the idea that I win and you lose.

2. I lost and you won;

People who lack self-confidence and self-esteem often think so.

They dare not stand their ground, want nothing, compromise at the expense of personal interests, and seek peace at the expense.

3. lose both sides:

On the surface, no one will benefit from doing so, and it seems that no one will do so. But some people just want to do this! What I can't get, you can't sacrifice others. For revenge, I would rather sacrifice myself than drag you down.

4. Win-win:

Win-win is based on the concept of equality and mutual benefit. Earn your own profits without harming the interests of others. If you don't set yourself against others, you and I are not hostile parties, but comrades in the same trench. We share weal and woe and work together to create a better future.

I win, you lose (selfish), I lose, you win (compromise), and both lose (lose), which can't make people have good interpersonal relationships. If you want to have a good interpersonal relationship, you must have a win-win thinking and an idea of equality and mutual benefit.

Introverts improve interpersonal relationships in this way (2)

Second, attitude: grasp the balance between love and courage.

A win-win situation means that everyone wins and both sides benefit.

Love and courage are indispensable for a win-win situation.

Love enables you to care about others and take care of their interests; Courage enables you to stand your ground and safeguard your own interests. The balance between love and courage can truly achieve a win-win situation.

To have good interpersonal relationships, it is not enough to have love, but also to have courage. Introverts lack not only love, but also courage. Without courage, there can be no good interpersonal relationship.

Only the balance of love and courage can produce good interpersonal relationships.

The balance between love and courage is reflected in the following pairs of relationships.

1. Respect for others and self-esteem (balance between "respect" and "self-esteem")

Most books on interpersonal relationships emphasize the importance of respecting others, and advocate smiling, praise and gratitude. It's really important to respect others, but these are like scratching boots for introverts, and they don't say the key that introverts really need to improve. The real problem of introverts is probably lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. Therefore, establishing self-confidence and self-esteem is the key to solving problems.

2. Honesty, trustworthiness and trust in others (balance between "honesty" and "trust")

Be honest and trustworthy, and let others trust themselves. At the same time, you should trust others.

Introverts don't really trust others from the heart, but always have ignorant doubts and fears about others. I am hesitant and full of fear at the thought of interacting with people. This is one of the reasons why he can't have good interpersonal relationships. Distrust of others is a problem that introverts need to focus on.

3. Be interested in others and open to yourself (the balance between "curiosity" and "openness")

Books about interpersonal communication teach us to be interested in others. And said: "A person who is interested in others will make more friends in two months than a person who only knows how to make others interested in him in two years." ......

How do introverts make friends?

People with similar backgrounds in life and growth can become bosom friends. It is absolutely impossible for a person who has nothing to do with you at ordinary times to understand you. Street thugs can't understand the feelings of people who study hard at a cold window, and rich children can't understand the living habits of children whose parents are both laid off.

Moreover, people with similar views can become bosom friends. Don't look for people who disagree in two sentences and argue endlessly. He is sure to get along badly and be very tired.

Third, people who are willing to listen to you can become bosom friends. Don't look for such a narcissistic idea. What you say is all about him and him.

Fourth, people who are affectionate and righteous can become bosom friends. Don't look for such loyal people. Most words are better than deeds, and it is best to be kind-hearted and grateful.

Finally, it is for yourself. Be sincere to those you think may become bosom friends, and be kind to others! Do more for others! When people are in trouble, they should stand up and don't always make their own small calculations, for fear of losing something. As long as you choose your friends according to the first three points I said, he will definitely think that you are good to him and he will be good to you.

About communication:

1. Encourage others as much as possible. You should praise his achievements ―― even a small success. Praise is like sunshine. Without sunshine, we have no nourishment for growth. Your praise will never be superfluous.

Let others save face at all times. Don't embarrass anyone, don't belittle others, and don't exaggerate their mistakes.

3. Only speak well of others behind their backs. If you can't find anything to say, then you should keep silent.

Observe others carefully, and you will find the good things he has done. Give reasons when expressing compliments, so that your compliments won't be flattering.

You should always quote other people's noble thoughts and motives. Everyone wants to be considered generous and selfless by others. If you want others to improve, then you act as if they already have these excellent qualities. In that case, he will do everything possible not to disappoint.

6. Try not to criticize others. When you have to criticize, you'd better take an indirect approach. You should always be right about things, not people. You should let the other person see that you really like him and are willing to help him. You should not criticize others in your writing.

7. You should allow others to feel good about themselves occasionally. Don't brag, admit that you have shortcomings. You should be modest and prudent, guard against arrogance and rashness. If you want to make enemies, hit others everywhere. If you want to get friends, you must be tolerant.

8. When you make a mistake, apologize in time; When you are to be blamed, you'd better take the initiative to apologize.

9. You should give more suggestions instead of giving orders. In this way, you can promote cooperation and avoid conflicts.

10. When others are angry, you should show understanding. The anger of others is often just to get your attention. You should give enough sympathy and attention to others ―― they need it.

1 1. You should talk as little as possible. You should give others a chance to tell and be a good listener yourself.

12. You should convince others that this idea comes from himself. A good idea doesn't care who owns it, but everyone is willing to believe that they are acting according to their own wishes. The ocean is the king of streams, because it can accept all rivers.

13. Don't interrupt others, even if they are wrong. He won't listen to you patiently when he has something on his mind.

14. You should try to analyze things from the standpoint of others. The Indian said, "First of all, you should walk a long way from the standpoint of others." Don't forget to ask yourself: Why did he do it? Understanding everything means forgiving everything.

15. Don't always be right. You can be smarter than others, but don't tell each other. You must admit that you may be wrong ―― this will avoid all quarrels.

16. Give small gifts often-you can find ways to make others happy without any reason. The energy you spent on the gift shows how much you spent on him.

17. If there is a conflict, you should keep calm. First of all, you should listen to each other's opinions and try to find the agreement between them. You should also look at yourself critically, promise to consider his opinions and thank him for his inspiration.

18. You should show real interest in others. You should use this as your slogan: be interested in others, not. ......

How do introverts make friends with extroverts?

Hello, I don't think it's a problem to be autistic or introverted, and you're not autistic, because if you are autistic, you won't want to make friends, you'll just immerse yourself in your own world. ...

The question is whether introversion will affect your communication ... or bring many negative effects to your life ... Introversion is because you don't want to contact anyone or even say hello, you are only immersed in your own world ... and introversion also has its own advantages. If you want to change this introversion, it will lead to chaos in your life ... and it will be difficult to adapt to life. Introversion does not mean that you can't speak, and talking less does not mean that what you say is worthless. Introverts have little contact with others, so they have a lot of time to enrich their thoughts. Saying something meaningful is far more impressive than talking about it all day. Smile if you don't want to talk. Learn to smile. An introverted personality can never become a completely extroverted personality (unless you are no longer you), but you can add extroverted elements and call them out when you need extroverted personality. Cultivate this ability. If you want to be happy,

The most important thing is your mentality. .....

-As long as you have a positive attitude, you will be cheerful. ....

-If the people you associate don't take the initiative, take the initiative. ....

Life is considerate of others, and at the same time you will be happy and gain something. ...

Think of others as yourself, and you will get the same result.

The most important thing to make friends is sincerity. Save the best for your friends, think of each other ... and then you will gain something. The simplest statement is: it is not difficult to make friends. It is easy to maintain good interpersonal relationships. Treat your friends as yourself and leave the best to your friends. Why worry about not having friends? Give you some advice:

-First of all, praise each other more. ...

Don't criticize the other party when there is a third party. ....

-Take a constructive attitude. ....

-Don't go too deep into other people's thoughts. ....

-tell each other's shortcomings to the point. ....

-Don't forget to smile. ...

-encourage each other calmly .....

Everyone can't live without friends ... If you want friends in need ... you must be loyal to your friends ... instead of treating them as commodities ... Although intimate friends are hard to find ... As long as we are worthy of friends ... good friends will never end ... When we choose friends, it's like choosing melons ... We must do many experiments and tests to find a good one. When we meet friends ... when we are in adversity ... we can get to know our friends ... no matter what the situation ... we should be strict with ourselves ... and those who can make ourselves up ... are true friends.

Finally, there is no need to feel inferior at all ... Now that you have found your own problems, try to make progress. ...

Change positively and optimistically ... if you can't change, improve it ... and amplify your advantages. ...

Don't always think too much ... just do it ... let's go.

If you have any questions, please come to consult. I'm glad to make friends with you, too ~ Haha, come on, I wish you all the best.

How do introverts make friends?

Hello, I don't think it's a problem to be autistic or introverted, and you're not autistic, because if you are autistic, you won't want to make friends, you'll just immerse yourself in your own world. ...

The question is whether introversion will affect your communication ... or bring many negative effects to your life ... Introversion is because you don't want to contact anyone or even say hello, you are only immersed in your own world ... and introversion also has its own advantages. If you want to change this introversion, it will cause chaos in your life ... and it will be difficult to adapt to life. Introversion does not mean that you can't speak, and talking less does not mean that what you say is worthless. Introverts have little contact with others, so they have a lot of time to enrich their thoughts. Saying something meaningful is far more impressive than talking about it all day. Smile if you don't want to talk. Learn to smile. An introverted personality can never become a completely extroverted personality (unless you are no longer you), but you can add extroverted elements and call them out when you need extroverted personality. Cultivate this ability. If you want to be happy,

The most important thing is your mentality. .....

-As long as you have a positive attitude, you will be cheerful. ....

-If the people you associate don't take the initiative, take the initiative. ....

Life is considerate of others, and at the same time you will be happy and gain something. ...

Think of others as yourself, and you will get the same result.

The most important thing to make friends is sincerity. Save the best for your friends, think of each other ... and then you will gain something. The simplest statement is: it is not difficult to make friends. It is easy to maintain good interpersonal relationships. Treat your friends as yourself and leave the best to your friends. Why worry about not having friends? Give you some advice:

-First of all, praise each other more. ...

Don't criticize the other party when there is a third party. ....

-Take a constructive attitude. ....

-Don't go too deep into other people's thoughts. ....

-tell each other's shortcomings to the point. ....

-Don't forget to smile. ...

-encourage each other calmly .....

Everyone can't live without friends ... If you want friends in need ... you must be loyal to your friends ... instead of treating them as commodities ... Although intimate friends are hard to find ... As long as we are worthy of friends ... good friends will never end ... When we choose friends, it's like choosing melons ... We must do many experiments and tests to find a good one. When we meet friends ... when we are in adversity ... we can get to know our friends ... no matter what the situation ... we should be strict with ourselves ... and those who can make ourselves up ... are true friends.

Finally, there is no need to feel inferior at all ... Now that you have found your own problems, try to make progress. ...

Change positively and optimistically ... if you can't change, improve it ... and amplify your advantages. ...

Don't always think too much ... just do it ... let's go.

If you have any questions, please come to consult. I'm glad to make friends with you, too ~ Haha, come on, I wish you all the best.

How do introverts make friends?

Making friends depends on your personal situation. Different personalities, hobbies, experiences, etc. Make sure that different people have different requirements for the circle of friends (of course, the number of contacts varies according to each other's situation). I have some skills that I hope can help you. On communication: 1. Encourage others as much as possible. You should praise his achievements ―― even a small success. Praise is like sunshine, without which we have no nutrients for growth. Your praise will never be superfluous. Let others save face at all times. Don't embarrass anyone, don't belittle others, and don't exaggerate their mistakes. 3. Only speak well of others behind their backs. If you can't find anything to say, then you should keep silent. Observe others carefully, and you will find the good things he has done. Give reasons when expressing compliments, so that your compliments won't be flattering. You should always quote other people's noble thoughts and motives. Everyone wants to be considered generous and selfless by others. If you want others to improve, then you act as if they already have these excellent qualities. In that case, he will do everything possible not to disappoint. 6. Try not to criticize others. When you have to criticize, you'd better take an indirect approach. You should always be right about things, not people. You should show the other person that you really like him and are willing to help him. You should not criticize others in your writing. 7. You should allow others to be yourself occasionally. ...

Sincere, happy and helpful,

How to make friends with an introvert? 50 points

Are you a man or a woman?

Find some * * * topics, you can ask her what she likes to do at ordinary times, what are her interests, try to do things of interest together, go out shopping together, find a coffee book to chat, and she will soon get familiar with it.

How to make friends with an introvert?

Respect, understand and communicate more.

How do introverts have girlfriends?

I think it's just three words: bold but cautious and thick-skinned! Courage means taking the initiative If you like a girl, you should tell her. Don't be shy, or you will regret losing the opportunity. Careful observation means knowing what the girl you like likes and doesn't like. Be a caring person in the process of communication, always care about her, be caring and attentive, and make girls feel that you are considerate. Thick-skinned means, don't lose heart when rejected by girls, stand up again and start a new battle!

Many people always have the desire to pursue the girl they want, but in the end they will never catch up. Maybe those people will say that they are timid, and some people will say that they will wait a little longer and chase after them in a few days. In fact, these "wait a minute" or "dare not" ideas are the enemies of pursuing girlfriends. You know, it's almost impossible to wait for girls to deliver their own babies these days. Unless you are handsome or rich, you'd better not think about this kind of good thing that fell from the sky. So, in this case, how do you chase your girlfriend? Actually, it's not that hard. You know, actually, most women are poor. Under the constraint of social morality, they can only wait for men to chase them. If she gives up your pursuit today, they will also worry about how long it will take for someone to chase them next time. Of course, this is not applicable in Jiaotong University, but it is a cruel fact for women outside.

On the other hand, some people are afraid of failure and will be laughed at by others, which is not a problem. Think about it, if you say that you don't talk much, she dares to say that she is being chased, but she doesn't like it, which is tantamount to killing herself. Today, she talks nonsense everywhere. Who will dare to chase her one day? Everyone is afraid of being what she calls * * *. I once knew a woman. Someone in the class came after her, and she flaunted around. As a result, no one laughed at the man On the contrary, the woman was not pursued in senior three, and she didn't know her ignorance until she was old. Where did she come from? So don't be afraid to be the laughing stock of others. As long as you don't talk, who will know that your pursuit has failed? Moreover, failure is not shameful, cowardice really can never catch up with the girl you like! Besides, how do you know she's not waiting for you?

Some people think they are ugly, which is not like a problem. Ugly people just can't catch up with little girls. Some girls who don't grow up always regard men's good looks as the most important selection condition. I think for this kind of woman, she will have problems sooner or later. Come to think of it, of course, handsome guys are loved by everyone. When she is old, when she is old, what about the man who will stay to see her beauty and pursue her? I was laughed at by a woman for being ugly. Well, there may be more than one ... last time I went back to Taipei by train, the lady who was focused was called Bunny (two oversized front teeth), but this is not a problem. I always find a girlfriend. If I hate myself, I think even other girls will hate you. It's not like I've never seen a beautiful girl with an ugly boyfriend. How do you know she won't like you unless you try? Anyway, as a dead man, try to have a look. It may be successful, but it's better than winning an invoice!

So, don't be afraid of failure, no one will know even if it fails. It is always good to try. But don't chase one thing after another all day, or I will feel guilty.

However, don't always think about chasing beautiful women. That kind of person is chased every day, which is not something that ordinary people can catch. Of course, it is not without exception. Some beautiful women just want a good man they can trust. Whether he is good-looking or not, it is naturally possible to like ordinary men. Maybe you are the type she expects, but how do you know until you try?

Having said so much, I just want everyone to put aside their psychological barriers first, but you say you have nothing. Why do people like you? Even if you catch up for a period of time, you can't keep it for a long time. It is necessary to enrich yourself properly. Enriching yourself does not mean learning from the East and the West. The main thing is that you can give full play to your strengths, and it is not too late to learn something else. Besides, I don't want to chase girls. However, if people want to live a valuable life, they must have some advantages!

Then when you can pursue the woman you like with a normal heart, you have taken the first step to success.

When I choose my goal, the first thing I have to face is how to get her attention.

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How to make friends with introverts?

As a listener, introverts are actually inferior at heart, but they must have words.