At the beginning of the article, Qian Zhongshu made his views on making friends clear in a simple sentence. The word he emphasized seems simple, but in fact it has rich connotations. Elements clearly express what true friendship is, because elements are the basis of all colors, and only on this basis can various colors be formed. Therefore, the deep meaning of this word is to make friends. Just like this word, we must go beyond our own feelings and rise to a powerful level that can put life and death aside.
What is true friendship? Qian Zhongshu also learned from Confucius' view of making friends, in which the inner quality of friends is very important. People who seem to be very helpful to you may actually be unreliable. People who often preach to you seem to be helping you solve problems, but in fact they can't meet the standard of making friends. Unless he has his own unique opinion. Of course, in addition to this kind of friend, there is another kind of friend who only allows you to play jokes on him, share happiness or vent your inner dissatisfaction. This kind of friend is also a true friendship.
Through a general understanding of Qian Zhongshu's true friendship, we know that Qian Zhongshu has an extraordinary understanding of friendship. His understanding is not the superficial understanding of ordinary people, but has reached a deeper level. Just like the difference between life and death, Qian Zhongshu already knows what kind of people meet this kind of friendship. Friendship does not only stay at the material and spiritual level, but a friendship that transcends these two aspects is a true friendship.
The Life Experiences of Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang
Jiang Yang always wanted to be a student in Tsinghua University, but because there were no places, Jiang Yang had to study at Soochow University. Until 1932, Jiang Yang finally realized his dream and came to Tsinghua University to study. In Tsinghua University, Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang met. Because both of them like literature very much, they soon became good friends and developed into lovers.
After three years of acquaintance and love, Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang got married on 1935 and went to France to study. Both Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang have made progress in literature. They persisted in writing and produced many excellent works. 1937, their daughter passed away, which made the couple very happy and the family was full of laughter. However, the life experiences of Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang were not smooth sailing. When Qian Zhongshu suffered setbacks, Jiang Yang stood by Qian Zhongshu, silently supported him and accompanied him with his own strength.
During Jiang Yang's imprisonment, Qian Zhongshu knew nothing about housework and broke many bowls at home, but every time Jiang Yang smiled and said, "Never mind". "It doesn't matter" is the most frequently used word in the life experiences of Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang. Qian Zhongshu once commented on his wife Jiang Yang, saying that she was "the most virtuous wife and the most talented woman". It can be seen that Qian Zhongshu not only loves Jiang Yang very much, but also respects her very much. The life experiences of Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang tell a touching story of their mutual support. Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang met and accompanied each other all the way, and the couple went further and further on the road of literature, leaving an immortal masterpiece for future generations.
Anecdote of Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu
An interesting story of Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu happened after their daughter Qian Yuan was born. At that time, Qian Ai was just born and Jiang Yang was still in the hospital, but Qian Zhongshu didn't take care of Jiang Yang and her newborn daughter in the hospital.
Qian Zhongshu still lives at home alone every day. It was not until a few days later that he went to the hospital to find Jiang Yang and his daughter. Qian Zhongshu entered the door with a face of injustice. He told Jiang Yang that he accidentally broke the ink bottle at home, and then the whole tablecloth got wet with ink. He was a little caught off guard. Jiang Yang listened and said to Qian Zhongshu, it's okay. I am here. I'll go home and tidy up for you. Jiang Yang didn't blame Qian Zhongshu for not coming to the hospital to accompany him these days, but was comforting Qian Zhongshu.
The next day, Qian Zhongshu went again. This time, he still blamed himself, saying that he had made another mistake and broken the desk lamp. At this time, Jiang Yang's answer is still nothing, I have it, and now I have to buy another one. Because Qian Zhongshu is not very good at being a man, Jiang Yang is generally in charge. When Qian Zhongshu is at a loss, Jiang Yang always says "I'm here" to Qian Zhongshu, which will give him a sense of security.
There is also an interesting story about Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu. After Jiang Yang and Qian Zhongshu got married, Qian Zhongshu wanted to go to England for further study, but he couldn't bear to leave Jiang Yang alone in China. Jiang Yang wants to go to England with Qian Zhongshu, but Qian Zhongshu is worried that it will delay Jiang Yang's studies. Jiang Yang said that only by going to England together can we feel at ease with each other, and he was not selected at all, so Qian Zhongshu said that he would prepare two tuition fees. After that, they went abroad for further study, and went to England and France successively. After having a daughter, they returned to China.