Why are you always chased by uncles?

A girl who was tricked into having an extramarital affair by a middle-aged man gave her bloody advice

I have known and been with him since I was eighteen years old, and he was 37 years old at the time. Now I am 22 years old and he is 40 years old. When I met him, I was still a little girl. I was ignorant and knew nothing about the emotional world. I was curious and longing. My only emotional experience was still in my school days, the youthful time when I only held hands.

We met at work for dinner. When I first met him, I had no impression of him because he fit all the characteristics of a greasy middle-aged man. He was a little fat, had a big belly, and was a little bald. , it has nothing to do with the image of a handsome, wealthy and charming uncle, and what happened next to him was beyond my wildest dreams.

The first time we met was because of work, he asked me for a WeChat account. I was surprised. I felt there was no need to add him and I didn’t want to add him, but it was hard to refuse, so I added him with a small account. He rarely logs into the alt account and doesn't intend to pay attention.

After our first meeting, I basically had no impression of this person and didn’t take him seriously. I basically had no impression of him at all. I have never logged in to my WeChat account. But a month or two later, I logged into the WeChat account one day and found that he sent me WeChat messages intermittently, all of which were greetings. I was very surprised. It had been a month or two, and this person kept sending me messages to fuck me. Well.

I replied a few words intentionally or unintentionally. As soon as I replied, he immediately said that he had finally waited for me to reply, because it was the first time he met me and he was very impressed with me. He never forgot to wait for my reply every day. They were all reading, hoping that I could reply, etc. I still knew in my heart that this man might want to hook up with me, but I didn't think about giving any response at all, so I ignored him.

It took another month or two later, because in my first year of work, my job was frustrated and my salary was very low. At that time, my best friend and I had a very difficult time, and at one point we had no money to pay. Rent and living conditions.

I grew up in a poor family. My parents divorced. My father and I, my sister and my mother, and my father remarried. Due to family reasons, I had an eccentric personality and was rebellious in school. My mother was helpless, and my father also had a new relationship. My family would not take me into consideration at all. I don’t have a complete family, and I don’t want to say much about my family, so I don’t want to talk to my parents and I have to deal with it myself.

Life will not get better just because you can endure hardships. I live in a first-tier city and work for about two thousand yuan a month. I am not talking nonsense. I am in the beauty industry and I believe in the beauty industry. Everyone knows that it is really tiring to enter this industry at the beginning. The initial salary is very low, and it is really difficult not to include food and accommodation.

My best friend and I rent a house outside Guanxi. Because it is close to the subway and is convenient for work, we have to spend about 1,200 yuan a month on rent. After excluding transportation, there is basically nothing left for food and drink. Life is always stretched. , finally one day, after paying the rent, water and electricity, my best friend and I had about a thousand yuan left in total.

Unfortunately, I also caught a cold and had a serious fever. After two days of infusions at the hospital, I didn’t have much money left to see a doctor and take medicine. There was still a month to go, and at this time I wanted to go find my former classmates. I borrowed some money, logged into the WeChat account and saw the message he sent again. There was nothing except greetings every few days.

I replied to him and said that I had been ill recently. He immediately asked about the situation with great concern, and offered to accompany me to the hospital if there was no one to accompany me. I was a little scared and didn’t know what he meant. No reply, just a polite thank you. Then intentionally or unintentionally, he would ask about work and get off work, whether he had eaten, and occasionally care about me, but I still didn't reply to him superfluously.

Until my best friend and I were really facing the point where we couldn’t afford to eat and couldn’t afford to take the subway to work, I had no choice. I thought of this person and revealed my current situation to him. Unexpectedly, he transferred me directly. He gave me thousands of dollars and asked me to take care of my life first and not think about anything else.

I accepted his money, and he didn’t ask for it, but I was very scared. I thought about hiding, but he didn’t say anything about the money for a while, and he only greeted me occasionally. When I let my guard down, he would ask me what I was doing. For example, if I said I was going to the supermarket, he wouldn't say anything. He would send me a red envelope and tell me to take it to go shopping. It wasn't much, just a few hundred yuan.

I was slowly moved by this kind of small favor, and it felt like I was getting something cheap. He didn’t even ask for a meeting, and he always provided “care” in the form of information and care and occasionally transferred money. Later, I was about to get married. It was my birthday and he said he wanted to treat me to dinner.

I have silently accepted his "care" for several months and I have completely lost my defense against him. I have never thought about who he is or what kind of person he is. I don't even know his name. He wants to Invite me to dinner, and I cannot refuse this "invitation" because I have been taking care of him for several months.

Here I want to tell all the little girls who have just stepped out of society that there is no such thing as pie in the sky, and there is no gain for nothing. Before a man gets you, the price he is willing to pay and his patience are immeasurable. It can hide very deep and pretend to be a "good Samaritan who does not ask for anything in return" to dispel your defenses. People who are greedy for petty gains will always pay the price sooner or later.

You may also mistakenly think that you are lucky, that you have gained nothing at all, and that you are lucky. Girls, don't be naive, this is just a prelude for the old man to go fishing! It's just a foreshadowing to get you to take the bait.

Next, on my birthday, he invited me to dinner. It had been five or six months since I first met him. I don’t know why, but I was still a little disgusted with this when I first met him. The greasy man can now calmly accept having lunch with his mother-in-law. Is it because this man's "inquiry" over the past few months has blinded me? I think so.

Once people start to develop feelings, it is easy to ignore the facts and forget how incompatible and awkward it is to be with the greasy man in front of you. He invited me to have dinner at a pretty good restaurant in the city. For me, who had just started working, this kind of environment actually made my vanity slightly inflated, and I was a little eager to live a less hard life. Being rich would really make me happy. good.

He treated me to lunch, took me to a movie, and bought me ice cream. Throughout the whole day, there was not much to say, but they were doing things silently, just like a couple doing together. I was very happy that day. No one had been with me for a long time. I enjoyed the feeling of being taken care of.

That night, he asked me what else I wanted to do for my birthday. I said no. He said he bought me a cake and would send me home after eating. This was unexpected. It was the first time that someone For my birthday, he said that if I was worried, he could pick up my best friend and go eat cake with him.

Then I asked my best friend to go to a KTV with us. There were only three of us. He opened a large room, ordered birthday songs, and cut the cake. This was all something I didn’t expect. I didn't realize it myself but was moved by his actions unknowingly. I was very happy that someone celebrated my birthday.

After eating the cake, he sent my best friend and I home without mentioning that he wanted me to accompany him. After I got home, I started to reflect on why he was so nice to me and what he was trying to do, so I asked him on WeChat. I asked him many questions for the first time, and he answered truthfully. Finally, I asked, do you have a family? He answered: Yes. I was not unprepared. Although I was young, I had some guesses. He answered very simply. I didn't know how to reply, so I didn't reply. He also fell silent.

In the next few days, I felt a little disappointed. I couldn’t explain why. I checked the WeChat message intentionally or unintentionally. After he answered that day, I didn’t speak again. The greetings and care suddenly disappeared, and loss was inevitable. I couldn’t help but tentatively sent him a message. He immediately replied and said something like:

I don’t know if you are because of I have a family and decided not to have any contact with you anymore. I don’t know what to say, but from the first time I saw you, I remembered you deeply from the first sight. I couldn’t help but miss you day and night, but I didn’t dare to disturb you. I'm afraid you won't talk to me anymore because of this.

In short, it means that he is deeply attracted to me, but he knows that he already has a family and cannot have anything with me, so he tries hard to restrain himself from having any undue thoughts about me.

Yes, this kind of routine worked for me at that time. I had fallen into the trap and everything was under his control. What followed was basically the most bloody plot imaginable. I was fascinated by his previous fishing methods, and I started to lose sight of right from wrong.

Yes, the old man’s trick is to let you taste the sweetness first, establish his image as a good person in your mind, and make you relax your guard to completely open the door and let him in, and then you don’t even realize it When you are already dependent on him, he will act miserably, pretending that he has to restrain himself, and then distance himself from you, ignore you, and not reply.

Because he is already very sure that you will take the bait, and he is very confident that the bait he throws is delicious enough. It will be a matter of time before you take the bait, and then he only has to wait.

The time and energy they are willing to spend on the above process is immeasurable. There is no so-called months or even longer days and nights of worry and obsessiveness. They are very happy to appreciate the whole process. People who really like fishing enjoy the process rather than catching fish, because if you want to eat fish, it is too easy to just buy a few. No one would go fishing only if they want to eat fish. Fishing is just a pastime in leisure time or even a recreational activity.

To get back to the subject, after reading what he posted, I felt confused. I began to fear losing this person’s care and concern. People, once they taste the sweetness, it is difficult to be willing to endure the hardship again. Well, I would like to remind young girls to take this as a warning. I won’t say much about chicken soup.

I didn’t reply to him at that time because I really didn’t know how to reply. I stayed silent all night. The next morning, I sent a message to Moments, meaning that I couldn’t bear to let him go. Of course, he was the first Time took my hint, I had taken the bait and it was time to reel in. He sent me a sentence in English: protect you!

I was completely moved. The feeling at that time was that I was tempted and wanted to be with him. Naturally, he said he wanted to see me. But give me time to think about it and decide whether to go or not. The time will be next Monday. The location is a hotel. The night I went, I was still scared, but I couldn't control my mood. I knew I would go, and the anticipation and excitement far exceeded the entanglement.

So I drank a large glass of red wine, hoping that being drunk would allow me to temporarily put aside my inner struggles and burdens and go to this appointment. This glass of red wine had a lot of stamina. I was a little drunk when I arrived at the hotel. I probably remember that he asked me why I drank and took care of me very distressedly.

He held me, why was his embrace so warm and powerful? I lay in his arms and my whole body fell in. I fell. I had long ignored the truth and was only greedy for the warmth of this moment. , being hugged firmly by someone, it seems that I can be hugged by this person so weakly forever, as if I no longer have to bear the wind and rain by myself in the future.

People are very strange. Falling in love with someone is very complicated yet so simple. It may be just a hug or a word, but it becomes a permanent obsession in the heart, which cannot be forgotten or let go. I also admit that what I can write now is because that person gave it to me. Apart from seeing through it now, the love I had at that time was also true love.

I don’t exclude me from missing him, and I won’t force myself not to miss him. Let it be, because the most important thing is that now I will no longer be unwilling to let go of this wrong relationship because of missing him. . There is nothing wrong with loving someone, and it is not a sin to forget the good feelings, it is human nature.

That night, he didn’t touch me, he just hugged me and fell asleep. This move made my good impression of him soar to the point of worship. He didn’t take advantage of others and touch me when I was drunk. This made me I feel that this is extremely rare, and it also makes me equate his behavior with loving me. When I woke up in the morning, I took the initiative to kiss him. Yes, I took the initiative, and then I became his N prey...! ! !

Here is a serious warning to girls, this behavior of old men has nothing to do with loving you.

It is said that men think with their lower bodies. Yes, this is undoubtedly an irresistible temptation for a young man in his twenties, but for a wily middle-aged man in his late forties, restraining sexual impulses is already basic. Skill.

His plan is more than just wanting to sleep with you. Wanting to sleep with you is not the most terrifying, shameless and filthy thing. He will make you sincerely hope that one day you will not be as devastated as being raped. Losing your body is not terrible, it is taking away your heart and your feelings, and then he doesn’t have to exert any effort, he doesn’t have to do anything, and you won’t leave him, so that you sink to the point where you take the initiative to speak to him, you are as humble as a dog, and you are completely destroyed. Drop your bottom line and principles, and torture you with your feelings for him.

The old man will never do anything that will make him guilty. One day, if you rely on him, he will say: I gave you a choice at that time. Everything is your own choice. You can Choose not to come, and he can stay out of it entirely.

The ones they choose to target are basically young girls who have just stepped out of the society. They are easy to deceive and well-behaved. If you let them use this method to treat a 30-year-old woman, they will be blocked in minutes. In addition, the old man I met was not only greasy, but he also had little money.

Ring the bell: Although some men are not good-looking and seem to have no strength, no one can tell you that this man also has a lover. It is simply shocking that you are totally wrong. , if a man wants to cheat, even if he looks like shit and is as poor as a beggar, nothing can stop him from cheating. He will try his best to trick girls.

Without money and looks, there is a way to play without money and looks. If you don’t have money to throw money at you, and if you don’t have appearance to attract you, you will use psychological tactics and tricks to deceive you. People’s hearts are complicated. They do one thing on the surface and another behind the scenes. It’s a basic choice. The targets are also young girls, because young girls don’t understand anything, believe in love, and don’t value material things. The more innocent young girls are, the easier it is for them to fall into emotional traps.

Now that I have seen through it, I am really not as good as those who are chasing after women. This type of married man I met is already one of the most miserable among the many married men who meet different routines. Among the youngest, I have devoted my feelings to such a person for several years, but the feelings cannot be seen or touched. When I want to leave, I find that my heart is full of holes. Getting rid of and walking out of a relationship is the most difficult thing.

I don’t even know how much time it will take to heal the wound. I'm just afraid that I will get hurt again, and I will try my best to prevent myself from getting hurt again. The ending is bad, so I can do whatever I can to fix it, and I will leave the rest to time.

Everything in a person's life has a cause and effect. Because my native family is incomplete, I lack a sense of security and happiness. I have low self-esteem, and I long to be loved. In fact, it is because I have never seen the world, have a narrow vision, and am self-centered. I have not established correct self-values ??since childhood, so I am easily moved by small favors.

I am ignorant and need to constantly look for recognition and acceptance from others. I am unable to be confident and independent. Because of my shortcomings and deficiencies in my character, I have given others opportunities to take advantage of me. Taking advantage of these things easily made me fall into a wrong relationship and almost made it difficult for me to save myself. There are too many factors that caused this, including family, environment, and concepts from childhood.

But I am lucky. I have grown a lot in at least three years. I have found an outlet and a way to heal myself. In summary, when I look back at my 18-year-old life now, I can smile. No more anger and sadness.

You can't control falling in love with someone, but if you fall in love with the wrong person, you have to find a way to stop it. Be careful, this is saving yourself rather than forcing yourself to get fulfilled. Never think that you are great and quit the love triangle. The more this happens, the more likely it will lead to psychological distortion and unwillingness, and if you are not reconciled, you will get entangled again.

I also thought that his appearance and his actions ruined me, ruined all my beautiful longings for love, and ruined my understanding of marriage. He made me feel that I was this The worst woman in the world, I may never be able to fall in love with someone again, never believe in love again.

But it’s not because of him that I understand too many truths and see clearly too many ugliness and greed of human nature.

Can I still fall in love with someone? I don't know, but I must have the ability to recognize true love. Leave everything to time and fate.

The above is the beginning of my relationship with an old married man. I try to express everything that comes to my mind. I am not venting as a victim to complain about a scumbag. I want to do my best to let young girls who have the same experience as me see through married old men as soon as possible. I hope that my past can save more young girls from emotional suffering, see the facts early, cherish themselves, and stay away from married men.