Your thoughts are normal. You should be kind to people who deserve it, that is, people who are good to you. You always meet scumbags. You have to reflect on why this is the case and where did you go wrong? If you don't correct your own problems, you will meet a man who doesn't cherish you in the future. You can't get used to a man. The more he gets used to it, the more he will take you seriously. If you agree to the sentence "Following a wife is not a business, let him chase you." The initiative is in your hands.