There is a hidden youth around me, and there are more and more hidden youth in society. The reasons for the formation are complicated, which may be caused by the general environment, or may be related to personal growth experience or psychology. Let's discuss it together today.
Reason one: electronic products are developed.
Nowadays, with the progress of digital technology and communication technology, it provides an alternative way for people to socialize, and hidden youth may become an increasing phenomenon. Now even if you don't go out, there are many ways to entertain yourself. You can play games online, catch up with dramas, or chat with strangers. You can already find ways to entertain yourself in the virtual world, and you don't want to spend time communicating with real people.
Reason 2: The employment pressure is great.
In this increasingly involuted society, even if many college students can't find their favorite jobs, many people in employment (including myself) will occasionally be accused by the leaders, and it is normal to be squeezed by the labor force, which really fulfills the sentence "Work for 5 minutes, go crazy for 2 hours".
Moreover, many people will find that the gap between themselves and their ideals is too great when they leave society. This psychological gap makes them unable to accept the reality, so they can only choose to escape, go home and rely on their parents to be a hidden youth.
? Reason three: trauma.
Even in today's society, school bullying still exists! Especially in some township schools, like when I was in junior high school, I often heard the vice president inform the meeting that people in class xx bullied their classmates, were scored or expelled from school. In a corner that we can't see, school bullying may be on.
The psychological shadow left by youth is difficult to heal, especially if it is not promptly channeled at that time, which will lead them to fear and refuse to contact and communicate with others, feel strange and afraid of society, and only by locking themselves in a relatively narrow space will they feel safe.
? Reason four: there is no target direction.
Without a plan for their own life, they think that life is extremely boring and nothing interests them, which gradually leads to their loss of confidence and enthusiasm, disappointment and disgust for society. Even they don't consider their parents at all, and they think it's natural to eat and drink in their own homes.
If a person has no goal to live, he is no different from a walking corpse. Ordinary people will think that I have no money and I want to make money, so making money is your goal; I want to marry someone, so finding someone is your goal. You know what you need now.
If a person has accomplished nothing, there are only two kinds of people, one is the real rich, both materially and spiritually satisfied, and the other is the hidden youth, but the latter is based on relying on others. To put it bluntly, it is no different from the "blood sucking worm". Do you still think they are high-level at this time?
? Reason five: the influence of family background-personality.
The influence of family background on a person is really too important, because most people's personalities are formed in the living environment. Some people have never been taken care of since childhood, and their parents and relatives have ignored their feelings. They have become very self-abased and sensitive since childhood, and they will remain so when they grow up. They don't know how to talk to others, and may consider other people's eyes for a long time.
In their world, they may think that they are isolated, that they can't integrate into others anyway, and it is better to be masters in their own "small world".
There is a hidden young man in my village, about 28 years old. He hasn't left home since he dropped out of junior high school. He doesn't want to go to work, make friends or get married, which makes his mother very anxious. He complains to others every day that her children don't know why they are like this.
We go to his house sometimes. We may have seen him in the living room only once after going to 10, and we stayed in our rooms the rest of the time. When chatting with him, we just ask a question before answering, and even keep silent. Talking to him is really tiring.
In order to change this situation of hidden youth, it is not enough to rely on someone's efforts. We need to make changes in education and social environment, provide them with a harmonious lifestyle such as music, reading and group activities, and avoid isolating them and eventually going to extremes.
We should also pay attention to their mental health, provide them with professional psychological counseling and help (which requires professionals), help them establish more positive and healthy interpersonal relationships, and don't over-compare! Suppress others in order to express themselves.
Hidden youth is a part of contemporary society, and their choices and lifestyles should be respected and understood. We can support them by providing diversified social choices, cultivating social skills, paying attention to mental health and strengthening social cognition and education.