Single means that an adult has lived alone since adulthood, without a spouse, and may never get married, divorced or widowed. Being single can now be extended to having no male (female) friends. Are you still single? Revealing the truth about being single all the time (it’s not that I can’t find it, I just don’t want to make do with it)

Recently, the *** Youth League Central Network Film and Television Center and the "Voice of Youth" Marriage and Love Service Committee jointly released the "Contemporary Youth Groups" "Survey Report on Marriage and Love Views" surveyed 3,082 young men and women aged 19-35. The results show that nearly 70% of young people choose a spouse who is "willing to wait, rather than settle." The survey shows that the three main reasons why young people are single are small social circle, busy work and lack of initiative. Next, let’s take a look at the specifics of why young people remain single.

1. The concept of mate selection: the most important thing is "character" and "character", while "income" is not important;

The survey shows that both boys and girls pay more attention to "character" and “character.” The survey shows that young people pay more attention to "internal matching" when choosing a partner.

More than 80% of people regard "personality" as the most important criterion for choosing a mate, and about 70% of people value personality. It is worth noting that young people generally do not pay much attention to each other’s “education,” “region,” “family background,” and “income.”

Boys and girls differ greatly in the importance of appearance and ability: 50% of boys are appearance-oriented, and only 28% of girls value boys’ appearance; about 55% of girls value each other’s abilities, and only 22% Boys value girls' abilities.

2. The three main reasons for being single: small social circle, busy work, and lack of initiative;

Most young people think that they are single because they have a small social circle, busy work, and lack of initiative. initiative.

3. Online dating, dating websites and dating apps have low recognition;

More than half of people think online dating is “unreliable”. 73% of young people choose to make friends through "social associations organized by organizations, organizations or social institutions", and 11% choose "social apps".

4. Nearly 7 adults are "unwilling to do it";

If they do not find the ideal marriage partner, 70 young people choose to "continue waiting and find the ideal person to marry" . Among them, more girls than boys chose "continue to wait".

If they can’t find the ideal person, most people choose to be single and wait. Less than 10% of people are willing to lower their standards, and 5% of people choose to get married.

5. Boys are more active in pursuing love than girls;

Young men are more likely to take the initiative to start a relationship. 73% of boys said they would actively pursue the girl they like, while only 36% of girls would do so.

6. The traditional concept of childbearing still occupies the mainstream position;

Most young people believe that the "traditional family" in which "couples and children live together" is the "most expected family model" . Only 6 young people choose "DINK family". Nearly 60 young people expressed the hope of having two children.

7. Sexual knowledge and self-protection ability are weak;

Nearly half of the respondents said they “know a little or two” about safe sex, and 20% were not sure they knew. is correct, only a third of people were sure they had a clear understanding of safe sex.

8. Regarding "non-marital cohabitation", girls are more cautious than boys;

About 66% of men accept non-marital cohabitation, and the proportion of women is 47%.

9. Self-protection;

Most people have been hurt in interpersonal relationships. Over time, given the pain of the past, we are afraid to risk building up varying degrees of pain and become very defensive.

10. Boys desire marriage more than girls.

68% of young men believe that "marriage life is perfect", while 49% of young women choose this project. 36% of young women believe that "being single is also very happy", twice as many as young men.

11. Fear of competition;

If we find that others are interested in someone we like, we may shrink back.

Most of us are reluctant to compete, especially as we get older and start attacking ourselves. For example, "Your good days have passed, and you are too old to be suitable."

12. Develop rules and regulations;

Year after year, we usually take out this dating rules book manual. In fact, we are just talking on paper, and rules that look great on paper may not apply in real life. If you only follow the rules summarized in the past, you may fall into an endless cycle of disappointment. So, what is the reason why you are single? Tell your story.

13. Get used to being alone;

As people grow older, people will become more and more willing to live in their own comfort zone. Both financially and practically, men and women are more comfortable, so it's easier to form impenetrable bubbles.

14. Picky;

When we look at the world with a critical or distrustful eye, we may have eliminated others before giving them a chance.

15. Afraid of getting close.

The truth is, most people can only tolerate a certain level of intimacy. We are all defensive about letting others into our lives.

The main symptoms of being single

1. Increasing lack of self-confidence;

2. Reduced communication skills;

3. Lack of Sense of responsibility;

4. Psychological imbalance affects health.