In life, I always hope to make a few like-minded friends. Young people are enthusiastic, simple and energetic, and they especially like to make friends. When you extend a hand of friendship in exchange for a sincere heart, you can talk to others about your heartfelt words, and help others when doing things, then you will gain a sense of happiness.

However, when making friends, you must pay attention to the way to make friends. This is what Xunzi said: "A common man should not make friends carelessly." This is because, "Living with good people is like entering a house of orchids for a long time without smelling its fragrance; living with unkind people is like entering a house of abalones, and for a long time, you will not smell the fragrance." Without smelling the bad smell."

Countless examples have proved that the quality of friends has a great influence on the conduct of young people, and some even play a decisive role.

Gentlemen in ancient times always took the matter of making friends seriously. During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, there was a scholar named Guan Ning who was planting vegetables with Hua Xin in the garden. When he saw a piece of gold on the ground, Guan Ning kept hoeing it, but Hua Xin picked it up and looked at it before throwing it away. Later, the two of them were studying together, and a high-ranking official's carriage happened to pass by outside the door. Guan Ning continued to concentrate on reading, but Hua Xin threw away the book and went out to watch. Through these two incidents, Guan Ning felt that Hua Xin was greedy for money and fame, and was not a like-minded friend of his, so he broke off friendship with him. This is the famous story of "Guan Ning cutting ties" in history. Of course, from today's perspective, it seems a bit excessive to treat Hua Xin simply by breaking off friendship without providing educational help, but Guan Ning's serious attitude when choosing friends is worthy of recognition. Those who are close to vermilion are red, those who are close to ink are black. In order to maintain his pure integrity, Guan Ning avoided people who were serious about fame and wealth. This was the first important thing about making friends. Nowadays, some young people only focus on loyalty and not on ambition. They will be friends with anyone who gives them benefits. They even have frivolous friendships with strangers they meet in public places. Because they are not good at identifying fake friends, they are deceived and deceived. This happened again and again. I hope young people will take this lesson to heart.

For friends who are truly like-minded, we should be, as the Ming Dynasty scholar Su Jun said, "close friends" who "can take care of our priorities and can be trusted in life and death", instead of being "confidential friends who are at odds with each other for benefits and troubles." "Friends of thieves" who fall in love with each other. Wang Anshi has a good friend named Sun Shaoshu, with whom he has always had a close friendship. Wang Anshi once wrote a poem to him as a gift: "I should sing a song and look back thousands of times. How many people will I know when I go west?" and he became a confidant. But when Wang Anshi became prime minister, Sun Shaoshu stopped communicating with him. Everyone talked a lot, thinking that they had broken off diplomatic relations, but Sun Shaoshu had his own ideas. Later, Wang Anshi's reform failed and he lost his position as prime minister and became a minor local official. At this time, Sun Shaoshu welcomed him warmly. When the two met, they comforted and greeted each other, talked with each other about Confucian classics, and never left until the dusk fell, and then they said goodbye. After the incident spread, people came to know about Sun Shaoshu's noble and sincere friendship for his friends.

Due to their different personalities, habits, and characteristics, it is extremely rare for friends to have absolutely no disagreements or frictions in their interactions.

What should I do if a conflict occurs?

The friendship between Goethe and Schiller has always been praised. However, due to different life experiences and personalities, the initial relationship between these two great poets of the same era was not harmonious. Goethe was ten years older than Schiller. When Schiller was still a young man, Goethe was already famous all over the world. But the talent of the rising star is no less than that of Goethe. He became famous with the play "The Robbers" at the age of twenty-one, and then wrote more. "Conspiracy and Love" and three other popular tragedies made him a famous young tragic poet. The literati inevitably despised each other, but they were not as comfortable coexisting for a long time as before, and there was also an emotional distance between them. However, Goethe had a great mind after all. He admired Schiller's strengths (Schiller was not affected by the surrounding environment and concentrated on his creation). He was determined to catch up with the young people of his generation. Five years later, he met Schiller again and began to have a deep friendship with each other sincerely. He said to Schiller: "You gave me a second youth and resurrected me as a poet." After that, the two collaborated on writing many times, became lifelong friends, and were buried together after their death. Goethe's open-mindedness, studiousness and self-restraint in treating others bridged the rift between him and Schiller, making the foundation of their friendship deeper and more solid.