Only by actively cooperating and keeping the other party interested can the communication proceed smoothly and happily. The following tips are very effective.
1. We must be good at psychological comfort
When talking, we should actively cooperate to show that the other party's topic is arousing our interest and also imply that we are paying attention to the other party. You can also follow his topic, encourage him to continue talking with active listening and a calm attitude, or pour him a cup of tea, or express his position in a timely manner: "I think so too." "That's true!" "Your point of view" It's exactly the same as mine." This kind of psychological comfort behavior seems to indicate a kind of positive cooperation, making the other person talk to you about their inner feelings.
2． We should actively encourage the other person
When talking to others, we should show an attitude of interest, concern and approval, so that the other person has a strong feeling of being recognized. At this time, you mainly encourage the other party to talk more. If the other party asks you to express your opinion again, generally do not interrupt the other party's train of thought by interrupting. Of course, you can repeat the other party's statements on some detailed issues to show that you value, affirm and strengthen their feelings. "Yes, you can only understand other people's difficulties when you are in such a situation." The repetition of such statements is It is an important psychological support for the other party and also adds to the excitement of his or her speech. At the same time, it may also serve as a prompt "line" for the other party to express his or her inner thoughts and inner world more clearly, such as helping to summarize and give an appropriate description, thereby keeping the other party interested in the conversation. If you want to make the other party open up further, it is necessary to give more sympathy, understanding and sympathy. Let the other person know that you are putting yourself in their shoes. You can often say "I feel the same way when you talk about this", "Although I don't think so, I think you made the truth clear". This will facilitate both parties to strengthen their common ground and promote mutual understanding and communication.
3. Express your opinions sincerely
When talking with others, if you echo every word of the other person without saying "no" or express your true opinions, and follow others' opinions, you will be criticized. If you are regarded as a person who has no independent opinions and is slippery, others will not be willing to make friends with you. In daily life, as long as we express our different opinions to others appropriately, not only will we not offend others, but we will also be very popular and let the other person know that you are seriously considering the issues he raised. Because many of the things we talk about in daily life have no absolute standards of right and wrong. As long as we express our opinions sincerely and perhaps analyze the problem from another side, the other party will generally accept it reasonably. to perfect his idea.
4． Pay attention to changing the topic in a timely manner
No matter how good the topic is, it will be finished at some point. When the interlocutor's interest weakens and he just repeats some unoriginal content, it is time to change the topic. There are many ways to change the topic. For example, you can stop talking about the old topic, be silent for a moment, and let others talk about something to bring up new topics. You can also talk about it after the conversation is interrupted...