Interestingly, among those "mother-fetus single friends", many people who call themselves "mother-fetus single" have actually talked about short-term relationships or long-distance relationships once or twice, but they feel "as if they have never talked about it, and they have no feelings". In this sense, the identity of "single mother and fetus" seems to be a safe haven, where you can accept your emotional ignorance with peace of mind and highlight your simplicity.

Professor Ryan, deputy director of the Institute of Social Psychology of Xi Jiaotong University, pointed out that the growth of the group of "single mothers and fetuses" also reflects the increasing social pressure faced by young people.

In his view, there are mainly two kinds of people in this group: some young people ignore and miss the development of love because of their busy lives, which may lead to cognitive dissonance and constantly imply that "you are not suitable for falling in love" and "you don't want to fall in love"-who doesn't want to be loved?

Another kind of young people, who have suffered a negative emotional blow, have a "learned helplessness" mentality and feel that they can't cope with all kinds of difficulties in the process of love.

"Everyone has his own preferences and has the right to find his own happiness. But if they don't get out of the original social circle, they will find that the people they meet again are not much different from before, and they are likely to remain single. "

Yang Chen, deputy director of Linzi Psychological Counseling Center, also said that for these young people, reflecting on their experiences and summarizing their real needs is the best way to grow up. "Still need to try more emotional aspects. Only by trying can you get feedback, and every attempt can make you gain something. "