Interpret the rules of children's physical and mental development and capture every critical period of growth!

You must listen to this lesson!

There are some things you must understand!

Don’t criticize your child for throwing things when he is one and a half years old. You should give him a lot of things to throw, because this is a sensitive period for his hands.

You should be happy if the 3-year-old does not listen to you and has to do everything by himself, because this is a critical period for the development of self-awareness.

When he was 4 years old, he kept asking all kinds of questions. Please don’t feel annoyed. This is such a good thing!

When you are 5 years old, if he is still clinging to you, don’t think that he loves you, this is not a good thing! Because this is a critical period for peer interaction, he should prefer playing with his peers rather than you...

How old does a child need to be to talk? How old can you hop on one foot? When to learn piano? When is the right time to learn mathematics? When do you have your own ideas? When do you become rebellious? ...This is the law of growth!

There are four stages of growth. The first stage is infancy (0-3 years old). The main characteristics of children at this stage are repetition and imitation. What parents have to do is environment and companionship. At this stage, The lack of companionship will have a great impact on the child's future sense of security.

Infancy is the most important stage in a child's life, because the younger the child, the more critical it is. Parents should not raise their children like pigs. They eat, sleep and eat. The most important thing for physical development is the brain. The brain weight of a child has reached 1kg when he is one year old. Parents should train their children in sensory integration from an early age, such as touching. , do balance exercises, etc.

In the second stage of early childhood (3-6 years old), the main characteristics of children are exploration and thinking, and what parents have to do is to let go and guide.

At the age of 6, a child's brain is close to the brain weight of an adult. His language develops rapidly, and his vocabulary can reach more than 4,000. His thinking and imagination abilities have developed rapidly. He can tell stories repeatedly and remember new words. His emotions and moods are very rich, and he can also Recognize the differences between men and women.

Therefore, this stage is the most important stage of children's ability training. We can improve children's attention, memory, thinking ability, language, self-confidence and good behavioral habits through scientific methods, and Children at this stage also have their own ideas, so we must pay attention to his individual education so that he can form a good character, which will be of great help to his future psychological development.

He will actively think and explore. Parents should learn to let go, instead of teaching him step by step before he is three years old.

The third stage is school age (6-12 years old). The main characteristics of children are communication and innovation, and what parents need to do is determination and motivation.

Children at this stage have very strong oral expression and language understanding abilities, but it may be difficult to sustain their attention. He can also master the text through an imaginative way, and his thinking will change from Concrete image thinking is transformed into abstract thinking, and his personality, moral character, and quality are all growing. He can distinguish right from wrong, know what is right and what is wrong, and he can also do self-evaluation, so both his psychology and personality are good. , will tend to mature.

Therefore, this stage is the most critical period for learning knowledge, skills, and cultivating character and temperament. The most important characteristic of a child during this period is communication. He likes to make friends with others and has an innovative spirit. If you are unwilling to follow the steps and have your own ideas and thoughts, what parents have to do is to help their children establish their ambitions, which is called determination, and motivate them.

The fourth stage is adolescence (12-18 years old). Children are characterized by independence and self-improvement, so what parents have to do is support and recognize them.

We say that the most fearful thing is menopause and puberty.

At the age of 12-18, children's physical development accelerates, secondary nature appears, and personality has sprouted. This stage may also be advanced, because there are more and more cases of children falling in love early, and their psychological development is also accelerated, with abstract thinking taking the lead. , understanding things not only relies on experience but also has theoretical basis. He will demand respect and hope to be recognized and supported by others, but he is unwilling to be restrained. Therefore, parents must communicate more with their children and provide correct guidance.

There are two stages of the parent-child relationship that are most important, one is establishing a sense of security between the ages of 0 and 3, and the other is adolescence between the ages of 12 and 18. If you cannot give correct guidance and recognition, you may encounter strong rebellion in your child. Children are very independent and self-reliant. What parents have to do is to support and recognize them. Sometimes it doesn’t matter if the child makes a mistake, because the child will correct himself when he makes a mistake. We need to cultivate his sense of independence to promote the development of a sound personality.

Everyone knows the story of Langer during the sensitive period of growth. This is equivalent to a 3-4 year old child, so even if more people teach him later, he will not be able to speak because he has missed the sensitivity of language. Expect.

A biologist discovered that when a duck sees a moving animal when it is born, it thinks it is the mother duck and will follow her. So the biologist will follow her wherever he goes. But this phenomenon disappeared after a week. This phenomenon is called imprinting in biology and imprinting in psychology. This phenomenon occurs in animals and humans. This is the sensitive period mentioned by Montessori. If you educate during the sensitive period, it will be very difficult. Well, if you miss the sensitive period, it will be difficult to compensate.

For example, when a child's sensitive period for painting has reached, he will take a paintbrush and paint everywhere. However, many adults do not understand. Parents will think that he will paint the clean wall dirty and will not allow him to paint. As a result, After this period, let the child draw again, but he is no longer interested.

There are several important sensitive periods among the 31 sensitive periods. The baby has a sensitive period to light when he is very young. To let the child adapt to the difference between day and night, the curtains should be closed during the day and the curtains should be closed at night. Turn off the lights and let the child adapt to natural light. Let the child read more black and white visual cards. Don't let the light be too strong to stimulate him.

During the sensitive period of taste, let the child taste the sweet, sour, bitter and spicy. When adding complementary foods at 6-7 months, the taste should not be too strong.

The sensitive period of the oral cavity is mainly reflected when children are around 8 months old. They use their mouths to understand the world. Many children will put a lot of things into their mouths. This period is very normal. If you always Take your child's hands away from his mouth. Then he will like to bite his nails or eat snacks. This means that the oral sensitive period is not overly good.

Sensitive period for hands. At this stage, 1-year-old children will like to throw things. This is the earliest hand-eye coordination exercise. Parents should not restrict this behavior of their children at this time. It will still happen when they are older. Tear off paper towels, etc. These are all sensitive periods for fine movements of the hands. During this period, children must learn to observe things and let them understand the world with ideas.

Language sensitive period, the development of language when more than 2 years old is crucial to the growth of children! Children at this stage are imitating, imitating adults' speech, watching adults' mouth movements, and suddenly speaking. This process is the power accumulated during the sensitive period of language. Therefore, do not let children stay alone at this stage, watching TV or playing alone. Building blocks are not enough. You must talk to him more and create a rich language environment. Whoever takes care of the child at this stage will look like him. If grandma is taking care of her, it is very likely that the child will be able to imitate grandma's walking style.

The sensitive period of self-awareness at the age of 3 years old is the self-recognition period. What children at this stage like to say most is: This is mine! If he puts his things here, he will get angry if you touch them. At this stage, don’t think it’s wrong for him not to share his things with friends. If you force your child to share, it will confuse his self-awareness. He will not be able to distinguish between his own things and other people’s things, and will instead rob others. thing.

If he is willing to fight, you can let him try as long as he doesn't get a bloody head. Nowadays, parents often see two children having a slight friction and pushing each other twice, and the parents will pull away: stop fighting, stop fighting. In fact, neither losing nor winning is the scariest thing. Just like many children now know that they can't be beaten, but they rush to fight more fiercely than anyone else. It's because their parents are so protective and they don't understand their own abilities, so they let their children try more and let them recognize through the experience. Only by knowing yourself and improving your personality can you gain a foothold in the future.

There is another important sensitive period around the age of 3, which is the sensitive period of behavioral habits. Awakening of self-awareness, many people want to do many things by themselves, and pursue perfection. At this stage, parents should guide their children to establish rules, and they must not go back on their word. Repeat the rules 21 times from beginning to end, forming behavioral habits and forming a subconscious mind. This is the key to children becoming self-disciplined in the future. So sometimes it's not the children who can't persevere, but the adults who can't persevere.

The logical thinking period is sensitive at the age of 4. From asking you "what" to asking you "why" and a hundred thousand whys, he has developed his thinking ability while understanding the objective world. We must not get annoyed at this stage, because it is super effective for children to learn things at this stage. The more seriously you answer, the better your child will learn in the future. What should you do if your child knows an answer but continues to ask? Parents, can I ask you a question? Therefore, the best way to practice language and thinking is not for you to speak, but for you to speak less and ask more and listen more.

The age of 5-7 is a sensitive period for learning and cognition. Spend more time with your children and read picture books with a large number of words. It is recommended to use finger reading to read the words.

Sensitive period for painting and music. Music should accompany children throughout their lives. Music is an auditory art and painting is a visual art, which will bring great attraction to children. The cultivation of artistic sense will make the soul nobler and help children establish a good artistic space. What is cultivated is not the child's interest in painting and singing, but the ability to discover and create beauty in life.

There is a sensitive period for interpersonal relationships at the age of 5. At this time, he starts to like playing with his friends. This is the beginning of social interaction. Parents should always ask their children how they play with their good friends. How about it? Help children develop good social skills.

The sensitive period is very important. During the sensitive period, education will achieve twice the result with half the effort. On the contrary, it will be very difficult.