But after meeting Zheng Kai, I will help him make friends. The enlightenment of "My friend is also your friend" is also very warm, and she feels better and better.
She shared that the source of all this came from her childhood experience, and she was very happy with her friends. But later, she realized that people had been scolding her behind her back. It is not uncommon to meet such people, but it can be seen that Xin Wei is a sensitive and delicate person. She always reflects on herself and blames others for their mistakes instead of blaming each other. The most serious word she used was "very hurtful". Maybe it was my fault that I kept it in my heart for a long time.
But in fact, the problem is just the beginning. You treat each other as friends, but they are not. If it's a friend, what's wrong with her? She can say it to your face instead of scolding you behind your back. If you think you can't get along, you won't get along, not playing you on the surface.
Maybe Xin Wei really did something wrong in getting along, but the other party didn't give her positive feedback and gave her a chance to explain or even correct it. If she does, she may find that with such introspection and sensitivity, she won't do bad things on purpose.
Maybe later, the other person completely forgot about it, but you will never forget it, but this must not be the curse of not making friends. Maybe it just makes you more cautious about who deserves to make friends.
Are you worried about not making friends?
In fact, don't worry, you will always meet like-minded friends. Pay attention to the following points when making friends:
1, don't treat others as friends, others will treat you as friends, and don't think too well of people you know and get yourself hurt.
I haven't met unfriendly people, and I will be unfriendly in the future. Don't think too badly of people you know and worry too much.
Don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes. Introspection is a good quality. "Small provinces are good to themselves, and big provinces hurt themselves."
If there is misunderstanding between friends, we should communicate actively first. Talking about you unilaterally behind your back does not mean that you are really wrong, but that you are wrong from the beginning.
5. Bad experiences will have some good values, such as making you more aware of which friends are worth making, and you will naturally get answers when you get along.
6. People who know you are not sent by heaven, but you meet and attract them with your own personality charm. To believe in the kindness of your partner and friends, you must first believe in your own kindness.
7. Not making friends is not a curse. Friends don't need that much. People who understand you are not so difficult, and no curse can drive them away. Recognizing them is enough to break self-doubt.
8. The sentence "As long as there is me, all my friends are your friends" is very gratifying, and people who choose two roads are also very trustworthy, but "friends of friends" still need to be distinguished with their own hearts, which may not be suitable for you.