And everyone will have people who are close to them, and people who may not like them very much.
The characteristics of making friends may be different at different ages. When I was a child, I was almost innocent with my classmates or friends.
In the adult society, we begin to get in touch with the social reality. Whether we get along with colleagues or friends, we should treat them with more tolerance.
So, how to deal with the circle of friends in later years? The more friends the better, or the fewer the better?
A 68-year-old elder sister gave the answer: Sanxi can only be felt by being unsociable.
0 1. There is little gossip around.
Sister Lu is 68 years old. She has been retired for many years and her retirement life is well arranged.
People around her praised her for her good attitude and good spirit. When asked about the secret of keeping in good shape, she said: Don't be too gregarious in old age.
Many people will find it strange that it is not good to fit in. With more friends and liveliness, don't people feel less lonely, lonely and happier?
But Sister Lu said: I used to be very gregarious, especially when I just retired. I feel that I have no job, which is particularly uncomfortable. I seem to have nothing to do every day.
Therefore, make as many friends as possible, not only former colleagues and friends, but also many new friends, such as square dance, tourists and many friends.
But slowly I found that there are not many friends, and many casual friends may bring you a lot of trouble.
Especially some elderly women, love to gossip about others and always talk about others. I don't like this, and I call them hypocritical.
Over time, I drifted away from some so-called friends.
In fact, don't force yourself to join some groups that are not suitable for you. This is the most important thing in your later years.
02. Don't pander to other people's emotions.
It can be said that in social situations, everyone should pay attention to their words and deeds and pay attention to each other's feelings and emotions.
It goes without saying that you meet a considerate, reasonable and consistent friend.
It doesn't matter if you say something wrong occasionally, but if you don't get along with your friends, you must pay attention to your discretion. If you don't pay attention, you may make the other party dissatisfied or unhappy.
So sometimes, friends who are not suitable for themselves, or friends whose views and attitudes towards life are too different, actually need you to force yourself to cater to each other's emotions.
And this kind of socialization can be said to be quite tiring.
Sister Lu said, I just don't like this kind of socialization. Why should I force myself to associate with people I don't agree with? Putting up with your own ideas and catering to others in this way will only increase your old age.
03. Don't flatter insincere friends.
The reason why I think it's better not to have too many friends is because Sister Lu went through a tortuous process to reach a conclusion.
Looking back at the state when she just retired, Sister Lu said that during that time, she really seemed to be very lively, very popular, had many friends and was very busy, but in fact, after reflection, many of them were friends who didn't know much about it.
Even some friends don't agree with themselves, and some sisters may be dissatisfied with family life.
As soon as we get together, we start complaining about our wives and life, which always seems to be full of negative energy. At first, she tried to persuade them to reflect on themselves and look on the bright side of life.
But a few people scolded her instead, and then she didn't talk much.
Therefore, Sister Lu thinks that instead of trying to please some insincere friends, it is better to read a book, watch TV or exercise quietly.
Judging from Sister Lu's experience, after a social retirement, I gradually found that there may not be many friends who really suit me. But having a few confidants in life is enough.
Don't force yourself to do some social activities against your will, cater to others and please others. This kind of retirement life is not only too tired, but also may have a lot of unhappiness.
Being free and loving life is what people in their later years should insist on.
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