I am a person who never deletes other people's friends. Even if you annoy me, I will be left out. I tell you in a euphemistic tone how I feel about you and the way of communication I don't like. At this time, perhaps many people will understand that life will naturally return to peace. I think it's good for both sides to chat with each other on holidays or when something happens, and to keep each other's feelings, because these people, you know, will not be your heart-to-heart friends in life.
The year before last, I met someone in an accidental play. I was not good at refusing people, so I gave the wrong contact information to the other party. At first, I just chatted as an ordinary friend. After I knew his mind, I made it clear that it was impossible, but the other party said that we could be friends. I feel fine. After all, he won't bother me.
Maybe it's my own reason. I have trouble making friends. My best friend has been with me for more than three years (except every day, of course). I only see my best friend two or three times a year. I'm really annoyed that he asks me out again and again, and I will politely refuse, but every time I don't know if he doesn't understand what I mean or what, he will insist on calling every time, but such a name won't cause any fluctuation in my heart, so every chat ends in embarrassment or unhappiness.
After several polite refusals, the other party didn't change much, but said something ambiguous. I also told each other from the beginning that I especially hate ambiguity. There is no ambiguity here, and I don't accept ambiguity, so I said my thoughts completely for the last time, maybe not even euphemistically.
He: "Didn't you say you could be friends before?"
Me: "Your request has exceeded the boundaries of friends."
He: "Good friend"
Me: "Not yet."
I am really tough in this conversation, just because the previous way doesn't work, and I don't want to continue like this, which is not good for both sides. I want to make it clear whether he accepts it or not.
Actually, it's good to have contact with this person several times before. I even thought that he might be my good friend, but then every time he asked me, he wouldn't consider me, which made me very angry.
After getting along for two or three times, friends feel good. When I thought I could be friends, his indifference suddenly puzzled me, and chatting with people around me relaxed me, and at the same time my impression returned to the past.
What left me a bad impression was: 1. When we were together in Beijing, he asked me about the shuttle bus home for a long time, and then bought the same car with me, but he was not there on the day of departure. I always thought I should ask him what was going on, and then he said he had something to do at home and went back first. I don't care and I'm not angry or anything. Of course, he did not explain. As a man with access control, I think it is necessary for me to come back on time, but he always thought I was lying to him until he deleted all his friends. There was no such thing as access control. It was because of the second meeting that I was embarrassed to rush into it, so I talked with him for two or three minutes. When I was locked in, he asked me 10: 30 to go out. I was really angry.
Anyway, I finally told him the truth clearly and clearly, and the tone was more decisive. Then it was deleted by the other party. Because it was the first time to be deleted, I was caught off guard, but I was relieved.
I have always felt that my deficiency is that I can't refuse others well, so I need to exercise myself more in the future.
Finally, thank him for his feelings for me, and wish everything all the best ~
Wish each other a happy life ~