2.？ Lag reaction. For example, behavioral problems occur at 15, 16 years old, and psychological problems occur at 12, 13 years old or even earlier;
3.？ Psychological development has a critical period, which is not easy to miss.
1.？ Attachment period is the most critical period of education, and family education is the most important at this stage.
2.？ The period when people are most prone to accidents in adolescence is the peak of crime.
3.？ Parents have the responsibility and obligation to help them correct any problems when they are minors.
4.？ Personality development is more important than intellectual development.
It is the foundation of all psychological development.
People are helpless at the beginning of life, and the relief of pain comes from caregivers, which is the source of their happy experience.
After half a year old, the earliest emotional development is to recognize people (appearance, sound, smell) and generate attachment, from which caregivers gain psychological capital for raising children, which will directly affect their control over children. (not by scaring)
*? The relationship between people begins with the appearance of people's needs, and the satisfaction of needs must be related to others. Build emotions in the process of satisfaction.
So children should be taken care of by their parents before they are one and a half years old.
What really loves parenting must be nagging. It's too early to nag about raising children.
Influenced by the development of speech, children are extroverted, talkative and good at dealing with people;
1.？ Social development determines cognitive development (social behavior cognition);
2.？ Aside from innate intelligence factors, children with strong concentration (often introverted) contribute to cognition (intelligence level cognition).
Emotional control: if the baby's early discomfort is not alleviated, it will be easy to cry and get emotional, and the well-raised children (who have a high response to their needs) will be more peaceful.
Ideas are formed in people's subconscious, mainly by parents' words and deeds and parents' indoctrination.
For example:
Dirty, shy, greedy, right and wrong, die for face.
The influence of ideas on people is very important. Parents and decent children will not have a big problem.
Personality is an acquired social behavior pattern.
Social behavior means that it must be related to others, but the concept is not necessarily related to others.
For example, the following personalities (with ideas in them): jealousy, family values, respect for women, respect for the elderly and love for the young.
Intellectual behavior (for example, good or bad study)
Temperament behavior (for example, bad temper, short temper)
Ideas and beliefs (for example, does it make sense to do something)
Social behavior (must be related to others: kindness, enthusiasm, tolerance, selfishness, cruelty, indifference, etc. )
Family concept: being sensible and not sensible lies entirely in education; Do housework in the early years, share worries for the family, participate in the discussion of things at home, and help solve difficulties at home.
Before the age of 6 is a critical period of character formation, we should pay attention to the following aspects:
Restrain willfulness, prevent oppression, learn to control, learn to endure, prevent selfishness and experience setbacks.
People's views and cognition are changing all their lives, but their personality will not change.
Say "no" to children before the age of six,
Practice method: If the child cries, roll around without beating or scolding, watch him (don't go away), then watch him cry until he is tired, give him some love (wipe his face) and ask him, "Are you still crying?" If you haven't cried enough, continue to cry. " Tell your child, "It's no use crying without meaning." .
"If you want to achieve your goal, you can convince me and we can discuss it together": the ratio of 3 to 1 can be met every three times, which can not only improve children's persuasiveness, but also prevent depression.
Children's self-control ability when their parents are not around.
Practice method: give delicious food every three days for half a month to a month. I won't eat this time. Let the child keep it for three days. After three days, add it to three. If you eat it, it will be gone in three days. Cultivate self-control ability.
Restrain impulse, patience
Practice method: Wait and control eating.
The children are hungry at 4-5 pm, and the adults will come back for dinner at 6 o'clock. Children can't move until adults move chopsticks. The most basic human suffering is hunger. Only when you are in pain can you feel the pain of others.
The correct way: share for the family, otherwise it will become selfish; Wrong way: manage yourself well without a housekeeper.
Practice methods: share housework and discuss housework together;
I have a home in my heart, so I have to give it to my elders first.
Willpower does not come from intelligence, but from physical strength.
Practice methods: zipper, exercise, suggest swimming, remind children to remember the consciousness of struggling desperately when flooded. "As long as they are still fluttering, they can always survive."
All the above should be practiced and strengthened repeatedly before the age of 6, and the sooner the better.
Psychological problems can be pushed back, one ring at a time.
For example, there are two sides, and the dependence on disciplines is inconsistent;
Stealing money:/kloc-I stole it before the age of 0/6, and I didn't care at home;
? Adolescence, also known as sexual development, is also a period of psychological resistance.
This stage is the remedial period of early education defects, and it has not been completely qualitative, and it is basically qualitative after 2 1 year.
Adolescence is the peak of crime, and the survey made in Britain: 14 years old: the peak of mining; 15- 16: addiction: internet or drugs.
Two changes:
Physiology: height (visual advantage), sexual development (ejaculation, menstruation)
Psychology: independence, self-esteem, rebellion, companionship, fantasy, sexual consciousness awakening.
Independence: Take charge of your own affairs, be unconventional, avoid parental interference, talk less about your own affairs, nag, find your own beliefs, and run away from home;
Self-esteem: strong self-esteem and caring about what others think of him;
Rebellion: doubt the unconfirmed warnings in the past, deny the authority of the past and do the opposite;
Companionship: No longer ask for help from family and teachers, but choose companions. If a child makes friends with bad children, it may be because someone bullies him, so parents should observe more, know more about making friends with bad children and find a sense of security;
Fantasy: (Cause) Imaginative thinking develops, but social experience is insufficient, fiction or network makes up for the lack of imagination, leading to fantasy;
Sexual awakening.
(To understand children; Children should be guided downstream like water control, rather than forced gambling; Pay attention to survival education, not just exam education; To understand what children like and what they are good at; You must affirm your child before you can have a heart-to-heart relationship with your child; Parents should not belittle each other in front of their children, maintain good heterosexual communication in the family and set an example; Parents should look higher and farther than their children, and pay attention to the art of speaking);
1.？ We should change the tone of "demands and orders" to "discussion"
Observe more, talk less and stop, such as "then do it yourself", instead of saying "you must admit that you are wrong and you must do something"; "Isn't it better to decide for yourself?" .
2.？ Children should be treated with respect as their "colleagues" or "friends"
We should treat our children equally and treat them as our friends.
3.？ Let the child "participate" in the major events at home and let him share the worries and responsibilities.
If you have difficulties at home (even if you don't need children to solve them), you should discuss with them. Listen to their opinions first, let them learn to participate and share, and let them get a sense of accomplishment.
4.？ We should be good at discovering the problems of our own educational methods from children's attitudes.
Don't put too much pressure on children. It is more important to cultivate sunny children. Man's success lies in his character. Parents should pay more attention to their children's all-round development, not just their intellectual development. Always pay attention to children and ask, "Are you happy at school? Did someone bully you? Is the teacher good to you? Do you have anything to say to your parents? "
5.？ Pay attention to children's best friends and family background.
For example, on a child's birthday, let the child bring his good friend to dinner at home, talk about his family, observe his good friend's conduct and inquire about his family background. If you feel bad about this good friend, parents can put forward their own opinions to their children, explain the reasons for feeling bad, ask their children if they agree, and let them think for themselves. If a child can't get rid of bad friends, parents should find out in time and help him. Communicate more and pay more attention.
6.？ Pay attention to the child's interest, appreciate it as much as possible, and then guide his interest.
When you are addicted to the internet, you should appreciate it first, instead of denying it blindly and then guiding you. Sign up for a table tennis class, play games with children, go out for activities and play together, and the games are diversified! Children's internet addiction is caused by psychological problems and single feelings. Knowledge is not limited to books, but open to children and society; Make friends; Learning sports music and cultivating children's extensive interests can avoid addiction and make up for the lack of imagination.
7.？ Give children trust!
Give advice to your child, but don't let him enforce it. Sit tight and believe that children can overcome it.
8.？ Proud of his kindness, success and responsible performance!
Parents should help their children build self-confidence!
If you find a child in puppy love, don't peek at the child's things and criticize them, pretend not to see them, and divert the child's attention, not ban them.
If the child tells the parents, you can congratulate the child. It is a good thing that someone likes or likes others, which shows that the child is caring and attractive, but he is not old enough to take responsibility. Will it change in the future? If you don't stop him, let him see what he will be like in ten years. Whether he wants to get married or not, he won't continue his studies.
Fully trust and grasp the discretion.
For a girl, tell her that it is ok to fall in love, but you can't give yourself to others easily. This is not a cheap product.
Discuss with children at an appropriate time: what is the relationship between love and marriage; What is true love, and how to see whether a person loves you or not; Love is beautiful, but at a certain distance, what is dangerous and impossible to do; Understand what sexual intercourse is through the animal world, and don't avoid the topic.
According to the characteristics of age, we can talk about gender charm in junior high school and the history of human sexuality in senior high school, so that they can understand the development of human sexuality, why it is related to morality and law, property inheritance, consanguineous marriage and so on. And make it clear in a scientific and historical way.
Five topics: What does sex mean? Gender charm and self-cultivation, gender charm and socialization; The meaning of equivalence between morality and law; Physiological knowledge.
The father wants to discuss with his son the advantages of his mother, how he liked her at the beginning, and what are the good qualities of girls; Similarly, mothers should discuss the advantages of fathers with their daughters; Guide children to choose the eyes of the opposite sex; If you want to tell your children, you will have children a year later after you get married. You have to transition for a while to see if they really suit each other.
Communication mode: you can use written communication instead of direct speech; If face-to-face communication is awkward, you can take your child for a walk and say.
Discuss the true meaning of life with children and what is the most important thing in life.
For example, "You go to school, I jump off a building. What would you do? "
Discuss the meaning of life with children: what is the most precious thing in life? Why is it precious? How to protect our lives?
(1) Be healthy and stay away from unhealthy things;
(2) Freedom to abide by the law;
(3) Friendship, affection, friendship and colorful life.
(4) sense of responsibility; Treat others as you treat others.
(5) Milestone anniversary: children's 14 years old, 16 years old and 18 years old.
14 years old: children should be responsible for themselves, don't take other people's things, don't kill and set fire;
16 years old: I started to study law and have legal awareness.
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