During the Warring States Period, Lian Po was a famous soldier of Zhao. Being honored as Shangqing, Lin Xiangru "returned to Zhao in one piece". Soon after, he was appointed as a doctor, Mianchi Qin met Zhao, and maintained Zhao's dignity, so he was promoted to Shangqing, above Lian Po. Lian Po refused to accept this and threatened: "If I see him, I must humiliate him." After Lin Xiangru found out, he deliberately refused to meet Lian Po. Others think that Lin Xiangru is afraid of Lian Po, but Lian Po is proud of it. But Lin Xiangru said, "Why should I be afraid of General Lian? But now the state of Qin is a little afraid of our state of Zhao, mainly because of me and General Lian. If he and I attack each other, it will only benefit Qin. The reason why I avoid General Lian is to focus on national affairs and put personal grievances aside! " When this word reached Lian Po's ears, Lian Po was very moved, so he went to Lin Xiangru's house to confess his sins, went shirtless and held a scepter. He said to Lin Xiangru in shame, "I'm such a fool. I didn't expect you to be so generous! " "Two people finally became friends who vowed to share life and death.
It is generally believed that what you get by doing something wrong is fair. But the English poet Keats said, "People should tolerate each other. Everyone has shortcomings. In his weakest aspect, everyone can be cut into mud. " Everyone has weaknesses and defects, and everyone can make such mistakes. As abusers, we should try our best to avoid hurting others, but as parties, we should tolerate each other with a broad mind, avoid resentment and negative emotions, eliminate artificial tension and heal physical and mental wounds. Jefferson, the third president of the United States, and Adams, the second president, turned from evil to forgiveness, which is a vivid example.
On the eve of his inauguration, Jefferson went to the White House to tell Adams that he hoped the tit-for-tat campaign had not destroyed their friendship. But it is said that before Jefferson could speak, Adams growled, "You drove me away! You drove me away! " From then on, the two men didn't make friends for several years until Jefferson's neighbors visited Adams. The strong old man was still telling the embarrassing story, but then he blurted out, "I always liked Jefferson, and I still like him." Neighbors told Jefferson about it, and Jefferson invited a familiar friend to tell him about his deep friendship. Later, Adams wrote back to him, and they started the greatest correspondence in American history. This example tells us what a precious spirit and noble personality generosity is.
Generosity means understanding and tolerance. It is a catalyst for the integration of interpersonal relationships and a fastener for the bridge of friendship. Generosity can also turn hostility into friendship. When Dale Carnegie introduced the author of Little Women on the radio, he absently said the wrong place. One of the listeners wrote to reprimand him severely and scolded him to pieces. He really wanted to write back and tell her, "I said the wrong location of the area, but I have never seen such a rude woman as you." But he controlled himself and didn't fight back at her. He encouraged himself to turn enemies into friends. He asked himself, "If I were her, would I be as angry as her?" He tried to think about it from her point of view. He called her, repeatedly admitted his mistake and apologized to her. The lady finally expressed her love for him, hoping to further deepen her friendship with him. Generosity is a good medicine to relieve acne, and broadmindedness is a good way to make friends. Tolerance can win the friendship of friends and broaden your own path.
Everything in the world, man-made accidents can embody tolerance. There are many examples of tolerance in life. Family conflicts and differences, family harmony is happiness, brothers are brothers, sisters are friends, and a family brother sells out and kills each other, turning against each other for money, just like a disabled hand and foot, it is impossible to live alone. Therefore, brothers are brothers, brothers and sisters are disabled, and we can still talk about brothers.
If everyone has a tolerant heart and doesn't sell his dignity for fame and fortune, and the feelings of brothers and sisters are tolerant, open-minded and not narrow-minded, there will be many literate, cultivated and moral people in the world, and there will be thousands of brothers and harmonious families in Qian Qian, which will bring warmth to people, more filial sons and parents will get more spiritual support from their children. This society will be a harmonious, civilized, democratic and prosperous society. It is true that friends should understand each other and tolerate each other, regardless of their own gains and losses. With a tolerant heart, there will be more friends and more good partners who are loyal to each other, attach importance to feelings, share weal and woe, and see the truth in adversity. Everyone understands and forgives each other. He is a kind and tolerant person.
Many examples have proved that tolerance is an indispensable part of people's lives and a way to build democracy and prosperity. Tolerance is the inner beauty of human beings, the spiritual pillar of human beings and the bond for friends to live in harmony.
A venerable elder found a chair by the high wall of a temple one night and knew by feeling that someone had used it to cross the fence outside the temple. The elder removed the chair and waited here. At midnight, the young monk who went out climbed the wall and jumped on the chair. He felt that the chair was not harder, softer or even more elastic than before. After landing, the young monk looked intently. It turned out that he jumped on the elder's back and the young monk left in a hurry. For a time, he waited for the pity of his elders with trepidation. But this elder didn't mention this thing at all: "Heaven knows the earth, you know me". Inspired by the tolerance of his elders, the young monk stopped his heartbeat and never climbed over the wall again. Through hard training, he became the leader of the temple, and a few years later, he became the elder of the temple.
An electrical appliance company in Japan, a factory under it was set on fire because of careless management. After that, the factory director was scared all day, because he knew that the chairman of the company was extremely strict with his subordinates, and sometimes he even found fault with the phone. The director predicted that the company might dismiss him. However, to his great surprise, after receiving the report, the chairman simply said, "Forget it, do it well in the future!" " "Later, the factory director was grateful and worked hard. After a period of hard work, he made remarkable achievements and was promoted to vice chairman of the company.
The chairman of the company can be said to be proficient in human psychology. Indeed, many minor mistakes made by subordinates are not easy for the parties concerned to detect, so it needs to be clearly corrected: "fine steel has been tested by fire, and his strict teacher makes a master". But if we take a generous approach to the big mistakes caused by accidental carelessness of subordinates, the effect will be better.
A worker was arrested and imprisoned because of his weak will and carelessness at the critical moment of production, which caused a major accident. In prison, he was punished as he deserved. He regretted it, but instead of being depressed, he realized his responsibility and strengthened his self-confidence. On the eve of his release from prison, he wrote a letter to the factory director, in which he wrote: "I have clearly realized my sins and I am very sorry for everyone. I'm about to get out of prison and start a new life. I will pass by our factory by train the day after tomorrow. As an original employee of the factory, I implore you and everyone to accept my confession. If you can fulfill this wish, please raise a flag when I pass by the station where the factory is located, and I will see its car; Otherwise, where the train takes me, I will go ... "He finally got out of prison with a remorseful heart and a pair of lost eyes. Near the station, he closed his eyes slightly and prayed silently for his fate. He opened his eyes, ah, what did he see? Unless you're dizzy. He rubbed his eyes hard and saw someone holding all kinds of colorful flags at the station. It's them! It's them! The workmates shouted his name. Their friendly voice aroused his strong desire and confidence in life. Before the bus stopped, he threw himself into the crowd in tears. Later, he became an excellent worker.
Friends, treat life with a tolerant heart, treat friends with a tolerant heart, treat relatives with a tolerant heart, and treat everything with a tolerant heart. You will find that the world will show different colors, and it will show excitement and happiness that you have never found before.