One of the more annoying things about modern people is that they are constantly disturbed by various information, but at the same time they suffer from the symptoms of loneliness.

After I went to school, I continued to join some group chats. In addition to family groups and class groups, after work, I also joined various work groups, which were full of messages every day. As soon as I opened my phone and saw a lot of messages, I suddenly became irritated, especially being @ constantly. The most annoying thing is that all irrelevant groups such as family groups, classmate groups, and dating groups can be blocked directly, but work groups cannot.

I am very afraid that someone will @all members in the work group. No matter what they are doing at the time or whether it is during working hours, they must click on it and check it carefully. I feel like my time is completely taken up by work anytime and anywhere, without any chance to breathe.

Some people say that you can just block it. How can it be that easy? You won’t lose your job or anything.

The world of adults only consists of silent patience and maintaining a good attitude. Even if you are bombarded with messages and feel uncomfortable, you must learn to turn on your phone gently and pretend to handle all messages calmly.

When you open the WeChat message list and look at the row of red dots and numbers in the group chat on the left, there are often hundreds or thousands of unread messages, and you feel an instant feeling of extreme discomfort in your heart.

Under the influence of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I have to click one by one to eliminate those red dot numbers

Elementary school group, junior high school group, high school group, alumni group, dormitory group, family group, family group Groups, parent groups, work groups, project groups, order shopping groups, purchasing groups...

Various large and small group chats completely occupy the screen. And those really important communication windows between us have been squeezed eight thousand miles away.

Presumably the original intention of the group chat function was to quickly convey information and improve communication efficiency, but now various group chat messages distract us too much and waste our time. .

The function of the group has evolved from simple multi-person conversations and group chats at the beginning, to derivative functions such as showing off children, canvassing, promoting, and bargaining, which may have been unexpected by product managers.

A survey by a certain social survey center showed that 75.4% of the respondents felt that group chats had disturbed their normal lives. Only 14.4% of the respondents believed that group chats did not take up too much time. There are also 0.8% of respondents who have never joined any group.

There are more and more red dots in the list, and the lives of contemporary people are becoming more and more collapsed.

How to avoid feeling uncomfortable in group chats?

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Wherever there is a group, it is even more the same - because there are so many people in the group.

Some time ago, the election for the parent committee of a primary school in Shanghai became a hot topic: parents in the group tried their best to get into the parent committee. Parents revealed their well-known foreign company executives, prestigious school education, kindergarten parent committee work experience, personal hobbies and network resources that can help the development of the class, etc., all in this small class group. All of a sudden, people in the group were coming and going, with sharp words, treacherous clouds, and flashes of swords. This is a competition of social masters, and it is also a duel of family background.

The election manifesto of the Parent Committee was circulated online.

Maybe not every parent group is full of great people, but you must be familiar with groups that follow the formation and send more than a dozen "Thank you, teacher!" after every notification from the teacher.

Faced with a group of parents who are in such deep water but cannot withdraw, in addition to trying not to disturb others and not adding spam messages, the only thing they can do is silently select "Do Not Disturb".

If the parent group is too far away from you, then do you still dare to "do not disturb" the various groups related to work?

Some netizens once complained about the expansion of group chats, which has mixed work and life together, and the boundaries between work and get off work have become blurred. When the leader speaks in the group to assign work during off-duty hours, whether you are watching a movie or working out, you must always respond in time, otherwise you will anger the leader and not mention it, and you will most likely miss work.

Some groups cannot be blocked.

However, even if we understand the disadvantages of group chat, we still cannot escape the curse of replying to leaders’ messages instantly.

After all, those professionals in Jiutu Moments who did not reply to the messages sent by their leaders to the group, but instead made riotous remarks, may have been run over by the wheel of reality several times.

If "Do Not Disturb" can't save you, then there is no good solution except to bite the bullet and check your phone every now and then.

The biggest problem with group chat is that it breaks the sense of proportion

In addition to being efficient and convenient, a big reason why people fall in love with online social networking is the sense of proportion.

Moments can be grouped and visible, and people you don’t like can be blocked. If you are bored, you can ignore them. This kind of just right social experience can easily distinguish the level of each person’s social circle.

A sense of propriety is something that Chinese people who grew up in being pushed back and forth against their will in receiving lucky money have a hard time experiencing.

But group chat breaks this sense of proportion in many cases.

The work group and the family group are like a conference with seats arranged according to status. It is impossible not to reply, and it is even worse to reply wrongly. As for two people talking to each other in a large group, regardless of other people's opinions, or directly @ someone in a large group, it is a kind of transgression and hurts this sense of propriety.

Over time, the group chat became filled with the trivialities and rules of real life and became a mess.

When you open the WeChat message list and look at the row of red dots and numbers in the group chat on the left, there are often hundreds or thousands of unread messages, and you feel an instant feeling of extreme discomfort in your heart. Under the influence of obsessive-compulsive disorder, I had to click one by one to eliminate those red dot numbers.

Various large and small group chats completely occupy the screen. And those really important communication windows between us have been squeezed eight thousand miles away. Presumably the original intention of the group chat function was to quickly convey information and improve communication efficiency, but now various group chat messages distract us too much and waste our time. The function of the group has evolved from simple multi-person conversations and group chats at the beginning, to derivative functions such as showing off children, canvassing, promoting, and bargaining, which may have been unexpected by product managers.

Some groups, such as work, cannot be blocked. However, even if we understand the disadvantages of group chat, we still cannot escape the curse of replying to leaders’ messages instantly. After all, those professionals in the Jiutu Moments who don’t reply to the messages sent by their leaders to the group, but instead make lewd comments, may have been run over by the wheel of reality several times.

The reason why people fall in love with online social networking is not only efficient and convenient, but also a big reason is the sense of proportion. Friends circles can be grouped and visible, and people you don't like can be blocked. If you are bored, you can ignore them. This kind of just the right social experience can easily distinguish the level of each person's social circle. The sense of propriety is something that Chinese people who grew up in being pushed back and forth against their will can hardly experience.

Looking at group chat messages really gives you the illusion of being the prime minister of a country!

Nowadays, we live in various relationships and various things need to be dealt with in group chats. It is true that the amount of information is becoming more and more "overwhelmed". Sometimes when I take a break from work, I find that there are red dots in so many WeChat groups on my mobile phone. Clicking on them one by one is basically irrelevant, but it actually wastes our precious time and makes our mood even more stagnant. None of them hope so.

Therefore, the curator feels that the blocking function can be used. Specifically, group chats can be handled as follows:

Undoubtedly, work and family groups are the highest level, that is, Things that are most closely related to you, but generally work needs to be handled in a timely manner, so you can set the work and family groups to be on the top, but the family group is blocked (muted), and the work group is not muted

Others All groups will be muted. Then someone may ask, what should I do if I miss important information? This is easy to handle. We take 2 periods of time every day to focus on checking, store and collect important information, and organize it when we get home, so that we can do it most efficiently in the shortest time.

For groups that have no actual value, exit directly. Half of them are basically unnecessary if they have not participated in discussions for about 3 months. If it is inconvenient to exit due to face, you can only set mute.

Generally, there are people in group chats who collect information, or people who are enthusiastic about sharing. When you check it together, you only need to search for the person's name in "View group chat information", and then all his information will be available at a glance.

Here are the steps:

If you know how to use these methods, the noise and impact of group chats will be much lower. Simplifying our lives is necessary.

(Some pictures are collected from the Internet and deleted)

In today's information age, WeChat, as a chat tool, has been popularized in most people's mobile phones, giving us Life has brought a lot of convenience. Almost everyone around me has downloaded the WeChat APP on their mobile phones. Since WeChat is a communication tool, it is inevitable to have various contact groups in WeChat. Then The number of people in the group has reached several hundred, so there is a lot of information in it. There will always be a lot of red dots displayed in some irrelevant groups. When we open WeChat, we will see those red dots more or less. , there will be some phobias, especially for people with trypophobia, it is more terrifying. I think it is necessary to block some groups. Only in this way can we reduce those red dots and no longer be so afraid when opening WeChat. Anxiety, when there are less unnecessary red dots in our WeChat tools, maybe we will be in a much better mood and feel less stressed when using them.

The information is endless, but human energy is limited, and we must manage our energy reasonably.

I suggest dividing WeChat groups into 4 types.

The first type is important and urgent, such as work groups, which are related to one's own livelihood. If any important news is not received, it will affect the work. This cannot be blocked at all.

The second type is important but not urgent. For example, family groups or something like that. (If there is anything important, your family will call you). This can be blocked, but you should check it every day to see if there is any new content?

Category 3 is unimportant but urgent. For example, for a group of colleagues, if there is a party at night, it would be very embarrassing not to receive notification. You can take a look at this when you are about to get off work.

Category 4 is unimportant and not urgent. For example, Taobao coupon group and community chat group. Just block it directly.

The suggestions are as follows for reference:

1. Think about whether it will affect your work and life if you close it. WeChat is already a commonly used communication tool for Chinese people;

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2. Analyze the reasons why you are afraid of the little red dot, whether you are worried about missing important information or afraid of constant unpredictable work requirements and interpersonal relationship requests;

3. Fixed processing and viewing Centralized processing of WeChat messages;

4. If necessary for work and life, set special information notifications for messages from important relationship figures;

Now everyone has them on WeChat There are many WeChat groups, including work colleagues (including the unit, system, superiors and subordinates, special work, specific work, etc.), classmates (including elementary school, junior high school, high school, university, the same grade, liberal arts and sciences) etc.), life (shopping, ordering, price reduction, promotion, travel, childcare, medical treatment, financial management, consultation, etc.), WeChat group chat has affected people’s work and life, Sometimes I even get kidnapped by WeChat group chats, and I unconsciously open WeChat groups every day to read the group chat records. Most of the group chat records have little to do with me, but I still read them, and it has no meaning in my work and life. Therefore, when it comes to WeChat group chats, we should make subtractions, delete those that are necessary or not, leave those that can be added or not, and leave those that can be exited. Be a simple person, be a pure person.

To shield, life is about subtraction. Only by focusing on doing what you like can you live a full life. You must calm down.

The philosophical answer is that life is inherently meaningless and human suffering. But when a person concentrates on doing what he likes and devotes a lot of time to the things he likes and the people he likes, this process gives meaning to life.

So I answered your question seriously. Although it wasted three minutes, these three minutes of thinking made me progress and enriched me.

Put yourself in my shoes. Look at my answer. You also spent three minutes. In these three minutes, you also lived the breadth of life. You gained something. We are the winner!