A collection of Dale Carnegie’s classic quotes

1. In fact, you can’t win an argument. If you lose, you lose. Even if you win, you lose. What's the reason? Even if you win over the other person and talk him down thoroughly, you may feel that you are relieved of your hatred at the time, but because you forced the other person to be inferior to you and hurt his self-esteem, you will cause him to resent you for life. .

2. The trick to communicating with others is to talk about the most pleasant things about others.

3. Those who have made great achievements are mostly those who continue to work hard in seemingly hopeless situations.

4. The biggest difference between successful people and losers is that successful people will try to benefit from failure and try other methods.

5. If you haven’t succeeded in something you really want to do, don’t give up. Most successful people have this belief. You must know that setbacks are inevitable, and the important thing is how to overcome them. Persevere and overcome setbacks, and the world is at your feet.

6. As long as you change your mind, you can change your life.

7. If you are truly interested in others, I believe you will make many friends in no more than two months; definitely more friends than you can make in two years trying to attract others' attention. Simply put, another way to make friends is to make yourself a friend to others.

8. Taking someone else's name seriously is equivalent to giving him a compliment, which means that he has left a very deep impression on you. Remembering other people's names makes them feel important.

9. If you can make a person laugh from the bottom of his heart, it means that your friendship with him has begun. A person who is willing to laugh at you, more or less, likes you, at least he does not reject you.

10. Don’t miss any opportunity to do good, and think about what it means to you every day. You may not be able to understand all the meaning, but at least if you help others, it is an expression of kindness, and others will at least reciprocate a certain degree of kindness.

11. Making an appointment with someone means that you have gained a little trust from the other person. If you cannot keep your word, you will be taking it from the other person without telling them. Of course, you are not stealing the money from his pocket. It's about stealing his time, something he can never get back after losing it, and you also lose his trust in you.

12. The most important quality of human beings is not the ability to execute, nor a great mind, nor kindness, nor courage, nor a sense of humor, although these are extremely important. I personally think that the most important thing is the ability to make friends. When it comes to its essence, it is actually the ability to appreciate the advantages of others.

13. We should be humble, because you and I are all mortals, and maybe a hundred years from now, you and I will be completely forgotten. Life is too short to annoy people with our small achievements. Let us encourage others to talk more!

14. Many times, we can tell others that they are wrong with just a look, a tone of voice or a gesture. However, will you get his praise if you tell him you are wrong? Absolutely impossible! Because your performance is tantamount to denying his knowledge, judgment, and honor. This will arouse his anger, but it will not make him change his mind. You can tell him about Plato's rational views or the immortal Kant, but you can't change his opinion because you have hurt his feelings and self-esteem.

15. Let us remember the person we are talking to, because he is much more interested in himself, his needs, and his problems than in us and our problems. Even if a million people died from famine in Africa, it would not be as important as his toothache. A sarcoma on his neck would be more concerning to him than the earthquake in Asia. Think about this every time you start a conversation with someone.

16. There is only one way to get others to do things.

You know what it is? Yes, there is only one way, and that is to make him want to do it. Record

17. Of course, you can put a revolver to someone's head to make him hand over money; the boss can also threaten employees with firing to co-operate with you, but only when you can see it. When they are young, a whip can send the children wherever they want. Although these methods can be effective, these coercive measures will only cause stronger backlash.

18. Letting others get what they want is the only way we can make them do things voluntarily.

19. Why don’t we use the common sense of dog training to change others? Why not replace the whip with pieces of meat? Why not use praise instead of punishment? Even if his improvement is small, we should praise him, so Only then can we encourage the other party to continue to improve.

20. It is actually easy to make others happy. Just say a few words of sincere appreciation to those who are lonely and discouraged. Maybe what you say today will be forgotten tomorrow, but the recipient will cherish it for a lifetime.

21. If you want others to hate you and let them remember your badness for the rest of their lives, we only need to say a few harsh words to them, regardless of whether what you say makes sense or not.

22. When getting along with others, remember that not all people are rational. What we are facing is a person full of emotions and prejudices. Only by giving him dignity and face can we move his heart.

23. Once there is a rift in your marriage, try this: write down all the advantages of your spouse, and list the characteristics that you feel are more difficult to get along with next to the advantages. Make a comparison. You may There will be very unexpected discoveries.

24. Don’t let hatred fill your heart. Don't be afraid to give in when you have conflicts with others, because only small people always insist on their own opinions to maintain their dignity; only those who are willing to reach out and confess their mistakes to others and propose to start over can be called magnanimous. people.

25. If you can spend one day being kind and considerate to others, you can continue to do so. You have nothing to lose by doing this, so why not start now?

26. Forget about yourself for a while and start being interested in others! Do something that can bring laughter to others every day.

27. In a dispute, you will get the greatest benefit only by avoiding it, because avoiding it is like avoiding snakes, scorpions or earthquakes.

28. Many disputes can only make both parties insist that they are right.

29. If we have accepted the worst, we have nothing to lose.

30. In addition to the habit of being cautious, a high-spirited businessman must also have the two strengths of agility and non-conformity.

31. Walking towards a certain goal is "ambition", and never stopping midway is "qi". The combination of the two is "ambition". The success or failure of all careers depends on this.

32. If you want to make friends, you must first do something for others? Things that require time, physical strength, thoughtfulness, and dedication to do.

33. Private property, the law of accumulation of wealth, the law of competition, all of these are the highest results of human experience and are the soil from which society has produced the best fruits so far.

34. Anyone who does not care about others will definitely suffer major difficulties in his lifetime and greatly harm other people. It is this kind of person who leads to all kinds of human mistakes.

35. The principle of caring for others is the same as that of other interpersonal relationships. It must be sincere. Not only the person who gives care should do so, but also the person who receives care.

36. Actions speak louder than words. Smiling at others means to show them: "I like you, you make me happy, and I like to see you."

37. Everyone in the world is looking for happiness, but there is only one really effective way, and that is to control your thoughts. Happiness does not care about the external situation, but depends on the inner situation.

38. Action seems to follow the feeling, but this is not the case. Action is parallel to the feeling. We can make the actions directly controlled by the will regular, and we can also indirectly make the actions not directly controlled by the will. The control is regular.

39. A simple, obvious, and most important way to gain favor is to remember other people's names and make them feel important to them.

40. Most people can’t remember other people’s names just because they don’t put in the necessary effort and energy to remember. They make excuses for themselves: they are too busy.

41. A persistent critic, even the fiercest critic, will soften and surrender in the presence of a patient and compassionate listener.

42. If you want to be a good conversationalist, be a good listener first.

43. If you want to make others like you, if you want others to be interested in you, one thing you should pay attention to is: talk about things that interest others.

44. The reason why some people have communication difficulties in real life is because they have forgotten an important principle: making others feel important.

45. The deepest driving force in human nature is the importance of hope. Treat others how you want others to treat you.

46. My motto is: The first is honesty, the second is diligence, and the third is dedicated to work.

47. A person who does not pay attention to small things will never achieve great things. Record

48. Try to work in a comfortable environment. Remember, physical tension can create shoulder pain and mental fatigue.

49. If you can be humble enough on the road of life, you will be able to broaden the world, eliminate all difficulties, and resolve all entanglements.

50. Life is like a stage. If you just describe one thing, you will not be able to impress people. ;