The word friend, like the moon, is timeless classical and noble, but we don't have to look up at it all day like the moon. The subtext of Mr. Lu Xun's "It is enough to get a confidant in life" is that for most people, life can't even get a confidant: getting a confidant is an adventure in life, and not getting a "confidant" belongs to the normal state of life, so failure should not be counted. It is very important to understand this layer and not blindly regard good friends as life confidants. For those who like to think of themselves as confidants of others, Chinese has specially invented a word to describe them, which is called "fake confidants": it is not a good word at first glance. A bosom friend is a kind of fate. From the generation principle, this fate is even more rare than the "amazing unfinished love" in the love between men and women, which is "looking for him thousands of times and suddenly looking back, but the man is in the dim light". The basic wisdom of making friends is that if you want to find a friend without faults, you will have no friends. Expecting people by the standard of confidant will only become demanding in most cases. Giving up treating friends as friends is actually the first way to make friends. It seems a bit low-key and disappointing to say this, but I want to emphasize the other side: friends must cherish it. I think it is advisable to look at friends with eyes slightly upward (if the angle is accurate, it is most appropriate to raise the line of sight by 15 degrees). This measure is very important. If it is too high, it will be unfamiliar. If it is too low, it may also lower the level of communication. The beauty of getting along with friends is that they are close, laughing and scolding, and all get along well, but not everyone can learn this realm. This is too much like an art or seclusion, but it is also common for artists to turn against each other. As for the elegant things among experts, especially when they are untrue, we can't just remember the mountains and rivers in the Boya period and forget that "Guan Ning gave up his seat." The function of friends is simply to "get along". What kind of friends you treat, you will get what kind of friends; Your attitude towards your friends will also show your taste and quality of life again and again. It is natural for friends to help each other, but always thinking about friends from the perspective of "whether it is profitable or not" will inevitably lead to the fate of gathering and dispersing interests. Even if corrupt officials are not brought to justice, the cruel contrast between their situation after abdication and the scene of "singing in the courtyard and going downstairs under the lamp" every day when they were in office is enough to punish his loneliness. In my opinion, the most ridiculous person in the world is the one who complains about the unfaithfulness and injustice of his friends all day. If a friend is "unfaithful and unjust" to him, I am almost sure that it is because he does not deserve to enter the loyalty hall of friendship. The way your friends treat you is often an accurate reflection of how you treat your friends. Those who calculate others will also be calculated by others; If you treat people with your uncle's anger, others may seize the opportunity to put your uncle in front of him; If you flatter your friends all day and are looked down upon by others, don't cry. On the other hand, words like "be honest with others" and "care about others" will never become cliches, just as the moon will never become tacky even if you stare at it every day. Don't complain that the world is getting worse. True friends, mostly treat each other with affection, are born out of interest, meet with reason, and get together because of anger. To put it bluntly, people who are used to complaining about their friends are probably people who don't deserve to be accepted as friends.