1, starting from Yan value
Everyone has a love of beauty. Who doesn't love beautiful people and things? However, whether friends or lovers are attracted by the five senses, they don't just refer to their looks, their words are from the heart. Some people are ugly, but they have an extraordinary breath, either gentle, dignified, lively or sunny. People with beautiful atmosphere are more attractive, unforgettable and want to be close.
Appearance, there is no absolute beauty and ugliness, and there is no different vision and aesthetic taste for everyone. If a person's temperament is outstanding, it will also add a lot to his face value.
In other words, to know people, we must look inside; As a man, you should keep it in your heart. Achievements made from the inside will come from the outside.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Cao Cao met the Xiongnu emissary for the first time. Because of his ugly appearance and short stature, he asked Cui to pretend to be himself, and Cao Cao stood aside with a knife. However, the Xiongnu messenger's evaluation of Cao Cao is: "The man with the knife is a hero."
Don't judge a book by its cover. It is true that Cao Cao, a lean generation, is "short and strong".
2. Respect talents
Your behavior hides your knowledge and self-restraint. People who read more books and read good books are naturally "full of poems and books." Zeng Guofan once said: "People's temperament is hard to change because of its nature. Only reading can change their temperament. "
The communication and attraction between people starts from the face value and respects talents. "The book has its own golden house, and the book has its own Yan Ruyu". People who read poetry books are full of elegance in their eyes, faces and hearts.
How can I become a talented person? Some people are gifted, others are born dull, but this does not stop them from becoming talented people.
The "barrel theory" says that the amount of water in a barrel depends on the shortest wooden board that makes up the barrel. Long-term development can only be achieved by checking leaks and filling gaps, blocking our own shortcomings, fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses, and understanding our own strengths and carrying them forward.
When reading thousands of books and taking Wan Li Road, you must have a body and a soul on the road. Your talent lies in your smile, words and actions. True talent and wisdom are a kind of flashy beauty, which makes people admire.
3, in line with personality
"Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups." People who can exist in your life circle for a long time must be like-minded people. Only people with the same three views and similar personalities can walk together.
I ching said: "respond with one voice and seek the same spirit." When the water is wet, the fire is dry. "
Things of the same kind will induce each other. So do people. People with similar personalities are easy to get along with.
Just like Zeng Guofan and Li Hongzhang, they are both talents and pillars of the country, but their personalities are different and their life trajectories are too different. Although we can live in harmony for a while, we will eventually go our separate ways and only need one chance.
Character is half born and half developed. To "share the same personality" with most people, you need to broaden your horizons and increase your cultivation. As long as it is not a matter of principle, don't care about it everywhere. "Calm down for a while and take a step back."
Why are people with soft personalities more likable and popular? Stay away from those who are irritable, impatient and "restless"? The former makes people feel like spring breeze, like the sunshine in winter, like a cup of fragrant hot tea, like a quiet and open flower, which contains infinite joy in plain.
Life is not long, stay with people who make you comfortable, cherish what you find and work hard for what you haven't found.
4. Longer than kindness
"Good people are also kind."
Kindness is the most lasting influence. If you are kind to others, others will be kind to you.
"A gentleman is nothing more than being kind to others."
A kind-hearted person's eyes are full of gentle and kind light. In his eyes, all the prosperity will eventually recede, leaving only an equal and respectable soul.
Good people are happy. They are not only happy for themselves, but also happy for the happiness of others, making friends and living happily.
"Good is the most precious thing, which can be used for a lifetime; The heart is fertile soil, and there is more than eternal life. "
With kind people, the mood is the most peaceful and kindness is the most important.
However, some people will say, "Good horses are ridden, and good people are bullied." . Kindness can't be an excuse for being bullied, so it needs to be measured, on the premise of not hurting yourself.
I hope that kind people will eventually meet kindness and bloom the most beautiful flowers in the world.
5. Finally, personality.
Face value, talent and personality are all good medicines for calling friends. Whether it is "self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world" or "establishing morality, making contributions and making a statement", we can't ignore the importance of character.
People's ability is important, but character is the first and most important. The key to judging people is to look at their character. If the character is bad, the greater the ability, the greater the harm to society.
Appreciating a person is ultimately in line with personality. People with good character bring their own light, and they will shine wherever they go.
A person with a good personality can always touch the softest part of people's hearts. He is considerate and compassionate, full of goodwill in words and actions, and has a rich, restrained, gentle, compassionate and calm human light.
People with good personality are delicate and easy to approach, and they are never embarrassed to be with them. They are reasonable but not sharp. They are organized and measured. They like to be soft and tough, and solve problems convincingly. Their every move is warm, and time will be gentle!