Friends still help each other, support each other, unite as one, and cooperate faithfully in interpersonal relationships. If it's a relationship between people who are intrigued, suspicious, defaming or even hurting each other, it can't be called a friend. So the ancients said, "a villain has no friends." In other words, the relationship between people has good and good aspects, as well as bad and evil aspects. Only the former can be called a friend, because it contains the loyalty and trust between people and can be collectively called friendship; The latter is far from the loyalty and trust between people and friendship at all, so this relationship between people cannot be called friends.

It is precisely because the relationship between people is good or bad, that is, there is a difference between good and ugly, so the problem of choosing friends will inevitably arise in the process of interacting with people. The ancients said that "those who are near Zhu Zhechi are black", which is based on the influence of the friends they make on their friends. The wrong choice of communication object will bring endless disaster to yourself; On the other hand, if you choose a good partner, you will build a deep friendship with the other person and bring happiness and success to your thoughts, feelings and career. Therefore, the ancients had the saying of "discreet communication". The so-called "careful friendship" means choosing friends.

If you need to choose a friend, you must have principles or standards. Through the positive and negative experiences in practice, the ancients came up with these three criteria for choosing friends: "sincerity, kindness and listening more." The so-called "friend" is to make friends with straightforward and upright people, who must be aboveboard, upright and morally noble; The so-called "friendship and forgiveness" means making friends with people who are good at understanding others. Such people must be kind to others, take the overall situation into account, and do not care about personal gain. The so-called "making friends with people with profound knowledge and high level of knowledge" means making friends with people with ability and insight.

If you make friends with one or all of them, you will certainly grow up healthily and achieve something in your career with the influence and help of your friends. Knowing this, the importance of choosing friends is self-evident.