Question 2: How do universities get along with their classmates? The success or failure of making friends depends on being a good person, and friends will come naturally.
Question 3: How to deal with the relationship between college students? After entering the university, freshmen hope to have rich interpersonal relationships and friendly, warm and harmonious interpersonal relationships. However, after several months of collective life, some students have harmonious interpersonal relationships and are full of energy, while others have bad interpersonal relationships and are very depressed, which has affected their study and life.
From psychology and the daily life of freshmen, it is not difficult to find out that some students lack a correct understanding of interpersonal communication, some students have personality problems and some students lack experience and skills in interpersonal communication.
College students' bad cognition of interpersonal communication can be divided into two categories. One is to take others as the center and care too much about whether others are satisfied and happy; One is self-centered, everything is based on personal interests and hostile to others. These two kinds of bad cognition will lead to communication difficulties. The specific psychological activities are as follows:
Centering on others:
I must establish a close relationship with everyone around me;
If a person is not good to me, it means that there is something wrong with my interpersonal relationship;
I should always think about whether others are interested in associating with me;
When you accept others' help, you must give it back immediately.
Self-centered:
People are selfish and untrustworthy; Some people are selfish and unable to associate with them;
If you know more, you will lose.
People are nice to me because they want to take advantage of me.
Personality factors are very important in college students' interpersonal communication. Bad personality traits or personality defects are easy to give the other person a bad evaluation, resulting in unpleasant feelings and insecurity, thus affecting interpersonal communication. Common personality defects include selfishness, hypocrisy, disrespect, revenge, jealousy, doubt, demanding others, excessive inferiority, complacency, loneliness and stubbornness. These personality defects seriously affect the communication between classmates. Therefore, it is very important for college students to constantly improve their personality.
For college students, the lack of interpersonal skills is also one of the reasons that affect interpersonal communication. Some students have realized in their daily life that they often want to care about others and don't know where to start; Want to praise others but don't know where to start; Trying to coordinate interpersonal relationships is more complicated; I want to be nice to others, but I can't control my impulse and my language is blunt. Interpersonal communication ability is the synthesis of a person's knowledge, personality, cultivation and various psychological abilities, which reflects a person's comprehensive quality. While cultivating and improving interpersonal communication ability, college students should also pay attention to the cultivation and improvement of their comprehensive quality.
The problems and main reasons that are easy to appear in the interpersonal communication of freshmen are aimed at strengthening their mental health, so as to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships. So how do freshmen build good interpersonal relationships? The following principles can be followed:
I. Principle of equality
Equality means mutual respect. Seeking respect is a human need. The main purpose of students' communication is to accomplish the learning task of the university together, which stipulates that students should be equal in personality, help each other, and actively understand and care for their classmates. Suhomlinski once pointed out that don't hurt the most sensitive thing in others' hearts-self-esteem.
Second, the principle of compatibility
Compatibility is manifested in students' understanding, care and love. Conflicts often occur in interpersonal communication, some because of different levels of understanding, some because of different personalities and tempers, and some because of bad habits and hobbies, which will cause certain misunderstandings between each other. If both sides can treat others with tolerance, many conflicts can be avoided.
Third, the principle of mutual benefit.
The ancients said, "Give it a peach, give it a plum." The principle of mutual benefit requires us to understand each other's values, care and help him more, and keep each other's gains greater than losses, so as to maintain and develop good relations with others.
Fourth, the principle of credit.
Credit means that a person is honest, does not deceive the other party, keeps his promise, and thus gains the trust of others. In interpersonal communication, there is a sense of security in dealing with trustworthy people, and anxiety and doubt in dealing with untrustworthy people. For every adult and student who is determined to become a successful person, keeping promises will add luster to your image. ...& gt& gt
Question 4: How to get along well with classmates during college? What should I pay attention to? Live on campus and get along well with the students in the dormitory. People can't fulfill all their promises, but as long as they promise, they should try their best to be honest and upright. Try to wash it every day unless you have to. Be low-key and know how to be modest, just like sweeping monk in Tianlong Babu. Don't gamble between classmates. Do not talk about the difference between urban and rural areas in the dormitory, do not show off wealth, and know how to take care of others' feelings.
You must pay back the money you borrowed from your classmates, which is also a manifestation of maintaining a harmonious relationship between classmates.
Don't spend all your living expenses every month. You should have a regular exercise program. Don't treat the classmates around you as the object of your product promotion.
Go out with the opposite sex and try to check out first.
The relationship between people is the most harmonious when drinking.
Whether you like this classmate or the teacher, try to say hello when you meet him.
If he is not your competitor, don't pretend not to know him in the exam. Learn from people with good interpersonal relationships and be a popular person.
Good friends, remember to keep in touch regularly, if there are some important things to take the initiative to care about.
Question 5: How do universities get along with classmates and classes? What's the problem? Just like how you get along in primary and secondary schools.
Question 6: How do you get along with your classmates, the problems you may encounter, and how do you get along with your dormitory before you start to be polite and amiable. Talk less and observe your roommate's personality more. Finally, you will have a bottom in your heart, and slowly contact. It's no use thinking too much.
Question 7: How to improve the relationship between classmates? Learn to get along well with classmates.
Everyone wants to get along well with others and have good interpersonal relationships. In college life, interpersonal relationship has always been an important factor affecting one's mental health and the quality of campus life. Then, how can we get along well with people on the university campus, have a good memory that will never be forgotten, and make full preparations for the future society? We might as well start from the following aspects:
(1) We should fully understand the characteristics of interpersonal relationships on campus.
From the day I became a college student, the objects and characteristics of getting along with people have undergone fundamental changes. Before middle school, the objects and meanings we got along with were narrow, just an extension of friendship or intimate relationship. In addition, the interpersonal relationship at that time was relatively simple. For example, we can only associate with people we like, and people who don't like or don't want to associate can ignore him. However, once we become college students and live in dormitories on campus, we can no longer associate with others only by our personal likes and dislikes. For every member of the collective, whether we like it or not, we have to face it every day and get along with it. Therefore, we should not only associate with people we like, but also keep friendly relations with people we don't like. This is a prominent feature of campus interpersonal relationship. In addition, in college life, the new feature of interpersonal relationship is that you can't only ask others by your own standards, but also realize that your behavior and lifestyle may be accepted and rejected by others. Therefore, when there is conflict or disharmony between the two, we should not only blame and blame each other, but also understand and adapt to each other. In other words, college students must gradually get rid of the self-centered way of thinking, gradually learn to put themselves in others' shoes, and on this basis, establish independent and coordinated new interpersonal relationships.
(2) Pay attention to the cultivation of one's own personality and ability.
I often hear a classmate say: that person has a good personality, knows a lot and likes to communicate with him. Indeed, a person with good quality and ability or a special skill is more likely to be loved by people. People appreciate his character and talent, so they are willing to be close to him and become friends. Therefore, if you want to enhance interpersonal attraction and get along with people in a more friendly and harmonious way, you must fully improve your character, display your talents, show your specialties, and constantly improve your character, ability and talent. People like sincere, warm and friendly people.
People hate people who are hypocritical, selfish and cold. Generally speaking, the highest evaluation of personality quality is sincerity, and the lowest evaluation is hypocrisy. When choosing friends among college students in China, the first consideration is personality quality, and they are willing to associate with mature, enthusiastic, frank, positive and responsible people. In addition, interpersonal communication is always characterized by emotional reactions such as mutual satisfaction or dissatisfaction, like or dislike. To have a good interpersonal relationship, we must pay attention to our feelings. Generally speaking, people always like people who like themselves and have a good impression on people who really evaluate themselves. Once you get someone's appreciation, love and praise, your self-esteem will be satisfied because of your praise, which will lead to psychological closeness and affection for this person, thus reducing mutual friction and interpersonal conflict, achieving emotional harmony and providing psychological conditions for good interpersonal communication. Praise others sincerely, and in turn others will have a good impression on you. Some people often pay too much attention to themselves and can't find the value of others. If you can observe carefully and pay more attention to others, you will find that everyone has something worthy of praise. Affirming and praising the advantages of others will bring benefits to yourself.
(3) Be broad-minded, learn to observe each other's psychology and be honest with each other.
Our society is a pluralistic society, and the relationship between people is becoming more and more complicated. The complexity of society leads to the richness of personality, which inevitably leads to the intensification of contradictions among individuals. To maintain good interpersonal relationships with people around you, we must learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and have a generous and open-minded psychological quality. We must be considerate of others and be honest with each other.
In life, we have misunderstandings with our classmates who live together day and night. When we are treated unfairly and not accepted by others, you will be anxious and irritable, which will definitely affect your study, life and social relations. What are we going to do, make a scene? Why don't you just break up These are not the best ways, they can only put themselves at a disadvantage in communication and affect future communication. On the contrary, if we are magnanimous and open-minded, we may be more calm. >>
Question 8: University, how to get along with classmates? Hello. I feel that I should find more topics that students are interested in at ordinary times, and it is best to exchange topics that everyone is interested in, so that we can get to know each other and care about each other. You must pay attention to attitude and tone, learn from communication, accumulate experience slowly, and be good at discovering tiny details, many of which determine success or failure. Introverts should take part in more activities between classmates, strengthen communication with each other, improve their trust ability in social interaction and improve their personality! Wish you a happy life! Hope to adopt ...
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Question 9: How to get along with the students in the dormitory! ? 10 is a tentative period for students in the dormitory to get along ―― everyone is cautious and polite. With the deepening of communication, students gradually enter the running-in period of real life. For these students from all directions, with different family and life backgrounds, some bad symptoms in interpersonal communication, especially among students in the same dormitory, began to surface.
Pathology 1: family economic conditions are far from roommates.
Symptom: Do rich children get along well with poor students?
This case comes from a report in the news column of this newspaper last month: a girl from Hangzhou with a good family entered the university for the first time and became roommates with three girls from poor areas. She didn't live a collective life, but she wanted to get along with her roommate, but it backfired. Three poor students in the dormitory formed an alliance. In addition to electric lights, other electrical appliances in the dormitory, including drinking fountains, water heaters and electric fans, were not used.
The girl in the city couldn't stand it any longer, and offered to use the water heater and electric fan, and was willing to pay more for electricity, but her three roommates seemed to be hurt in their self-esteem and resolutely disagreed. Three poor students stand on the same line, and everything is done by three people, which makes the rich student feel very isolated. In desperation, she finally proposed to change the dormitory.
Diagnosis: Indeed, when students from different family environments come together, there will always be many differences in their living habits. If we can tolerate and understand each other, we can naturally live in peace, but it is not as simple as it is said. There are always contradictions between rich children and poor students. Generally speaking, poor students tend to feel inferior in front of rich students. If the rich children can't overcome their arrogance, they will become isolated. Now it is reported that the middle class and rich children are isolated by poor students, so can we only solve the interpersonal problems caused by the gap between the rich and the poor by changing dormitories? It seems that both rich and poor students should have a correct attitude, which is one of the keys to deal with the interpersonal relationship of freshmen.
Pathology 2: Differences in living habits cause roommate conflicts.
Symptoms: Please take a bath!
Xiao Wang was admitted to a university in Beijing this year, but less than a month later, he began to call home to complain. It turned out that one of the students in their dormitory didn't like bathing very much. It was very hot at the beginning of school, but that classmate only took a bath once a week, which always filled the dormitory with sour sweat. At first, Xiao Wang and two other students were embarrassed to talk to that classmate because of their feelings, so they had to endure the smell every day.
After a few days of forbearance, they finally said, "classmate, go and take a shower." But the answer is "I washed it the day before yesterday", which really makes them laugh and cry. We are not familiar enough, so we don't say anything for fear of hurting our feelings. They also don't know how to communicate with that classmate. It's cold now, and the problem seems to be less serious, but what about next summer? Xiao Wang is still in distress.
Diagnosis: Not only the problem of bathing, but also the differences in living habits of freshmen from different families around the world will cause many contradictions. For example, some students want to go to bed early, while others are night owls. Poor communication can easily lead to contradictions. For example, some students like playing cards and computer games in the dormitory, which bothers students who like reading in the dormitory. Freshmen should really think about how to coordinate everyone's habits and understand each other.
Pathology 3: Being too intimate is also a problem.
Symptom: Can you not be so close to me?
In the interview, Xiao Chen, a classmate, let us know a kind of interpersonal relationship problem that sounds very different.
Most freshmen are always worried about not getting along well with their roommates, but what puzzles Xiao Chen is that the students in the dormitory are too "good" to him. When Chen Xiaogang arrived at the dormitory, Xiao Liu was the first to talk to him and helped him pack his bags, giving the impression that he was a very talkative, especially enthusiastic and frank boy. Not many days later, they have become a pair of good brothers in the eyes of other students. But in Xiao Chen's view, having such a "good brother" is not always a happy thing, and sometimes it becomes a problem that bothers him.
First, because I was too close to Xiao Liu, I lost the opportunity to get along with other students in the dormitory. For example, some activities that could have been carried out collectively in the dormitory, Xiao Liu has to engage in "small group" activities with him, and he has already felt the dissatisfaction of other students in the dormitory. At ordinary times, Liu always likes to pull Xiao Chen to eat, do morning exercises, attend classes and study together. It is natural to have a companion, but Xiao Chen feels that Xiao Liu has deprived him of too much personal space. It turns out that Chen Xiao loves to sleep late, but she is always pulled up by Xiao Liu for morning running. Sometimes, Xiao Chen gets together with his fellow villagers, or goes to another school to play with his high school classmates. Master Liu always ... >>
Question 10: Campus etiquette: How to get along with students is the most precious time in life. Classmate relationship is the most precious interpersonal relationship in life. The communication between students has the characteristics of equality and non-utility, and the friendship established on this basis is the purest, most stable and longest. People who have experienced the student days have this feeling, and the closest friends at ordinary times are often classmates in primary school, middle school or university. How to deal with the relationship between classmates in the student days and brew a cup of sweet wine with endless aftertaste for later life? Among them, the most crucial point is to be polite at all times. Specifically, we should pay attention to the cultivation and training of the following etiquette forms. 1. Etiquette among classmates. Students should greet each other every morning when they meet. Students can call each other by their first names, but they can't use impolite names such as "hello" and "hey". When you ask your classmates for something, you should use polite expressions such as "please", "thank you" and "trouble you". When borrowing school and daily necessities, you should ask for permission before taking them, and return them in time after use, and thank you. Keep the classroom quiet and tidy at all times, and keep a good learning environment in the classroom. Don't chase and fight between classes, lest the desks and chairs in the classroom be skewed and dusty, which will affect students' study rest and physical and mental health. During the break, walk slowly on the right in the corridor, don't run fast and make sharp turns, and slow down when you meet classmates. We should not only laugh at, ignore and discriminate against students' misfortune, occasional failure and temporary backwardness in their studies, but also help them enthusiastically. It can not only help the other party analyze the reasons, sum up the experience and lessons, but also comfort the other party's mind with words of comfort, sympathy and encouragement. Sometimes, even without saying a word, it is a friendly way to walk, chat and play ball with each other. Don't comment on classmates' appearance, posture and clothes, don't give them insulting nicknames, and don't laugh at their physical defects. We must be cautious and respectful on these issues concerning self-esteem. Don't talk about topics that students are taboo, don't do things that students hate, and don't "talk about which pot is not open." The ancients said: "Wisdom is in the heart, beauty is in words." Talking with classmates can make the intelligence of the mind communicate and increase the understanding, friendship and mutual understanding between classmates. But to play such a role, we should pay attention to the etiquette of talking to our classmates. It is often possible to infer the character education, ideological outlook and cultural level of this classmate. So, what etiquette should you pay attention to when talking to your classmates? The following is divided into attitude and content. (1) Speak sincerely and modestly; Calm tone, don't put on airs; Also care about the interests and emotions of students who listen to themselves. When listening to your classmates' lectures, be careful, don't do anything else, don't show burnout, yawn or watch the clock anxiously; Don't interrupt others easily. You must say hello before interrupting or asking questions. If students say something inappropriate or wrong, they should point it out seriously and tactfully without hurting their self-esteem. (2) The content of the speech and the content of the classmates should be sincere and realistic, and talk about their own views on things realistically. Don't flatter others at will, don't say anything that makes others feel sad and ashamed, and don't say uncivilized foul language. The ancients said, "What you say must be done." If a person's attitude and content are beautiful, then his mind must be beautiful. 2, learning life etiquette In learning, students should help each other. Students who study well should actively and sincerely help those who study poorly, and at the same time remain modest and avoid arrogance; Students with poor learning should consult modestly and think independently. They should not copy their homework or peek at the answers. Students get along with each other every day, and it is inevitable that there will be some bumps or differences of opinion. At this time, we should restrain ourselves, respect others, get rid of our "arrogance" and "coquetry", be calm and rational, not willful, not abuse our classmates with uncivilized language, and not touch our hands. If you have any comments on your classmates, you should use a euphemistic tone. Don't talk about your classmates' mistakes in public. Asking students is actually asking others for help and guidance. Therefore, we should pay attention to the following etiquette. (1) Choose students who can answer questions by themselves as the objects of inquiry. (2) Choose the time when the students are free or convenient to ask questions, so as not to disturb or affect the students' study. (3) Before you start asking questions, you should first say, "I'm sorry to bother you, classmate, and ask you a question." Ask the students after they agree. （......& gt& gt