After having a baby, she became a lion roar. In families with parent-child relationship problems, 90% of parents yell at their children?

1, the child is getting more and more inferior. Some parents like to lecture their children in front of others and yell at them. In fact, doing so not only hurts the child's self-esteem, but also makes him feel inferior. In the long run, he will have self-denial and think that he is too bad and stupid to do anything well. Moreover, parents' long-term reprimand and reprimand education will make children's personality extreme, some may be extremely inferior and introverted, and some may be too rebellious, violent, timid, cowardly and inferior.

2, broken cans and broken falls When we yell at the children, we don't know what we are like. We just think they will listen and vent their emotions. In fact, children's hearts are very fragile. When they see their parents yelling at them, they will feel extremely desperate and helpless, and at the same time they will have self-denial. When they are labeled as "idiots, fools, disobedient and rude" for a long time, they are likely to break the label of their parents.

3, the child's emotional control ability is poor, and the mood is very easy to infect. The child lives in the environment of being scolded for a long time and becomes irritable and impulsive subtly. When they deal with things that are not satisfactory, they are likely to adopt their parents' methods to solve the problem. Gradually, when he grows up, you will find that he is too much like you. He speaks with the same tone, and he will treat his children, friends, family and even you as he used to treat him!

4, the impact on children's personality If we often yell at children, children will inevitably be frightened, especially younger children. Under the sudden roar of the mother, the child will even get excited. After a long time, the child's personality will gradually become timid, inferior and introverted!

5, the impact on children's self-awareness As long as you carefully observe the families around us, you can usually find a phenomenon, that is, how strong the parents are, how weak the children are. If there is a strong mother in the family, her children must be timid and lack of opinions. Ask your parents or teachers about small things. I dare not have my own ideas, and I don't want to make choices by my own judgment. This will definitely affect his future work and life.

6, the impact on parent-child relationship When angry, the hearts of two people are far apart. In order to cross the spiritual distance and let the other party hear, people's voices are very loud. However, the louder each other's voices, the angrier they will be, the farther away they will be, and the louder they will be ... In other words, the louder the voices, the greater the distance between them and the farther their hearts will be.

When we always educate our children loudly, we are actually pushing their hearts further and further. Gradually, children don't want to talk to you about any problems, and eventually they will be more rebellious in adolescence, and they are likely to go astray or even go astray because of anger!

7. Impact on children's socialization. Children will grow up one day and always have their own friends. The child who was yelled at lacked self-confidence. In the process of making friends, they will not know how to get along with others, and it is easier to communicate with others. There is a communication barrier.

8. The influence on children's development is always scolded, and their learning ability and desire are obviously reduced. Brain science research has also proved this point: in the long-term shouting environment, the amygdala in the child's brain will be constantly stimulated. The amygdala mainly deals with anger and fear. If the amygdala is repeatedly stimulated, children will live in fear at any time.

A child who is always in fear, his study is doomed to be inefficient, his ability to control emotions is reduced, and the probability of mental problems such as depression and anxiety is obviously increased.