Quzhou Daily 65438+February 26th Daily 16 The story of three children in the 5th edition tells the voice of the children in the reservoir area-if I have a friend who can write letters.
In just one week, this voice caused a warm response-the children in Grade One called and said that they should not only be pen pals with them, but also invite them to be guests at home; My brother and sister who just entered the workplace sent a text message saying that they would write to their children and grow up with them; Many parents and teachers called and said they would like to make friends with their children. No matter how busy they are, they will listen to their children and write back to them ... These love feedbacks make this cold winter full of warmth.
Peer:
Let's share the joy of learning together.
The first person to call the reporter's hotline was Mr Yao, the head teacher of Class 3, Grade 1, Quzhou Hua Mao Foreign Language School. He told reporters that many students in the class read the report and wanted to make pen friends with the children in the mountains.
19 During the self-study on Saturday and Sunday night, the reporter met two of the students in Mr. Yao's office. There are two girls, one is Hong, and the other is Hong. Both of them are tall, thin and quiet.
Hong said that Xiaozhen in the report left a deep impression on her. Her grandmother's home is in Jucun Township, and she goes there every Spring Festival. The conditions in the mountains are bitter and there are no playmates, but Xiaozhen is so sensible and loves to learn. Chen Qiqi is the monitor. Teacher Yao praised her for being calm and sensible, and soon became friends with every new classmate. Chen Qiqi said that she once had friends who wrote letters, which was one of the few among her peers. Both girls said that they want to make pen friends with their small classmates who live in villages and towns, introduce their study and life to each other, and invite them to visit their home after the holiday and watch and write their homework together. Moreover, their ideas are supported by their parents. During the interview, they carefully wrote down their home address and reminded reporters: "If you leave the address of the school, you won't receive letters in winter and summer vacations."
Teacher Yao said that there are actually more than a dozen students in the class who want to make pen pals. He Hong is the most outstanding student in comprehensive performance, such as communication ability and writing level. I hope they, as representatives of Class 3, Grade 1, can become good friends with the children in the reservoir area.
Newcomers in the workplace:
Let me grow up with them
Yu Han, born in 1987, just joined the work in July this year. She said that the first feeling when she saw the report was incredible, because she didn't know there were such a group of miserable children around her. But she was quickly moved by the simplicity and understanding of the children in the mountains. "I imagine that children of their age must have a lot of questions to ask. I am willing to be their friend, listen to their stories about cat and dog fights and answer their various questions. " Yu Han said.
Yu Han also told reporters about her personal experience. In the fourth grade of primary school, she paired up with a girl of the same age in the countryside. They usually write to each other, and their parents will take them to study and live together in winter and summer vacations. Girls get good grades and often give awards to Yu Han. Yuhan is happy and secretly fighting each other every time he receives the certificate, chasing each other academically. Until the third year of high school, the girl's grades suddenly declined and she failed to enter a good university. Considering the financial burden of attending a third-rate university at home, girls can only go out to work.
At that time, Yu Han also had a female classmate from a poor rural family. The results of the college entrance examination are comparable to Han's, and it is also because of economic reasons that I intend to give up going to college. After Yu Han's parents learned the situation, they paid the tuition to the female classmate. She graduated from college and is now a teacher. "The most critical steps in life, if one person can give himself correct guidance, maybe everything will be better." Yu Han said that she and her friends have maintained close contact so far.
Parents and teachers:
Treat them as their own children.
Zhang Aizhen, who works in qujiang district Health Bureau, told reporters that she was once a child in the reservoir area.
Zhang Aizhen's hometown is Lingyang Town, where she lived until she went to college. "When I was a child, I might be more bitter than my children now, but I didn't feel it at that time." Zhang Aizhen said that seeing those children now makes people suddenly feel sad. In particular, having her own children for comparison makes her feel even more distressed about the children in the reservoir area where her parents are not around.
Zhang Aizhen said that she wanted to make a little pen pal, and tried her best to give him some material help and treat him (her) as her own child. At the same time, I also find a partner and role model for my 8-year-old son. Most of the children in the mountains are children of poor families, and most of the children in the city are soaked in honeypots, which is inevitable.
Qujiang district Youth League Committee:
Send the first envelopes and stamps to the children.
On February 2, 65438+KLOC-0, the reporter accompanied Gan Xiaohua, deputy secretary of the qujiang district Youth League Committee, to the school again. Gan Xiaohua handed the first batch of 500 envelopes and 380 stamps to the headmaster, Xu Zhibiao.
When the reporter came up with a list of enthusiastic readers, Gan Xiaohua also came up with a list. She told reporters that after reading the children's voices in the newspaper, the qujiang district Youth League Committee was very concerned and forwarded the report in various QQ groups. As a result, many people responded A teacher was transferred to Hangzhou and was asked to leave his mailing address. The staff of the Youth League Committee registered one by one. "We want to take pen pals as an activity of the qujiang district Spring Mud Project and carry it on for a long time." Gan Xiaohua said.
Principal Xu Zhibiao said that he would give the list of enthusiastic readers to the class teacher and the brigade counselor, and let the children choose their own pen pals.
Reporter's notes
By the 22nd, reporter * * * had received phone calls and text messages from more than 20 enthusiastic readers. At 9: 00 pm on the 22nd, another junior high school student called the reporter after class in the evening, asking the reporter to write down his name and address, and at the same time ensuring that his study would not be affected. A senior three student sent a short message to the reporter many times, asking to make pen friends with the children in the reservoir area, and said that many books were prepared for the children as gifts.
In addition, on the Internet, many members of Quzhou Mental Health Volunteers Association requested to sign up and made a long list for reporters. ...
There are too many things to record, which can only be roughly classified into three categories: peers, newcomers in the workplace, parents and teachers. Delegates are invited to speak.
Maybe not everyone can receive letters from their children and become their pen pals. But thank you, thank you for your warm feedback, thank you for your selfless love.
Report extension
Experts have something to say about how to make friends with children.
Enthusiastic readers: How can we make friends with children?
The enthusiastic citizens of Changshan are old readers of the daily newspaper. The day after seeing the report, he called, hoping to make friends with the children in the reservoir area.
Mr. Fang briefly introduced himself and said that he used to be a soldier, and now he works in Changshan County Power Supply Bureau. A family of three, with a daughter studying in Shanghai. He likes writing and drawing, and especially wants to make pen friends with the children in the reservoir area. After the reporter answered his urgent wish, Mr. Fang was a little worried: "How can I communicate with my child for the first time and how can I write to him or her?"
In more than 20 enthusiastic feedbacks received by reporters, many readers have expressed such worries and doubts, fearing that they have done something inappropriate and made their children feel uncomfortable or uncomfortable. Readers' worries and doubts can be roughly divided into the following categories:
1. What should I say to my child after introducing myself for the first time? Will the children be willing to listen to me?
Readers who have such doubts are basically working, or have no children, or their children have grown up, and they usually lack experience in dealing with children. They are worried that they can't find the same topic as their children. After a long time, both sides lost interest and were tired of coping.
Second, I want to send something to my pen pal, such as clothes, shoes and socks, school supplies, can I?
Readers who ask such questions include children and parents. For example, Hehong wants to send school supplies and books to the children in the reservoir area. Some parents want to give their children's surplus daily necessities, school supplies and toys to their pen pals. But they are worried that this gift will be regarded as charity and make children feel uncomfortable.
Thirdly, I want to invite my pen pal to my home during the winter and summer vacations. Is this appropriate?
Readers with this idea are mostly children and parents. In addition to providing children with a better living environment, they also hope that the children in the reservoir area can be really familiar and close, and they also hope that their children can learn from the children in the reservoir area and know how to cherish their study and life. Expert advice: Make friends with your heart and let love flow forever.
In response to readers' concerns and doubts, the reporter consulted Zhang Jianying, an expert in adolescent educational psychology in our city and a national second-level psychological counselor. Combining her educational experience and readers' doubts, she gave some suggestions.
First of all, material support can narrow the distance with children.
The material conditions of children in the reservoir area are relatively poor, which is unavoidable and unnecessary. It is children's nature to want to eat delicious food and have fun. So, if possible, give children some snacks, toys, even old clothes and daily and school supplies, as long as they need them. Moreover, this kind of loving gift and subsidy can win the favor of children and easily make strangers close.
Secondly, books, TV programs and other similar concerns make communication a carrier.
Many people think of books when choosing gifts for their children. This is indeed a very good gift, which not only gives children knowledge, but also provides a carrier for mutual communication. When writing letters to children, talking about a book, a movie, a TV program, or a sports or fashion star that you both like can make the communication between you have something to say.
Of course, when children write to you to exchange these feelings after reading and reviewing, as adults, it is best to carefully observe children's emotions and ideas and give some positive and optimistic guidance at the right time.
Third, let both families get familiar with each other.
Some readers want to invite their children to play at home during the winter and summer vacations. It should be said that this is a very good idea. The children in the reservoir area live in the mountains and the environment is relatively closed. If we can give children the opportunity to contact and feel the outside world, we can enrich their knowledge and make their vision and planning for the future rich and real.
Before that, there is a suggestion that your family should also write to your children. For example, mothers write letters to their children's pen pals, and occasionally let fathers and children write letters to their children together. In this way, the children will have communication with everyone in the family, get familiar with them, and then they will not be at home.
In addition, parents should be familiar with you and your family, which will not only reassure parents, but also help to form a joint force of caring and educating children.
What needs special attention is that when some children complain that their parents are working outside the home or their parents are beating and cursing, we should speak for their parents and let them understand their difficulties. Afterwards, you can communicate with your parents about the education methods.
Finally, let love flow forever with a warm heart.
It takes fate to make friends with children, but also needs lasting love and patience, not just temporary interest and enthusiasm. Warm letters will be treasured and recalled again and again.
I hope all pen pals can scatter words of encouragement on stationery, pass on warm friendship and let the water of love flow forever.