Owner, my answer is an excerpt from someone else’s, I hope it can help you. .

Such a woman can’t be impatient. It’s best to find the right time to attack and just follow normal interactions. It’s better to let her get used to you. It’s much easier to get started because no matter who she is, she will have the habit. Once suddenly, you won't get used to the other person, and she will get used to her own life. If you want to get involved, you first need to be patient. It's one thing if you like her. Use actions to show your concern for her, don't use words. Say I believe the other person is a relatively sensitive person and I believe she understands. Good luck to you.

The secret of love (a must-read for boys) Not an easy process. When you see pairs of couples on the street, some are actually destined to be together since childhood, and some are the result of a long period of hard work and struggle between the two parties.

Having said that, no matter which angle you approach it from, I personally think that the formation of male and female friends

must go through the following four stages:

┌——┐ ┌——┐ ┌——┐ ┌——┐

│Meet│→│Attract│→│Interaction│→│Maintain│

└——┘ └——┘ └ ——┘ └——┘

Encounter: Whether you are classmates, work in the same company, introduced by friends, or even strike up a conversation on the street, or make friends online, things happen There is always a

beginning.

Attraction: If you are a boy, the traditional saying is that when you start "pursuing"

your purpose is to convince a girl to like you.

Intercourse: An agreement between a man and a woman to "be together." In addition to verbal acknowledgment of each other, some degree of physical relationship also occurs.

Maintenance: After becoming boyfriend and girlfriend, the biggest issue for both parties is how to maintain your

relationship and make it even more loving.

Why can’t some boys get girlfriends even though they are in good condition? The reason is that he has no way to meet girls and does not know how to create opportunities for "encounter". Of course, you don’t even have a partner

What else are you talking about?

The matter of striking up a conversation is also a college question, but the prerequisite is that you must have the courage to act. Simply say "Classmate, may I get to know you?" Try it in a generous and sincere tone. I believe that at least half of the girls will continue chatting with you. The important thing is whether you dare to try it or not.

What is the secret to falling in love? Or what is the key to success in love? I will tell you without hesitation: It’s not calling frequently and sending text messages. It’s not sending gifts and inviting guests to dinner. It’s not caring about pick-ups and drop-offs. It’s not being courteous. It’s not praising you all the time. It’s not painstakingly planning how to confess. It’s not making promises that can’t be fulfilled. It’s not hopeless romance. It’s not candlelight. Dinner at Fisherman's Wharf is not the same

Yes, these are what most people think should be done when chasing girls.

You have to make her like you too!

The so-called "attraction" is to make girls fall in love with you involuntarily.

The problem is that most boys don’t understand what attraction is. To make matters worse, most of the advice on relationships in the public focuses on how to please, how to do thoughtful things to impress the woman, and how to find opportunities to confess.

As everyone knows, these are probably the worst suggestions ever.

They don’t understand that doing these things does not mean that the other person will like you. Because to please is just to please, and to be considerate is to be considerate, but they are not equal to attraction.

To put it bluntly, these are at best little tricks used to curry favor with girls.

As for your carefully designed confession? I think just throw it into the recycling bin. There is no other reason. Confession is equivalent to revealing the trump card to the opponent for reference, which is equivalent to directly handing over the initiative to the opponent.

In other words, these typical pursuit behaviors will often only make her less attracted to you!

Of course, there are always exceptions.

I don't deny that some girls may be "touched" by you, even if they have never had feelings for you, but because you really paid too much for her, based on conscience considerations, or on the premise that there is no better choice, she Maybe try to convince yourself that she likes you.

This is like hypnotizing yourself that bitter melon is sweet.

Of course, anyone living in the real world knows that the probability of such exceptions is really not very high. Try not to take the route of "impressing girls". Unless you are sure that the other party likes you, most of them are asking for trouble.

So what should you do to make a girl fall in love with you? What are the main components of "attraction"?

Let me give you some clues:

Mystery, curiosity, dominance, security, ambiguity, uncertainty, desire stimulation, emotional transfer, physical contact, physiological reaction , interpersonal evidence, competitors, non-verbal communication...etc.

Each group of keywords above represents an important concept.

Girls’ logic is very interesting. It is also a thoughtful gesture. If it is done by a boy she likes, she will feel flattered; if it is done by a boy she doesn't like, she will even feel disgusted: "Disgusting, don't bother me!"

This That's why I personally am not completely opposed to occasional flattery and thoughtfulness, nor am I opposed to occasional compliments and compliments.

The condition is that it must be based on attraction.

In other words, if you can make girls like you, everything will be easy.

This concept is really important. Instead of putting the focus on the girl and trying to please her, worship her, and pursue her, why not step out of that box, turn the focus back on yourself, and focus on being attractive and ultimately making her like you?

Strengthen your psychological quality! "Mindset" is the most important!

The reason why many boys cannot improve their love skills is that they are too emotional and do not know how to recover from failure. middle school study. However, the most common characteristic of many winners in love is that they have a FUN attitude and a mindset of accumulating experience points. If you are the kind of shy boy, you need to get out of your nest and boldly try to interact with girls more. Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and do what needs to be done, otherwise things won't progress. It doesn’t matter if you get rejected a few times, the point is, have you changed?

The more nervous you are and the more you want to chase a certain girl, the higher your chance of failure. On the contrary, the more you adopt an "it doesn't matter" attitude, your chances of success will increase instead of decreasing.

Although it sounds mysterious, it actually has a theoretical basis. Because when you are interacting with girls, if you do not easily invest in true feelings, but at the same time focus on exerting attraction, and the other party is confused by you and tries to figure out why you are like this, you will have already won half the battle.

Let me tell you: when a girl becomes curious about you, it is often a sign that she likes you, and it works every time.

The most criticized thing about many infatuated men is that they are too "specialized". Their mentality is very strange. There is no grass anywhere in the world, but they would rather waste two or three years chasing a girl they could not catch from the beginning. They think it is the spirit of the founding fathers, but I think it is more like a masochistic tendency.

They make the mistake of putting all their eggs in one basket. If you are still single today, I suggest you adopt a "multi-goal strategy" and go out with multiple different girls. This is not carelessness, this is selection and evaluation!

Recently, a reader wrote to me, complaining that girls nowadays are all "Appearance Association" members. He said that girls would never fall in love with boys with poor conditions like him.

I do not deny that external conditions are important. Just like playing Big Brother, good luck will certainly have an absolute advantage. But I believe in poker skills more. Even if the cards are bad, some people can still win. Of course, the key lies in optimizing the chips in your hand. \r

If your conditions are not good and you feel inferior because of it, and you are often worried that girls will dislike you, you will further highlight your insecurity about yourself, and the result of the vicious cycle will only confirm your initial feelings. Belief, in the end you are defeated by yourself, and your attraction completely breaks down.

So self-confidence is very important in the process of ATTRACTION!

Success = mentality + method + experience

What is the deepest desire in a woman’s heart? This thing is called "security" !

The so-called "security" refers to a feeling of "being protected". This is why women prefer men who are tall and rich in resources. This is no accident, because in a way, these qualities symbolize a man who is capable of protecting her.

However, many men misunderstand "security". They think that women want a man who is obedient and not bothered. Therefore, they go overboard, treat women with respect, respond to requests, and are not very good at flirting with women. But what they don't understand is that this kind of overly obedient behavior is seen as "weak" in the eyes of women.

The reasons why women test men are nothing more than:

1? To see how much you like her;

2? To see the limit of what you are willing to pay Where;

3? See if you can "control" her in turn.

The reason why good men are not favored is that they only "give". On the surface, women also say that they hope men will treat them well, but in the end, these men can't change their minds and mistakenly think that what women want is their endless flattery and sacrifice. Paradoxically, what a woman really wants is a man who is not dominated by her.

The point is, you have to make her feel that you are the kind of man who won't tolerate her "bad behavior." You have to make her feel that if she really goes too far, you are the kind of man who "will leave at any time." When you

establish this feeling in your interactions, paradoxically, women will often pull back on you.

If you are a boy with mediocre congenital conditions, the chance that a girl will naturally like you is not high, so of course you need to make up for your shortcomings in this area through acquired efforts.

Changes in personality traits and thinking patterns. This process takes time to brew and internalize! You have to try to change it at first. It may feel a bit unnatural, but you can't say it's "pretending". Think about it from another angle, in fact, this is learning, from the inside out, until it becomes a part of yourself.

The Story of the Bad Dolphin

How to train wild dolphins? The dolphin is very smart but very bad. Even after eating the fish given by the trainer, it still disobeys. Later, the trainer came up with a method, which was to give the dolphins a whole bucket of fish at once. After they were full, they stopped giving them to them. The flustered dolphin was shocked to see the trainer's 180-degree change, and began to do everything possible to please the trainer. Gradually, it discovered that when it correctly performed the actions required by the trainer, the trainer would reward it with a fish. After one move after another, the bad dolphin becomes a good dolphin.

What did we learn from the story just now? Although men and women should treat each other sincerely, even dolphins need to use some skills to get it done. I believe it is not an exaggeration if you use some tricks in the process of pursuing girls. This is why I am very opposed to the stalking offensive, because it is probably the most rustic and least creative way to make steel. \r

Remind you that your goal is to inspire girls' imaginations about you. If you are accustomed to the strategy of constantly pleasing girls, I suggest that you withdraw in time to achieve the effect of retreating. Because when you cool down a little, the girl will start to feel uneasy, and she will start to think wildly: "Does he not like me anymore? He must have a new goal..." But what she doesn't understand is that when she starts to treat you By generating these concerns, your importance will increase, and then the chances of her falling in love with you will also increase, just like a chain reaction.

My advice is not to do anything just to please girls; your eyes show confidence and you know what you want; you have principles for certain things and don’t deliberately modify them just because of the presence of girls. ; Treat beautiful women and ugly women equally to a certain extent; Maintain a sense of mystery and should not sacrifice yourself just to chase a girl; There are always more important goals to achieve in life than girls; If a girl goes too far, she should be punished at any time Leave; do not hold compulsive ideas and respect girls’ decisions; will not stalk around like flies!

Why have so many smart and independent women from ancient times to the present been attracted to such "bad" men over and over again?

The terminology of the new generation is very strange. It is assumed today that when you are described as a "good person", it is not good at all. As far as I know, the most commonly used interpretation of this term is an infatuated man who has his shirt tucked in, speaks politely, abides by the law, is punctual and rules-abiding, and is still waiting hard after being rejected N times.

It’s not that it’s not good to wear clothes that are inserted into the body, but a woman’s subconscious tells her that this man must be very fussy, otherwise he is just a good boy. He has not dared to disobey his parents and teachers since he was a child. Otherwise, what kind of era would he be in? Even the clothes are still so restrictive.

As for the so-called "bad" men, in addition to dressing up with style and personality, they are not coy when facing women, they know how to laugh and curse with women, but they have the proper sense of propriety in their speech. Take it well. They have a natural attitude towards life and do not become overly dependent or care too much about anything.

They will not wait infatuatedly for a woman, because their personality is more egoistic, even narcissistic, and they may leave at any time, which is more lethal to beauties who are usually held in the hands of men. , because of this, he ended up being the one being pursued by women.

And this kind of man exudes a rebellious atmosphere. Interpreted by a woman, rebellion represents ability and courage. "Being bad requires capital and ability to be bad." The key often lies in attitude.

Many people will take it out of context and think that "bad" means imitating other people's smoking, drinking and drug taking. Yes, that's a kind of rebellion, and I don't deny that some immature girls will be attracted to you because of it. But this is definitely not my

suggestion.

The "badness" I want you to cultivate is not to learn bad behavior, but rather an attitude, a sense of security from the heart. Just because you feel very secure about yourself, when women smell this trait in you, they will often be involuntarily attracted to you. On the contrary, the more you adopt an "it doesn't matter" attitude, your chances of success will increase instead of decreasing.

What is a woman’s deepest desire in her heart? This thing is called “security”!

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