The main factor that affects children's performance is not the school, but the family.

A class teacher sent a text message to parents: No matter what their grades are, there is no difference between good and bad students. Parents know that every child is a seed, but everyone has a different flowering period. Some flowers bloom beautifully as soon as they begin; while some flowers require a long wait. Don't focus on other people's flowers, don't think that other people's flowers are always good. Believe that flowers have their own flowering period, care for them carefully, and watch them grow little by little. Isn't this a kind of happiness? Maybe your seed will never bloom because it is a towering tree.

Regarding children’s education, there are 28 experiences:

01. The main factor that affects children’s performance is not the school, but the family.

02. If there is a problem with family education, the child may have a hard time at school, and the child may become a "problem child" in the school.

03. For children with good grades, their mothers usually have plans and quick actions. The more conscientious, organized, and polite the father is, the better his children's grades will be.

04. Poverty is an important educational resource, but the poorer it is, the better it is for the growth of children. Parents need to provide their children with basic cultural information and prevent them from falling into the abyss of inferiority complex.

05. Wealth is another more advanced educational resource. The experience of Westerners is: "It takes three generations of efforts to cultivate a nobleman." "Class is hereditary." However, more advanced Educational resources require more advanced educational skills. Without more advanced educational skills, wealthy families will bring disaster to their children's growth.

06. Don’t be an uneducated parent. Some people are highly educated, but not necessarily educated. If a parent doesn't know how to live well, doesn't know how to treat others well, or even doesn't know how to treat his own children well, no matter how high his academic level is, he is also an uneducated person.

07. Parents can put their children as the center of the world, but don’t forget that parents also need to live independent lives. If parents completely focus on their children and no longer have their own life themes, such parents will often interfere with their children's growth in the name of love. Sometimes, it's not that children can't live without their parents, but that parents can't live without their children.

08. Parents need to bear the responsibility of educating their children, but they should not completely cancel their leisure life just because of educating their children. "If you have no sense of responsibility, you will hurt others, but if you have too much responsibility, you will hurt yourself."

09. If parents quickly pick up the child when the child cries, then the child will take advantage of this characteristic of the parents to often pester the parents and ask for more advice. Many requests. Therefore, when the child is crying, don't rush to pick up the child. It is best for parents to let themselves have something to do and let the child watch them do things quickly.

10. The relationship between husband and wife affects the personality of children. If a man disrespects his wife, his son will learn to disrespect his female classmates in school. If a woman disrespects her husband, her daughter will learn to look down on her male classmates in school.

11. Education is to cultivate people’s spiritual appearance. The mission of parents and teachers is to let children gradually take responsibility for their own spiritual appearance, remove all kinds of contamination that they may be contaminated with, and cultivate the spiritual "seeds" in people so that they can breathe the mountain air and feel proud.

12. Educated parents are "Voltairians", "I don't agree with your point of view, but I will defend to the death your right to speak." They began to reason with their children from the day they were born and patiently solicited their opinions. Don't expect that spanking and scolding your children will teach them obedience. The result of killing a chicken and showing it to a monkey is that the monkey also learned to kill the chicken.

13. Let children become both passionate and rational people. "Without passion, no great undertaking can begin well; without reason, no feat can end well."

14. Let your children become educated people. Being educated means being punctual, lining up, and It starts with not speaking loudly in public situations and not getting angry easily.

15. Be kind. If your child is kind, don't laugh at his weakness. A person who likes to take advantage often suffers greatly because he is disliked by others. The person who is willing to suffer a small loss will take advantage of it in the future because he is liked by others.

16. Physical vitality can bring spiritual vitality. A person with good health and a sunny personality. People who are in poor health are hesitant to do things, evasive, and hesitant to speak.

17. Don’t think that children from 1 to 6 years old are just the age when their bodies grow. If parents let their children live with their grandparents from 1 to 6 years old, and then take the child back to primary school when the child is 6 years old, then the child will either become a silent and silent person in primary school, or he will become a lawless troublemaker. who.

18. Frequently do three things with your children: first, eat with your children, second, invite your children to repair toys, furniture or clothes together, and occasionally invite your children to help solve difficulties at work. The third is to tell stories to children and invite them to tell stories themselves.

19. If there are no special difficulties, it is best for parents to rush home and have meals with their children every day. The common values ????of a family are established in the process of the whole family eating around the same table.

20. Tell stories to children and invite them to tell stories themselves. Let children establish reading and writing habits starting from listening to stories. Let children learn to read independently as early as possible and develop a lifelong reading habit as early as possible. "As long as people are still studying, they will not be completely degenerate. Those who are completely degenerate will not study." Parents who never tell stories to their children are irresponsible parents.

21. There are three critical periods for a child’s growth: the first is around 3 years old, the second is around 9 years old, and the third is around 13 years old. If you miss the critical period of growth, you will have endless troubles.

22. It is not "standing at thirty", but "standing at three years old". Around the age of three, children must establish the courage and habit of being self-reliant. Whatever you can do, you must do it yourself, and whatever you should do, you should do your best.

23. If your child likes Frost's poem when he is 13 years old: "Two roads diverged in a wood, and I take the one less traveled by", that's normal, don't Worried, he might choose the path with more people in the future.

24. It is necessary for parents to reason with their children, but when reasoning with children around the age of 13, they must pay attention to the posture of their speech. The posture is more important than the reason. Otherwise, the child will be disgusted and rebel. The child will say: What you say is correct, but the way you speak is annoying.

25. The secret in the heart is a sign of human growth and maturity. If your child has something on his mind that he doesn't want to tell you, don't force him to tell you his secret.

26. When a child is around 3 years old, it is best to have an inactive and permissive parent by his side. When a child is around 9 years old, it is best to have a positive and authoritative parent by his side. When a child is around 13 years old, it is best to have passive democratic parents around him. Effective education is strict first and then loose. Ineffective education is first loose and then strict.

27. You must pay attention to your child's academic performance, but don't care too much about his ranking. But we need to be wary of those children who are always first in academic performance. Some children have good academic performance and good character. Some children have good academic performance but are selfish, lack sympathy and have no interest in life.

28. Your children must learn to interact with others and accept their friends happily. "If parents are dissatisfied with their neighbors, are very picky about their children's friends, or do not allow their children to make friends with them, making the children feel as if they are very different from others, then it will be difficult for these children to grow up. Get along naturally with anyone.

29. Children need companions to grow up. Let children have their own friends, but do not have partners that are too messy. Be careful before your children develop mature rationality and judgment. Children are infected with the bad habits of their peers.

30. Let your children develop healthy aesthetics as early as possible. Promising men will definitely like healthy women. Don’t let your children’s aesthetics fall into vulgarity and pathology. Don’t think that those who are small or sick are good. Don’t think that those who are strong are bad. Don’t think that sparrows, sheep, and puppies are all cute, and don’t think that lions, tigers, and wolves are all bad. . Don’t think that jackals only eat people who are weaker than themselves.

31. "The Catcher in the Rye" contributed a word to the world: education is not to control, nor to ignore. .Between managing and not caring, there is a word called "watching".

32. Tell your children: Children who listen carefully occasionally get good grades, and children who study hard on their own will always get good grades.

Education means one tree shakes another tree, one cloud pushes another cloud, one soul awakens another soul.

Parents and children are like two big trees and small trees that are separated from each other but close to each other. The big tree should shield the small tree from the wind and sand, but also leave enough space for the small tree to feel the sunshine and breathe. Air. In this way, the small tree can stretch freely and thrive in its own space.

Small trees that are too close to big trees cannot grow into towering trees, while small trees that are far away from big trees have to withstand the wind and sand alone. Although they are extremely strong, they are easily twisted or died.