This is the 54th book read in 2017, 96 away from 150.

Book flipping notes on "Believe Change Will Happen" from July 10 to July 11, 2017

Number of pages: 224 pages

Recommendation index: 5

Reading days: 2 days

This is a book about family education, this is a book about Satir, this is a book that truly embodies Satir theory A book that combines the actual development of parent-child education in China. Really good recommendation.

It mentions many cases that are very in line with China's current reality, such as what should be done when the educational concepts of three generations under the same roof conflict, such as how rules and freedom should be agreed upon, etc. Of course, the theoretical system behind these cases is supported by Satir’s theoretical system

Good education is similar. Compared with Montessori, both of them have the most basic understanding of children. are consistent. Of course, Satya's focus is not on children, but on human growth. Montessori pays more attention to the overall guidance of children.

Contents of this book

The author puts the essence of the Satir model - positivity, humanity, understanding and respect for life - into the book. middle. Through the analysis of common parenting confusions, parents can understand the different effects of different handling methods, see what important psychological nutrients their children need for their growth, and how to provide appropriate psychological support.

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★This book gives readers a clear and hopeful framework. Through this framework, parents can better understand their children, prepare to be successful parents, and interact with their children in a way that creates healthier, happier, and more successful outcomes.

——John Beman, the world-renowned Satir tutor

★In this book, through the analysis of common parenting confusions, parents can learn about different ways to deal with them. The different effects brought about, see what important psychological nutrients children need for growth, and how to provide appropriate psychological support to help children build the inner quality of healthy sunshine.

——Wei Min Satya, founder of Beijing Qijia Shengye Education and Application Center

★I was very happy when I saw this book. The author put Satya’s positive ideas into , inner iceberg theory, interpersonal communication theory, body sculpture technology, etc., can be flexibly applied to parent-child education. This book is a gift of love dedicated by the author to parents. I hope more parents will accept this gift and accompany their children to grow up healthily.

——Lin Guirui, Professor at the Psychological Counseling Center of Capital Normal University

★This is a book written with love by my friend Yang Li. She uses her life wisdom to share her experience of parent-child interaction with parents all over the world. The book not only contains the love of a mother for her children, but also the love of a Satya communicator for every Chinese child.

——Hao Zongyuan, executive assistant of Baimansatya China Management Center

Contents of this book

Chapter 1 Self-esteem and Confidence

Part One The attitude of parents is a mirror

A concave lens reflects a "dwarf"

A convex lens reflects a "giant"

A funny mirror reflects chaos

The true self is in front of a flat mirror

Satir Sculpture Class: Don’t let the “ideal look” block the flat mirror of love

Part Two Satisfying deep desires: safety, acceptance, I am Important

Safety

Never say abandonment

Children are not "punching bags"

Crying is a true expression of emotion

Acceptance

Don’t embarrass children’s nature

Only when you tell the truth can you be calm

There are no shortcomings, only characteristics

I am important

Pay attention to children’s feelings

Anyone can express their opinions

Dare to make demands

Chapter 2 Independence and Self-reliance

Part One Only by handling expectations can you let go and let go

The requirement to "obey" comes from your parents' expectations

Not all wishes must be fulfilled

Comply with the child’s psychological growth stage

Satya Sculpture Class: Adjust expectations and stimulate the child’s inner strength

Part Two Satisfy deep desires: trust, appreciation, support

Trust

There are no bad boys

Choose your own good friends

Enjoy the happiness of the moment

Appreciate

Appreciate qualities, not just behaviors

No need to compare

Refuse purposeful compliments

Support

Use suggestions instead of decisions

Give love when you are vulnerable

It is normal not to be able to do it

Chapter 3 Rules and Boundaries

Part One Clear boundaries promote inner integrity

Really enjoy the benefits of rules and boundaries

Freedom of behavior does not equal inner freedom

Healthy ways of setting limits

Make good use of them Handle boundaries well and let three generations live together

Satya Sculpture Class: When a child cries because his wishes are not fulfilled

Part Two satisfies deep desires: freedom, fun, respect< /p>

Freedom

Contact with real life

Be able to imagine and dare to express

Respect children's choices

Fun

Only those who love to play will enjoy life

Take care of learning interests

Happy parents are the best role models

Respect

Embarrassing feelings hurt

Autonomy brings a sense of power

Chapter 4 Emotional Management

Part One Only with stable emotions can we give stable love

Emotions are messengers

Emotional management under the Satir model

Being a child Emotional Coach

Satir Sculpture Class: Facing children’s negative emotions in a consistent state

Part Two meets deep desires: understanding, recognition, intimacy

Understand

There are reasons for losing temper

Problems with words and deeds come from within

Accept expectations, but do not necessarily have to meet them

Recognize

An attitude of rejection will make a bad mood worse

Listen to your children

Find another way to satisfy your desires

Intimacy

Share your inner world

Judgmental reactions lead to alienation

Family harmony is the most important

Chapter 5 Adapting to society

Part One Growing up with your child***

Becoming a good decision-maker

Establishing harmonious interpersonal relationships

Truly effective communication

Five languages ??that enhance intimacy

Satya Sculpture Class: Teaching children to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships

Part Two satisfies deep desires: belonging, connection, sex

Belonging

Let children participate in family interactions

Make friends without wearing "colored glasses"< /p>

School is a small society

Connection

Open your heart and interact with others

Intimate contact with nature

Don’t Full of complaints about the environment

Sex

Tell children the truth about the source of life

Deal with masturbation appropriately

Treat "sex" with a healthy attitude ”

Conclusion: Give your children the two best gifts

Postscript

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