The secret of getting along with all kinds of people - a master key
Being able to get along with people can help you avoid detours and achieve success as soon as possible. In fact, for everyone to succeed, it is not enough to have a strong working ability. You must walk on two legs. You must not only work hard to do your job well, but also handle interpersonal relationships well.
In fact, due to differences in family backgrounds, education, hobbies, and concepts, the people we meet come in all shapes and sizes. If you understand what type of person the other person is, you can prescribe the right medicine and act according to the situation, it will be much easier to communicate. Smith Tiger, a professor of public relations at Harvard University, summarized the various types of getting along with various people:
People of the selfless good type are often the kindest people in the world, so they are often easily If people ignore them, they will not harm you, so you may ignore them or take them lightly. If that's the case, you're wrong. In fact, they are the friends you can really get along with. The judgment that there is no friendship in the office will lose its meaning only with these people.
Stubbornly opinionated people generally have outdated ideas and aging thoughts, but they resolutely resist external suggestions and opinions and are self-righteous and self-righteous. When dealing with this kind of person, it is difficult to convince him just by relying on your sharp tongue. You might as well go straight to the point and enumerate some of his wrong practices in work and life, and then combine them with the problems that need to be solved to remind him of the serious consequences. In this way, even if he resists you face to face, his heart will begin to waver and he will doubt the correctness of his decision. At this time, if you take the opportunity to express your point of view, express it emotionally and understand it rationally, then he will be more likely to accept it.
Arrogant and rude people are generally self-centered and arrogant. They often assume a domineering and self-centered manner and lack self-awareness. When dealing with or engaging in affairs with such people, you must not be condescending or arrogant. You only need to keep your story short and explain everything that needs to be explained concisely. If you ask him to do something, that's a different matter.
For this type of person, even if you greet him politely, he will not react accordingly. According to psychology, it is called expressionless. Being expressionless does not mean that he has no emotions. It's just that this kind of person suppresses his passion and doesn't show it. So, for this kind of person, you don't need to be angry, just keep saying what you want to say. When it comes to the critical moment, he will naturally express his expression with words.
Taciturn type This type of person is generally introverted and not good at communication and speech. But that doesn't mean he has nothing to say. When having sex with him, you need to slow down the conversation and explore more topics. Once he talks about something he is good at or interested in, he will immediately "thaw out" and talk to you endlessly.
Selfish type This type of person generally lacks care and feels lonely. He always puts himself and his own interests first. If you ask him to do something that is not good for you, it will be difficult for you to communicate with him. To get along with this kind of person, you must pay attention to him from the soul and let him feel the warmth and value of emotion.
This type of person lacks ideals and a positive attitude towards life. They are lazy in life and lack passion in work. To get along with this kind of person, you can only use provocation to tap out his fighting spirit.
Hideaway type: This type of person has a strong sense of self-defense. He is afraid that you will peek into his inner secret. In fact, this is a sign of very low self-esteem. If you want to understand his personality and psychology, you might as well sit with him and drink a few more drinks and let him tell the truth after drinking.
Sluggish type This type of person generally thinks slowly and reacts slowly. It's okay to be friends with him, but it's not an ideal partner to have sex with him.
Hasty decision-making type: This type of person appears to be quick-witted at first glance. They often make sudden decisions at the climax of negotiations. They lack foresight and are prone to making wrong judgments. The best way to get along with him is to pour cold water on him often, so that he can keep a clear mind and never make hasty decisions based on emotions.
Excessive confusion type: This kind of person has a tendency to be schizophrenic, has difficulty concentrating when doing things, has low memory, and lacks understanding ability. This person, like the slow mover, is not an ideal partner. But when making friends, this kind of person is very popular. Looks casual and generous.
Housewife type This type of person not only refers to women, but some men are also "feminine". This kind of person will tell the people in the office everything that happened at home from last night to this morning as soon as he enters the office. If you really don’t have anything to say, I’ll repeat last night’s TV series to you. There is nothing about the unit that they don't know about. Zhang's parents and the Li family are short-term. They are busy working and talking. When they come across benefits or something, they will pick the best ones and go to them. This kind of people make you upset. When you are in a bad mood, hearing them buzzing in your ears may make you want to curse them to relieve your hatred. But you must not get angry. For people like this, just don’t answer their words. Act like you didn’t hear anything they said. Such people are less likely to say bad things about you at critical moments, and may even say good things about you, because they are more sympathetic.
This kind of person is qualitatively different from the previous type of person. They may not want to talk