We need to understand that modern society has entered the era of global village, information explosion, and people's communication is very convenient and fast. In such a pluralistic society, there are great differences between people and countries, including different religious beliefs, different lifestyles and even different social systems. Therefore, we need to understand. Only by understanding can we eliminate barriers and differences and move towards harmony and unity. "Taishan doesn't care about the soil, it can get taller; Rivers can only grow bigger if they don't choose small streams. " We should be as calm as Mount Tai and as broad-minded as rivers and seas. We should understand others like "a big belly can accommodate all the difficulties in the world". We can understand any cunning, selfish, insidious and hypocritical, and we can accept love. Only in this way can we be great, broad, firm and powerful. During the Spring and Autumn Period, Bao understood Guan Zhong's selfishness and his fear of death, and recommended Guan Zhong to be his boss, which was passed down as a beautiful talk in history. Because of the understanding that "a hundred flowers blossom and a hundred schools of thought contend", the literature of the Warring States period can flourish. Because of the suspicion of "ousting a hundred schools of thought and respecting Confucianism alone", the cultural decline in the post-Han era occurred. Because of understanding, Lien Chan's "ice-breaking trip", James Soong's "bridge-building trip", the cordial talks between the party chairmen on both sides of the strait, and the arrival of a new era in cross-strait relations. Although there are many differences between us, we are all from China. Under this premise, everything can be understood. Society is complex and colorful. People with different personalities, hobbies and experiences should understand each other. Parents should understand their children in order to eliminate the generation gap; Teachers must understand students in order to eliminate obstacles; A boss needs to understand his subordinates in order to unite people. However, there are many negative examples in history: Empress Dowager Cixi did not understand the Reform Movement of 1898 in Kangliang, which led to foreign invasion and civil strife. Because Jiang didn't understand the peaceful national plan of the * * * production party, the three-year cruel war of liberation was possible. It is particularly worth mentioning that during the ten-year catastrophe of the Cultural Revolution, society was full of suspicion and total ignorance. Some people accuse that it is selfish to plant some private plots and sell a car full of vegetables in the street. Wearing a flowered skirt and singing some folk songs, he was criticized as bourgeois. At that time, the production and lifestyle were extremely simplified, and tragedies of friends estrangement and relatives turning against each other were everywhere because of incomprehension. The deep sky can understand the raging of lightning storms for a while, and it may be sunny; The vastness of the sea is boundless only when you can understand the raging waves for a while. Nowadays, people are more accustomed to the pursuit of individualization and liberalization of life, which requires us to strengthen understanding to understand and eliminate hatred and deepen friendship. As long as each of us can understand, then our society will become a beautiful world without suspicion, resentment and war. We need to understand "Long live understanding, long live understanding ..." This is the mantra of adults, who always want us to understand them. When we understand them, do they understand us? Do they know what our door is saying? "Examination, the teacher's magic weapon. Points are the lifeblood of students. " This is the cry of students in the 20th century. 2 1 what are the students shouting? They are shouting "examination, the magic weapon of teachers, names, the lifeblood of students." (Note: First name is first name. ) "hey! I finally finished the exam and finally relaxed ... "I didn't say half. Because there will be an exam the day after tomorrow, and we will rank after the exam. If you count down, you can't lift your head in front of others. " The score was changed. "The whole class rushed out of the classroom with a bang and ran into the office. When they came out, they were ecstatic and depressed. Back in the classroom, I took out my computer and "clicked" to calculate the total score.' What's your total score?' "What's your total score?" Wait until all the questions have been asked before ranking yourself. The ranking table was posted and rushed over with a bang, some from above and some from below. I saw my eyes almost jump out, as if I could improve my ranking a little bit with another look. Ranking is of course important, and what is more important is our acceptance. Some people may study hard because of ranking, others hate studying because of ranking, and even give up exams. What we need is not the result, but the process. Adults only see the results without the process. We grow in the process, not in the result. What does the ranking represent? Does it represent hard work and struggle? Does it represent progress and retrogression? Does it mean good or bad? Ranking can only represent us in the eyes of adults, not ourselves. Please listen to our hearts! More care and love. We need to understand. We need to understand. We need to do what we want. We need to understand that we don't want to be looked down upon by adults. We need to understand that we want to have our own way of thinking. We need to understand. We want to tell you what we want to say ... Can you understand us? Our life is boring, and the pressure of daily study and further study bothers us ... Do you know us? We communicate less and less, but less and less. Every time I see your hard work, I care about our study, our health and our future ... We want to say that we have grown up. It is your hard work that gives us the opportunity to learn in class, and it is your inculcation that gives us the opportunity to learn ... but what do you value most? -The result! Besides grades, what else did you see? We play because we are tired of studying and need to relax. We make friends because we want to expand our communication and gain experience in dealing with people. We are stubborn because we have our own ideas. We resist because we have reasons you don't understand. We are eager to know! Once upon a time, a gardener planted a vine in his yard. In summer, the vines bear a lot of grapes. He was very happy and wanted to share these fruits with others, so he picked some and gave them to his neighbors. First of all, he gave it to a businessman, who said while eating, "delicious, delicious!" " How much is a catty? The gardener gave the grapes to a cadre. After receiving the grapes, he pondered for a long time and asked, "What can I do for you?" "The gardener gave the grapes to a young woman. She was a little surprised, while her husband watched. When the gardener came home, he was puzzled: I just want everyone to have a taste. How can there be so many misunderstandings?

In fact, we also need to understand (communicate). In fact, we also need to understand (communicate)-the call of students with learning difficulties who have been mercilessly abandoned. Gao Yunkuan [Abstract] Communication is an important prescription to save students with learning difficulties. Although bitter, it is beneficial to the line. Let us prescribe the right medicine for our actions (behaviors); Communication is a warm current, which warms the lonely and helpless heart and opens our inner world. Communication is a bridge between hearts, which brings us closer and makes us close. Communication is an activity process in which people use verbal and nonverbal communication forms to communicate and transmit information. It plays a very important role in the management of middle school students. As a teacher, understanding and mastering the methods and skills of psychological communication and skillfully applying them to work have played a very important role in improving the pertinence and effectiveness of student management. However, in the actual education and teaching activities, our teachers often pay more attention to the gifted students, while ignoring the concern, understanding and communication of the students with learning difficulties. Saving students with learning difficulties requires understanding, communication and care. [Keywords:] Students with learning difficulties understand the harmonious relationship between teachers and students. Teachers all know the importance of understanding and communication between teachers and students. It can be said that it is one of the important conditions for us to do a good job in class. Understanding communication refers to the psychological tolerance between teachers and students, that is, mutual understanding, mutual acceptance, mutual trust and respect. Specifically, students can understand the rationality and correctness of teachers' educational requirements, and are willing to accept teachers' educational guidance and help and turn them into actions; Teachers can understand the background of students' words and deeds, analyze the real motives of students' words and deeds, understand their specific situation and know their thoughts. Emotionally, teachers and students accept each other, care about each other and do not misinterpret each other. The psychological relationship between teachers and students has a great influence on educational activities. The research of educational psychology shows that teachers' love and trust in students will produce "teacher expectation effect". Conversely, students' trust and love for teachers will also enhance students' learning motivation and improve learning effect. The emotional relationship between teachers and students plays a great regulatory role in the educational process. It can be said that understanding the communication between teachers and students is the key for teachers to open students' hearts, and it is one of the successful ways to be a good head teacher and a teacher of a department and do a good job in class work. First, psychological input is an important basis for understanding and communication. If communication is an important prescription to save students with learning difficulties, then psychological input is an important basis for formulating this prescription. Although bitter, it is beneficial to the line. Let us prescribe the right medicine for our actions (behaviors). Our psychological investment in students is not dogmatic and mechanical, nor is it a "student-only will theory". It is based on the class performing social functions, maintaining social norms, ensuring class stability and promoting the all-round development of students' personality. The psychological input in class daily management is manifested as the emotional input to establish good interpersonal relationship in class. The head teacher should talk openly with the students about their joys and sorrows, so as to achieve emotional harmony between teachers and students and form a strong class cohesion. Emotional investment should avoid mutual suspicion and mutual exclusion between teachers and students, provide a positive and optimistic psychological atmosphere for class creative activities, and enable class members to maintain good emotions and give full play to their subjective initiative. Emotional input can further grasp the ideological pulse hidden in students' deep 1 ideas, and take different measures for students of different levels to help students eliminate psychological interference: excellent students get rid of "pride" and students with learning difficulties get rid of "inferiority". Teachers should treat students as friends and relatives, treat them with sincerity, affection and friendship, think of them and do things for them. When students think the school is lovely and the teachers are credible, their body and mind are in the best state of activities, which correspondingly improves the efficiency of activities. What the ancients said: "A scholar dies for a confidant" is the concentrated expression of this emotional factor. The head teacher should strengthen class management and attach importance to the cross-induction of emotion and reason. Teachers should also carry out this idea in their own education and teaching process. Some of our teachers lack psychological input and patience in their work, and even have no patience and efforts for students with learning difficulties. They always say that students with learning difficulties are hopeless, and they always talk about their many shortcomings. They always send them away with a few simple and rude words, even ignore them, and even blame others for many shortcomings of students with learning difficulties, saying loudly, "The present society is too complicated and students with learning difficulties are too difficult to teach. "It can be described as" Friends Surprise Theory "." Is it really that we students with learning difficulties are hopeless? Is our job really hopeless? Shouldn't we reflect on our job responsibilities ourselves? Second, understanding and love are the basis of understanding and communication. If communication is a ray of warm and warm spring, then understanding love is an angel who spreads spring. She warmed the lonely and helpless heart and opened our inner world. 1. Students should be fully understood. This is the premise of psychological communication, and there are many ways to understand students: ask more questions, talk to students, and the teacher usually observes. Asking more questions means asking students what the new plan is, whether they can adapt to the class and school environment, whether they can keep up with their studies, hobbies and so on. They often care about students' life and study, and take the initiative to learn about students from other teachers, so as to know more about all aspects of your classmates and master their ideological trends and existing problems. Conversations can be held in formal situations, such as classrooms and offices, or in informal situations, such as recess and playground. No matter what occasion, the key is to choose the starting point of the conversation and start with the topics that students are most familiar with and interested in, so as to relieve their worries and open their hearts. A successful educator must be a teacher who knows students very well, and students must like such teachers very much. But in real life, some of our teachers do not do well in this respect. It seems that a teacher's job is to teach. After I finish my class by myself, everything else is the responsibility of the head teacher, and I won't take the initiative to spend a little time getting to know the students. Therefore, the work situation of these teachers is not ideal, and their relationship with students is not ideal, and even they often have some unhappiness with students. In short, is it really that difficult to know students? 2. Be kind to students. Teachers' love can guide students to generate great internal motivation and move forward in the direction of teachers' guidance consciously and actively. The sincere love of a teacher can give students a sense of closeness, trust and expectation, and make students admire the teacher, thus opening their inner world to the teacher. Therefore, as a class teacher, we must use our love to influence students, be emotional, rational, sensible, and combine reason with emotion. It is particularly noteworthy that teachers should love every student, and they should not support him especially because of his good academic performance, nor should they abandon him because of his poor academic performance. They should treat him equally, treat him equally, and strive to shape every student into a person who is beneficial to society. When it comes to love, it is not the same as selfishness. It requires us to care for every student around us with the heart of loving others, and to tolerate the advantages and disadvantages of every student around us with a broad mind. But some of our teachers only care about his family. To others, he is absent-minded Therefore, I think if you don't have a broad mind, you shouldn't teach at all. Third, psychological balance is the ultimate goal of psychological communication. If communication is a bridge between hearts, then psychological balance is to pull the steel cable on the bridge deck, bring us closer to each other and make us close. Psychological balance is a comfortable and pleasant psychological state caused by respect and trust. This kind of mental state is healthy and upward, which helps students to solve psychological contradictions and avoid psychological conflicts and centrifugal tendencies. 1. Psychological balance helps students with learning difficulties to avoid excessive anxiety and prevent the occurrence of psychological barriers. Excessive anxiety is a common mental illness among students. Due to the pressure of "entering a higher school", parents' earnest hope and the influence of various social factors, students are always in a state of excessive anxiety, which easily leads to abnormal cognitive level and decreased coping ability. Psychological research also shows that the reason for the formation of psychological barriers is that patients suppress themselves subconsciously and suppress psychological conflicts in the subconscious. Over time, these "psychological contents" will accumulate in the subconscious, and at a certain time, they will erupt like a volcano. For example, there are many cases in which students with learning difficulties violate school rules and regulations. Some of our teachers lack the implementation and patience of psychological input in their work, and even have no patience and efforts for students with learning difficulties. They always say that the students with learning difficulties are hopeless, always talk about many things about them, always send them away with simple and rude words, or even ignore them. Never give them any encouragement or praise others' merits. However, under the condition of psychological balance, individuals can actively prevent excessive anxiety and its psychological obstacles. This is because a balanced psychological state is easy to produce a quiet state of mind, which can effectively regulate personal emotions, "win without arrogance, lose with grace", find ways to relieve mental tension as soon as possible, and vent and relieve self-depression in time. 2. Psychological balance is beneficial for students to develop good psychological quality. Generally, in the senior grades and junior high schools, on the one hand, students' self-awareness is constantly enhanced, their adult awareness is prominent, and they are eager for independence. In particular, they don't want others to treat them as "children" and like self-expression; On the other hand, it shows childish characteristics, extreme, excitable, adventurous, full of illusions about life, and has special contradictions that can't be solved physically and psychologically. Facing such a special period in which independence and dependence, consciousness and naivety coexist, we should give full play to the function of moral education, and at the same time adopt practical methods to let students face all this with a peaceful psychological state, handle the special contradictions at this special stage and spend the psychological "weaning period" safely. 3. Balanced psychology is easy to produce a stable and lasting mentality, which has a great influence on young students' study, life and physical and mental health. It can improve the activity efficiency of young students, enhance their confidence, be full of hope for the future, and help accelerate their psychological maturity. In a word, understanding and communication between teachers and students is a necessary condition for us to do a good job. Only by realizing the psychological communication between teachers and students can each member of the class have a sense of belonging and attachment to the group, and a sense of reverence and closeness to the teachers, education and teaching will get twice the result with half the effort, and a harmonious class group will gradually form. Therefore, let's act quickly to help students with learning difficulties, who also need understanding, communication and more love. three

I need your understanding when I grow up.

Mars, level 9, year 9.

How many points did your child get in the exam? Oh, 125, so much, but my little English can't get that much.

Hearing this, I know that sometimes our neighbors are showing off their children's achievements, so it is inevitable to get a scolding when they go home. It's really chilling

Yes, mom, when you scold me, have you considered my feelings? Don't! Have you considered it from my standpoint? Don't! Have you considered my self-esteem? Don't! Then you should consider whether you are a competent mother. You broke my heart. Do you know that you blame me for losing face? Do you know how hard it is for me? My heart is bleeding, and you can't feel it at all.

Yes, my grades are not good, but no one is perfect and no one will be perfect. Why do you only see the advantages of other children and my shortcomings? Do you really realize that I'm not useless only when you lose me?

I fly by myself.

choose

Zhang Yu, Class 7, Grade 9.

My way, I choose.

Under the guidance of my parents, I came to this colorful world and set foot on the starting point of this life; Now I want to start from this starting point and run to the other side of the distance.

I ah! I must reflect on myself, assess the situation, do what I can and make a wise choice. I know that the waves aroused by my thin arms are far less magnificent than the huge waves, but they are also rare pictures on the stage of life; I know very well that every inch of my body is tiny and pitiful, but it is also an indispensable word and punctuation in the masterpiece of life; I firmly believe that my way, only by my own choice, my feet can win the right way for me ... Only in this way can I effectively walk every mile of my life, successfully board the various sites of my career and successfully reach the other side of my life.

There are choices everywhere in life, and big and small things are faced with choices. For example, as students, we can choose to do our homework or not, but the result is completely different. It is our duty as students to choose to do homework. If you can't even finish the basic homework, what can you talk about? If we don't do our homework, of course, it won't do us any good, because it's for ourselves and not for others. When faced with difficulties, we can choose to face them. You can also choose to escape. It's just a temporary relaxation You can't relax forever. The difficulty still exists because you haven't overcome it at all. So as long as you overcome the difficulties, you can choose to face them, and you will succeed. You won't have to be in the shadow of difficulties.

My way, I choose! I choose ordinary, I choose ordinary! Everything is up to me!

Work hard, please start today.

Zheng Yue, class five, nine years.

"Today after today, how little today! Unfortunately, we don't do it today. When did this happen? " If we wait until the Ming Dynasty, there will be other things in the Ming Dynasty. "

To sum up, many stupid things I have done can be divided into two categories: fantasy and regret. However, fantasy often becomes a bubble, and regret is of no help. It is hard to say that people like to fantasize about the future and predict tomorrow, but tomorrow is not determined by people's will. Unfortunately, however, when we are imagining, the time that belongs to us today has quietly slipped away from us. When people are in trouble or frustrated, they often sigh and regret the past. However, yesterday no longer belongs to people, and what has passed away has been lost forever. What's the significance of people's sighs and regrets?

People often say that once something is lost, it will feel more precious, and so will time.