"People who pay with money will pay for it; People who pay with color fall in love with Chongqing. So, women don't sit in our seats, and slaves don't avoid the porch ... "This passage first came from" The Warring States Policy, Chu Ce I ",which was told by counselor Jiang Yi to Anlingjun. Ann Ling Jun, a doctor of Chu State, was favored by Chu Xuanwang before he was sealed. He's bossing around all day, smug.
Jiang Yi, the counselor, thinks that it is wrong for Anlingjun to do so, because Anlingjun is in Chu, and he has no size and is not related to Chu Xuanwang. Just because Chu Xuanwang is valued, he enjoys high office, rich salary and luxurious food. However, the spoil period has always been a temporary success. Now, it is very dangerous for a Ling Jun to monopolize the state of Chu, but he can't deepen his friendship with Chu Xuanwang.
Jiang Yi further put forward a plan: "Your Excellency told the king that he would live with death so that he could keep his wealth forever." A Ling Junren thinks what he said makes sense. When he and Chu Xuanwang were hunting in Yunmeng, they expressed their loyalty to King Xuan of Chu: "After Chu Xuanwang lives to be a hundred years old, I would like to be a guest in his grave to stop ants and let him enjoy happiness." The king of Chu listened to Da Yue, so he was named Anlingjun. ..
Over time, in the "Historical Records of Zheng Family Praise", the following two sentences became: "If you pay with money, give up all the money; Color giver, China falls, loves Chongqing; If the rights are combined, the rights are exhausted. "
In Li Wenzi Music written by Sui, the phrase "those who combine their power and exhaust their power" is further developed into "those who are friends with the current situation and rely on their potential will never lose; The beneficiaries will be scattered. " The whole meaning is similar.
Later, this statement has a new development: "Those who intersect with the Tao are old; People who meet morality will last for a long time; Those who intersect with color, color declines and loves relaxation; Those who bring out the best in each other will get something; Those who cross the trend will refuse. "
20 10 master xingyun and Liu Changle summed up this famous saying in the collection of essays "cultivate this heart": "if you meet gold, you will forget; When the interests cross, the interests will be scattered; Intersection with potential, and potential loss; If the rights cross, the loss of rights will be abandoned; Intersecting with love, feeling broken and hurting the body; Ideals intersect, and the word "Jing Yuan" is greatly appreciated and widely circulated.
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Those who benefit from it, if they benefit, will be sparse; Those who intersect with the potential are bound to break; Those who pay with color love Chongqing when the flowers fall; Those who are friends with Tao are old.
"People who pay with color love Chongqing when the flowers fall". To learn classical Chinese now, you need to know some words.
The word "Chongqing" means change, and there is an idiom called "Till death do us part", which means till death do us the same. With color, beauty is gone, and this love is gone. So now many men and women want to find a beautiful good object, is it not easy? It's not easy.
People in the past, women in the past, dressed simply when they went out, and dressed more solemnly when they came back.
I just want to leave it to my husband and not show it to others everywhere. Is this logic right? Now this logic is reversed. Attention, everyone, upside down can be seen everywhere. Now it is such a thick makeup for others to see; I didn't dress up at all when I came back, so I showed it to my husband. Then where is Mr. Wang going to see it? Seeing that all his wives are so untidy, "Oh, what a nuisance."
If a woman has dignity at home, wow, he looks relaxed and respects his wife. So now I am down and out, dressed beautifully for others to see, but I wonder if this society can be stable. Everyone should understand, what is the "hero sad beauty pass"? The biography of beauty. This sentence has never appeared in the classics.
Who said this sentence? It was said by the man who obviously couldn't pass the beauty pass and still wanted to be a hero. This man named "If you cover it up, you will get a koo" said it. A real hero is a great hero if he absolutely passes the beauty pass. Therefore, many of our current attitudes and practices are actually inappropriate. We can learn from the teachings of our ancient sages. This is the right thing to do.
And you see, if all the female colleagues are dressed up beautifully, this gay man can't sit still, can he? Then perfume came at me again and again. How can I stand it? So it's really not easy to be a gentleman now. Why? To be a gentleman, you can't watch, "see no evil, don't listen if you are indecent, don't speak if you are indecent, and don't move if you are indecent."
Therefore, it is very important for women to dress solemnly in the whole working field. Every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the world. Including how we wear clothes and dress up, are affecting the social atmosphere. We should have this sensitivity.
Well, then, it's time to guide children's thoughts and let them clearly distinguish between love and desire. Now many social phenomena say that men and women love each other, but why does love hurt each other in the end? So it's definitely not love. Love is putting yourself in the other person's shoes. How can you hurt others?
So now those love songs are not love, and they all spoil the sacred meaning of love. It's all possessive If you have that desire and can't satisfy it, you will do whatever it takes. "If I can't get it, I will destroy it." That's all desire, not love.
Then let's not talk about anyone. Are we a person who really knows how to love others? I don't even know love, but I have to talk about feelings. That's not appropriate. It's hard not to hurt people.
Ok, so Confucius has a saying that reminds us to look at ourselves. "Love to life, evil to death. Isn't it very confusing? " When I love him, he is all right, thinking of him and appreciating all his advantages. "The desire for love is alive." When you hate him, curse him every day. Why don't you die?
The same person, why is everything good when you like him and nothing good when you don't like him? Is it his problem? This is our problem. And this love is not true love, this word is the desire of love. True love, true love, real things will not change, just called "truth".
Just as parents are biased against their children, no matter how biased their children's behavior is, their attitude is just thinking about how to help their children, which they will never change in their lives. This is called true love. As long as our attitude and feelings towards this person will change, it is not true love, it is still in the part of likes and dislikes and desires.
He follows us and we like him. We hated him when he opposed us. Therefore, "if the heart is happy, it is not right." How can there be true love if the heart is not right?
Ok, so we sang The Truth of Love together. Later, we said that "everything is tolerant, everything is believed, and everything is hoped", and "love never stops", which is unchangeable. This is called true love.
So now let's think about it. Now we hate the person who used to be kind to us, so we have to reflect that we are not kind.
Disciples Rules says, "If you want to repay kindness, you want to forget resentment". The relationship between good friends has changed, which is caused by hate and complaint. People who have true love know how to put themselves in others' shoes and appreciate their efforts and kindness, and they will never forget them all their lives.
Ok, then let's look at ourselves. The feeling of love should be warm and make people feel like spring breeze. "The feeling of love is warm." A loving heart is selfless. Love words are not flattery, but sincerity and integrity. They are not chasing after this girl's sweet talk. That's not love. That's the motive of desire.
The act of love is satisfaction, not possession. (blackboard writing: the feeling of love is warm, the heart of love is selfless, the words of love are upright, and the behavior of love is perfect. ) Well, as parents and elders, we should be clear about this love. Why? Be sure to make it clear to children and young people, otherwise the relationship between men and women is very chaotic now.
Come to think of it, a girl doesn't know these truths and doesn't know how to deal with them. We actually met a girl in her thirties. She said that she had had more than twenty abortions. And when she said this, she felt very capable. You said that people's sense of shame did not know to what extent.
Therefore, women respect themselves and men know how to respect women. Women don't love themselves, and men themselves are impulsive, so the whole relationship between men and women is very chaotic.
So let's take a look at the women of the previous generation. They are particularly dignified and value honor. So on the contrary, her temperament will make men respect. Now women misunderstand, as if they can attract men to show their charm. Do you think these ideas are correct? Are not very suitable. That charm comes together, isn't it the flies, ants and cockroaches? Right?
So women have a misunderstanding, that is, they feel as if this man is close to me, and having sex with me means that he loves me. This kind of cognition is inappropriate. Why? Today, if he loves and respects you, he will be the first to consider. When talking about feelings with you, fate may not come together. He always thinks of you, not just his desires. He is selfless, and he wants to fulfill you.
So it's hard to tell the fate of life. Just because he talks about feelings with you doesn't mean he will marry you in the future. It's hard to say. So people can't all be impulsive, they are all temporary passions and inappropriate.
So since fate is hard to guarantee, he should respect you before he decides to marry you. Why? He hasn't married you yet, and you will get married in the future. He plans for your future.
If he didn't marry you, and then you dated another one, but you all lived with him before, that family, that family is a good man, and when relatives and friends investigate, who did that woman live with before, maybe your marriage and good marriage will be gone.
Even if you get married, that gentleman knows, wow, you used to live with that man. Will this gentleman respect you from the heart? Yeah, that's impossible. In the relationship between men and women, these sands are not allowed to go in. Men and women are all the same. This man said it's okay, it's okay, that's what he said verbally, isn't it?
If there is something really wrong, it will be troublesome to pick it out. Besides, if a woman comes to the door by herself, how can she cry in the future? The man said, you came by yourself, why are you crying? You won't have any chips. Yes, you found it yourself. Why are you crying? Nobody forced you.
Therefore, these should be made clear to women. First, if he thinks about your future, he won't be so frivolous and reckless in facing each other's relationship. Women nowadays don't understand these things, and they are all confused by the social atmosphere. Oh, why didn't he touch me after all this time? These ideas are all wrong.
If you have sex again, you will get pregnant. If you accidentally get pregnant, the man says, abortion will do. Does he love her body? Again, abortion is to end the life of one's own child. Such people are so reckless in the face of abortion. Does he know anything about love? Is he responsible?
Don't tell girls these analyses. Tell them first. She won't think of going there. The so-called "destiny takes a hand", is it true? If you don't establish her idea quickly, you will be defeated when you meet it. Therefore, it is said in education that we should "start with caution" and remind these concepts early so that she can properly handle these realms. So this love, parents must make it clear.
References:
Xi Evening News-Tracing to the Source "Intersecting with Gold, Forgetting with Gold Consumption"