Although we talked about the importance of making friends with middle school teachers and students, we also talked about some key points of making friends with middle school students. However, some teachers are still worried about whether they should make friends with students. It can be said that this kind of worry is not unreasonable. Some teachers have caused some unexpected problems because they don't make friends with students properly. Remember the intern teachers we talked about? As middle school students, they are willing to have a group of energetic college students who are closest to their own age. Those intern teachers are often deeply influenced by idealized educational concepts and are very willing to make friends with students. The internship time is often more than one month, and this month is also like the "honeymoon" of the wedding. The relationship between teachers and students is very close, even regardless of each other. Compared with their own class teachers, students are often willing to give these internship teachers some psychological words. The "honeymoon period" of this teacher-student relationship will naturally end with the end of the internship. After sending off the intern teacher, what remains is the feelings and thoughts of these college students and middle school students. However, we must ask, is the relationship between trainee teachers and middle school students an ideal relationship between teachers and students in middle schools? This is doubtful, just like the newlyweds who have just finished their honeymoon, there will be more conflicts and frictions that they have never thought of before one day after they start their daily necessities; Similarly, if the internship teacher further extends this internship period, will the relationship between teachers and students be so harmonious? Different from practice teachers, teachers who have really been educated, especially some young teachers, are often hurt in the experience of making friends with students. In the process of making friends with students, I also experienced the "honeymoon period", but what followed was often not the continuation of good friendship, but an embarrassing teaching experience. With beautiful educational ideals, these teachers try to make friends with students from the perspectives of equality, respect and friendliness. At first, students feel novel and willing to be close to these teachers, but it doesn't take long, at most one or two semesters, and these students who used to be close to teachers become strange and hostile. In other words, those teachers who really make friends with their students, as a result, students are more disobedient and more difficult to discipline. A teacher told me about her experience in middle school education. When she first started as a class teacher, she didn't like the unhappy faces of the old teachers all day, and wanted to communicate with the students in a democratic and friend-like way. Of course, her initial efforts paid off. Many students regard her as a bosom friend, share secrets with her and often invite her to participate in activities. She was happy, too. However, it didn't take long for her to feel the trouble caused by this close relationship with students. Because students regard her as a friend, many students don't regard themselves as outsiders in front of her and go in and out of her office at will. Even the magazines and articles on her desk are often missing. Soon, they may return to Zhao intact. Those students who call themselves "friends" of the teacher did it. Later, the problem became more and more serious, and the students were not afraid of her, and some of her suggestions were ignored. For these reasons, the class is out of line with Sun Shan in all aspects of grade evaluation, which makes her very lonely. So this teacher, like many mature teachers, gradually put away his smiling face in front of his students, always showing the appearance of bitter hatred, and from time to time, he found a few "unlucky" to teach him a lesson to make an example. They also know that, in this way, their hearts and students are getting farther and farther away. However, after all, the management of classes has gradually become normal, and it is not a problem for them to survive on campus. They seem to have gradually become more experienced and come to a somewhat sad understanding: "It is unrealistic to make friends with students. Teachers can't give students a good face, or they will go to heaven!" So, as a teacher, especially a middle school teacher, can't you really teach friends with students? We think it is not wrong for teachers to make friends with students. If a teacher only wants to survive in school and has no educational ideal, he can not make friends with students, but if he wants to really grasp the actual effect and really touch the hearts of students in the process of educating students, he really must make friends with students. The root of some teachers' problems in getting along with students is not "giving students a good face" or making friends with students, but not knowing how to make friends with students. In other words, our view is that it is not a problem to make friends with students, which is also an inevitable condition for the success of education. The problem is how to make friends with students. We adults also need friends, but the experience of the adult world tells us that not being good at expressing friendship properly will also hurt our psychology. Facing our students, making friends with them is beneficial and harmless education, but making friends does not mean "promiscuity", nor does it mean that your desire and pursuit of friendship are regardless of time. Specifically, to make friends with middle school students, we should seize the opportunity. From what has been discussed above, we can see that it is inappropriate to develop friendship with students rashly, at least when we are new to them. So, under what circumstances can we make friends with students? We will discuss it later in the "Situational Strategies of Class Management" section.