The concept of filial piety and respect

"The Doctrine of the Mean" says: "Benevolent people are the most important to relatives." This means that people with benevolence are real people. Kindness, first of all, puts love for parents first. If a person doesn't even love his parents, how can he be called a real person?

Only those who are virtuous can gain and gain. Respecting teachers is the most basic virtue. Only by respecting teachers can we truly learn knowledge and skills from teachers. If a person doesn't even respect his teacher, how can he learn knowledge and skills? If he doesn't have knowledge and skills, how can he acquire them?

True filial piety is not just about providing food and clothing to parents, but being able to maintain a pleasant appearance in front of parents and pass on ancestral virtues. Therefore, not only do you support your parents in life, but you are also able to love your parents and maintain a pleasant appearance. This is true filial piety. It is the greatest filial piety to be able to pass on the virtues of ancestors and make them famous.

To truly respect teachers, the first thing is to be respectful and loving to the teacher; the second thing is to be able to pass on the teacher’s wisdom. The greatest teachers are the sages of the Chinese nation. Being able to pass on the wisdom of the sages from generation to generation is true respect for teachers.

Concept of Learning

Good jade requires careful carving by skilled craftsmen, otherwise it will not be "complete". Although people are wise, they still need to learn in order to understand the truth and be creative. , otherwise it will not be "complete".

Rites, music, archery, calligraphy, and numbers are the six basic skills of traditional education and should be comprehensively cultivated. Today, we talk about the comprehensive development of "morality, intelligence, physical education, and physical education." On the basis of all-round development, parents should also focus on cultivating their children in areas where they are particularly interested and good at so that they can become talents.

“Learn extensively, inquire deeply, think carefully, discern clearly, and practice diligently”, comes from "The Doctrine of the Mean", which describes the methods and procedures for learning. It requires extensive multi-faceted study, detailed research, careful and serious thinking, clear judgment, and finally, down-to-earth practice.

Real learning must ultimately be implemented into practice, so that we can apply what we have learned and integrate knowledge with action. This is real knowledge.

Views on making friends

"The Analects" says: "Three friends will benefit you, and three friends will harm you. Friends who are straightforward, friends who are forgiving, and friends who are well-informed are beneficial. Friends are easy to open, friendly and gentle, If a friend becomes a sycophant, it will be a loss.” It means: There are three kinds of helpful friends and three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make friends who are upright, friends who are tolerant and honest, and friends who are knowledgeable. It is harmful to associate with flattering people, with people who flatter others on the surface but slander others behind their backs, and with people who are good at smooth talk.

When you meet helpful friends, you should learn more from others. When you meet unhelpful friends, you should reflect more. Do you have such problems yourself? Then quickly change it.

Be strict with yourself and be tolerant and courteous to your friends. Don't be selfish in anything, think more about how to benefit others. I am good to everyone, everyone is good to me, and in the end everyone is good. This is the principle of "good for you and me, good for everyone, and good for the world."

Views on Marriage

When choosing a marriage partner, you must first look at the moral character, and then whether the person is easy to learn and make progress. Do not choose based on family background, good job, or high income. You may choose based on interest criteria such as whether you are handsome or not, whether you are beautiful or not. Isn't it the best interest to meet a person who is moral and eager to learn and make progress?

Don’t be greedy for lust or beauty. What matters is whether the beliefs, values, and living habits of two people are consistent. The greatest agreement is that the two people have the same mind. Just like Li Shangyin's poem said: Even if "I don't have the wings of a colorful phoenix", I can still "have a clear understanding of my heart". What a wonderful love this is.

The "Book of Changes" says: "When two people are of the same mind, their sharpness can cut through metal; if they speak of the same mind, their stench is like orchid." It means: Two people have the same mind and act in unison, the power of which can be as sharp as a sharp knife. Cutting through metal, the words spoken are as fragrant and elegant as orchid. What a beautiful and powerful combination.

The two are of the same mind, tolerate each other, tolerate and appreciate each other like family members, and treat each other with the same respect as guests. What a beautiful and harmonious companionship this is.

Outlook on Achievement

Real success does not lie in how much wealth you have or how high your status and power are. It lies in whether one can cultivate one's own moral character and pass on and carry forward the wisdom of ancient sages.

Real success is achieved if you can cultivate your moral character, manage your family well, and then contribute to the country and society at your job, creating positive energy for social harmony. The so-called inner sage and outer king.