"Inadvertently making friends" may deviate from the direction of life and sink deeper and deeper on the evil road.
When dealing with people, please remember Zeng Guofan's "four sentences": modesty and massiness are your phase, humility and tolerance are your phase, keeping things with your heart is your phase, and returning things is your phase.
In fact, Zeng Guofan's "four sentences" also tell us that "the heart is born." Look at a person's appearance, you can identify a person's heart, you can know whether you can be intimate.
The Book of Changes says: A gentleman carries things with virtue. A person, with "thickness", is wisdom that has been deposited all his life. You can think before you do it, and don't go the wrong way; You don't talk big, maybe not much, but you are sincere. Every word is to the point, and it is to help others, not hypocrisy.
When people communicate with each other, they either flatter each other and say a lot of flattering words, or they just want to achieve ulterior motives, get close to you and get benefits, then betray you and even attack you with others. It's really "a dog bites Lv Dongbin, it's ungrateful", which is extremely hateful.
"Modesty makes people progress, and pride makes people lag behind", which is the truth that we have always admired. The humbler a person is, the lower his posture is. Just like the sea, it is at the lowest place in the world, but there is always water in the river, which keeps flowing in and becomes endless.
Those who are always on their high horse are actually like empty shells in the ears of rice, which will never mature because there is nothing in them. People who bow their heads are not afraid of anything, but have experienced years, ups and downs, and their minds have matured. In the future, they will work hard and walk with their heads down.
Therefore, modest people, people who know how to tolerate others, are more worthy of communication. The longer you are in contact, the more you can tolerate each other's shortcomings. You can understand each other all your life and become a person who understands yourself.
The more modest and tolerant a person is, the quieter his face will be and he will not be complacent. Such people are often hidden, supercilious, and calmly deal with the ups and downs of life. Such a person deserves your heart.
There used to be a story: a waste collector set up a company because he worked hard and got a fair price. But he is unhappy, because the more money he has, the more he feels that he has failed others and encroached on their interests, and he is very uneasy. He lives in a mansion, but he feels unhappy. So, one day, he went to the temple and asked the old Zen master, "Why are people unhappy?" The old Zen master smiled and invited him to tea. As a result, when the old Zen master poured water, the water in the cup overflowed and flowed onto his clothes. He was puzzled. "How can a good cup of tea become an unhappy cup of tea?" The old Zen master said, "Because I am too full." Since then, if he has learned anything-money is taken from the people and used by the people. He became kind. Although he has less money, he lives happily and has a sense of accomplishment.
In fact, life is like a teacup. You always fill it with everything, so whatever you put in it will overflow and cause your own embarrassment. Only by giving up some things in life can we put in more things we need. Don't be too full in this life!
If you are with charitable people, you will become more and more "rich", which is your inner wealth. You will feel happy to help others, feel relaxed after giving up, and become more and more "beautiful".
If you are with a charitable person, you will get help from the other person when you are in trouble, instead of "falling apart from the tree" and looking down on you who has become poor.
Being a man is not "fishing for three days and drying the net for two days", but perseverance to achieve great things. If you are with someone who has no ideal, you will probably give up halfway.
If you are close to those who are "from beginning to end", you will also grit your teeth and make another effort to push your ideal to a higher place. "You are not a hero until you reach the Great Wall."
Many times, our ideal is not far away, but you have worked hard for a long time and finally gave up. Many years later, you will find that you are only a little distance from success, and even reach out and touch it. It's a pity that you missed success.
"Getting something in return is wealth", that is to say, "The more persistent a person is, the luckier he is; The harder you work, the more successful you will be. " From now on, you should also be a persistent person and make more friends with this persistent ideal. If you are bitter, it will become sweet. Tired, get through it, and it will be easy.
Whether a person can become a bosom friend depends on the above "four sentences". Friends don't care about quantity, they care about quality. People worthy of communication are good friends and teachers.
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