What is most needed to make friends is sincerity. Only real things can make others trust you, there is nothing wrong. But do you find that few people have done it through the ages, and you don't even know if anyone can do it? Of course, sincerity is never wrong, but many people misinterpret its meaning and always impose their subjective meaning on others, which naturally won't work.
They all say, "Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you." In fact, whether you want to do it or you don't want to do it, you can't impose it on others, right? Who wants to be controlled and forced? Isn't this empathy? In the process of making friends, I am most afraid of my own subjective feelings, and finally I say that others are ungrateful, so I must pay attention to three behaviors:
First, show sincerity when you meet people.
There is nothing wrong with sincerity, but don't understand telling others all your privacy, so that your heart is "smooth" and there is no mystery. Then I poured out all my sincerity, and in turn I hope others can tell all his sincerity. I think this is the way to make real friends. This kind of thing is called caring for each other.
Maybe you can make sincere friends in this way, but others will think you are stupid. I don't know why, it was originally a very sincere thing, but in the end it became stupid. Actually, it's a little forcing. To put it bluntly, it is disrespectful, but it is not that serious. Why do you have to do what you want?
Also, don't reveal all your sincerity to everyone. Such people are often scarred and finally regret it. Of course, this is not to complicate everyone, but to be measured when telling the truth, isn't it? After all, people are unpredictable in reality, as long as you don't cheat in the process of making friends.
Second, always give your best to others.
Always give your best to others from the beginning, no matter what you give, say it's your best and let others know that you are good to him. There is no problem with this practice. I hope everyone can do it. Maybe in the end, society will really become harmonious.
However, this is also subjective. When I say nothing, I actually hope that the other party will give him the best thing at some point. As a result, friends have become the best gifts for exchange and become reciprocity. If the conditions of two people are similar, it will be fine. If not, it will put a lot of pressure on others, which will become an unequal friendship.
Third, I hope others are as enthusiastic as myself.
It is good to be enthusiastic about others, but everyone's personality is different. Not everyone can be enthusiastic, and no one says that only enthusiasm can make friends, right? Enthusiasm is a kind of respect, a kind of accomplishment, not an exchange. If you are passionate about others, but you can't get the same enthusiasm, is it hard? I feel that others don't take themselves seriously at all.
Active enthusiasm is only to show one's own side and let others see what kind of person he is, not to make others become equally enthusiastic. You know, forcing others to change their character will only bring hypocrisy in the end, which is just to deal with you, otherwise what can he do?
There is nothing wrong with hypocrisy, just being forced. You don't want to embarrass each other. You just need to be enthusiastic. This kind of friendship is insincere, so don't force others' enthusiasm.
Making friends requires sincerity, but this sincerity is respect, not disturbing others, and not cheating when getting along. Never make friends with people with subjective will and force others to do what they want, so you will lose.