The most difficult problem in family education is puppy love. I am a middle-aged man, and I have a daughter who has just turned seventeen. When it comes to puppy love, she has a strong buzz. When I wrote this article, the child still smiled and said, "Dad, when I make friends in the future, I must ask my parents for advice. A marriage that both parents oppose is hard to be happy." My daughter's words deeply touched me!

In reality, the puppy love of individual children does bring a shadow to the school and family, which may affect their studies lightly, or even lead them to fall into misunderstanding. Parents must understand the characteristics of adolescence, strengthen education, give priority to prevention and plan ahead. When boys and girls enter adolescence, there are many physiological changes, and they love the opposite sex. This is an instinct of human development and a specific period for children to bid farewell to their boyhood experience.

For adolescent children, we should guide them to shift their vigorous energy to study and normal recreational activities. Puppy love is a green apple. It is conceivable that it is sour, and the prevention work should start before the bud of puppy love appears. Puppy love is not terrible, the key is transformation. If your child has puppy love, I suggest-

First, be a good teacher and friend to your child, so as not to intensify the conflict. Boys and girls in the psychological closed period can expose their privacy, which just provides us with educational opportunities. Parents should be good teachers and friends of their children and win their trust. Don't treat puppy love as a scourge, it is the natural expression of human emotions. We guide children well and answer questions for them by talking about life, building ideals, discussing morality and comparing learning.

When my daughter communicated with me, she analyzed the reasons for my classmates' puppy love in junior and senior high schools. First, she sought spiritual support. The fierce competition makes everyone nervous, and the opposite sex may get a little comfort, talk to each other and escape from reality. Secondly, influenced by some love novels and movies, even love stories in textbooks ... These are undoubtedly attractive to boys and girls in seed of love. When encountering puppy love children, parents and teachers should extend warm hands, give them the warmth of their loved ones, and do patient, meticulous and hard influence and ideological work. You might as well consult educational experts and psychologists to teach lost children. I believe children will change.

2. Face up to puppy love and never give up hope. We know that it is difficult to solve puppy love, adolescent children have serious rebellious psychology, schools dislike puppy love, and it is difficult to talk about puppy love, so it is easy to cover up, cover up, let go, and even give up hope, which will eventually lead to adverse consequences.

If a child really falls in love early, then parents must treat it well and never treat it lightly. The following points are very important:

1. Make efforts to build the family into a warm and harmonious paradise, so that children can feel safe. If you find that your child is in puppy love, you should analyze the reasons and solve the problem. Is the so-called "fact" caused by the students' input? Or is it an emotional impulse? Is it the confusion of adolescence or the stress of study? In short, careful investigation and patient ideological transformation are needed.

2. Actively communicate with children. Don't ask how to study at the beginning. How's the grade? What is the ranking? You can start from other aspects of life and topics that children are interested in. Communication should focus on art, calm down and think hard, find a solution, and get the ideal educational effect.

3. It is inevitable that children will be confused when they grow up. For example, parents expect their children to achieve excellent grades, but their children are not ideal; The school opposes puppy love, and children fall in love; Children who violate discipline are severely criticized ... These contradictions and conflicts will make children depressed, so we should help them improve their understanding ideologically in time.

4. Keep the closest contact with the school. Parents should not relax, make a fuss or be embarrassed when their children have puppy love. We should keep close cooperation with the school in time, put down face, communicate actively and cooperate with teachers, and the problem will be solved.

Not long ago, in a telephone interview with the media, I was asked about my attitude towards "children sign agreements with their parents". I don't think it is necessary to sign an agreement if parents can communicate with their children. Agreement is just a form, and it can't replace the emotion between parents and children at all. Of course, if some families adopt this method to achieve good results, I also support it with both hands. Different people take different methods according to family characteristics, and everything is for the children. As long as the family, school and society care for the next generation and cultivate them with strong body, healthy psychology and perfect personality, children will certainly be able to get through the confusion of their youth and move towards a bright future.