First, internal factors: friendly children are introverted and shy. They don't want to show themselves in front of everyone. On the contrary, they prefer to stay quietly in a corner, and it is best that no one notices them. This has a lot to do with children's natural timidity and shyness.

Second, external factors: overprotective and harsh family education can easily lead to children's inferiority complex. This kind of children are psychologically fragile and can't stand the blow and failure. Therefore, they prefer to protect their dignity with silence. They don't trust themselves, and they don't think they have the ability to accomplish anything. If parents force them with reproachful attitude at this time, it will not only arouse their courage, but will make them feel more inferior and timid. Educating such children, gentle encouragement and patient companionship are more important than anything else.

Kindness children are born timid and timid, which is their innate temperament. However, timidity is also related to children's living environment and experience the day after tomorrow.

Generally speaking, children who have been pampered by adults for a long time will be more timid. Because they are afraid that their children will be in danger, adults always restrict them from doing this and that. Over time, children become timid and lack courage.

In addition, children who are often intimidated by adults are also prone to become timid. Sometimes, when children are disobedient, adults like to scare them with words such as "Let the big tiger take you away" and "Give you to beggars". These words will make them feel insecure, be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and become timid and timid. Therefore, don't blame children for being timid. To change this situation, we should first start with adults.

Kindness children are mild-natured. They don't want to try everything, like explicit and leading children. For them, it is most important to be spontaneous and casual.

Although they are all introverted like thinking children, thinking children are recognized as good children who are willing to act according to the instructions or will of adults, while friendly children are somewhat independent and maverick.

if they don't agree with adults' orders, they will turn a deaf ear and act according to their own thoughts or preferences, but they won't resist fiercely. For this kind of children, adults often feel that there is nothing they can do, because they are simply immersed in their own world.

Obviously, friendly children are dependent on the familiar and stable environment and are unwilling to make too many attempts and changes. They like to do things according to their own habits or styles. No matter how the outside world changes, they still stick to their own ideas. This is the personality of a kind child.

It's not a bad thing to have personality, and parents don't have to make them what they like or want. Too many demands and too strict attitude will make the timid and friendly children even less confident.

Therefore, parents may wish to be more tolerant of friendly children and allow them to stay in their own world for a while.

The procrastination of friendly children may be caused by their warm personality. Slow temper is the best description for them. No matter what you do, you rarely see friendly children in a hurry and in a hurry. Laziness is their usual style. Others are already burning with anxiety, but he still looks like a "none of my business".

Some impatient parents often adopt the method of "solving by force" when their children procrastinate and urge them repeatedly but fail to improve. This is very bad for introverted, timid and friendly children. They either passively resist: you let me be quick, and I will do it slowly; Or you will be scared to be timid and cautious by the reprimand of adults, which will affect the feelings between parents and children.

Therefore, in order to change children's procrastination, we should give priority to encouragement and combine scientific methods to educate children. Give your child a specific time, and if the child can finish it within the specified time, give some rewards, such as allowing the child to do something he likes. In addition, it is not an overnight thing to get rid of bad habits. Since procrastination is related to personality, and personality change is not easy, parents should give their children more time and patience.

most children love to play and play with children. But there are also some children who are quiet by nature, don't like performance, don't want to be disturbed by others, and don't want to disturb others. Most of these children are shy and timid children, and they are regarded as "unsociable", "withdrawn" and "lofty" in the eyes of others.

"Autism" is a physical and mental disease, and unsociable and withdrawn is just a child's personality, and this personality can be changed through acquired efforts.

Therefore, even if children are reluctant to talk and are not good at actively communicating with others, they should never be labeled as "autistic" easily. They are just inactive, introverted, shy or a little lazy, but they are definitely normal children.

Kindness children don't seem to be good at actively interacting with others, but in fact, the best type of friends is kindness.

They are gentle and submissive, and don't like to talk much, but they are patient enough to listen to others' complaints. People are willing to make friends with such people.

Therefore, as parents, we should consciously guide our children. As long as we are more active and generous, our children can be liberated from the labels of "withdrawn", "lofty" and "unsociable".

"Children are too weak and easy to be bullied", which may be the common concern of many kind-hearted children's mothers.

Indeed, the amiable children's indifference and self-satisfaction will make them seem easy to get along with; But at the same time, it will also show that they are easy to bully, and once bullied, they don't know how to compete with others, so they don't know how to protect their rights and interests.

Therefore, as parents, although we should not teach our children how to compete with others, we should at least let them know how to protect their rights and interests from infringement.

there are only two types of parents for weak children.

one is self-weakness. This not only affects the child's personality from genetic factors, but also affects the child. Therefore, as parents, we should set a strong and confident example for our children. We should know that the effect of "teaching by example" is much better than that of "words and deeds". Let them know that they are not afraid and do not flinch when they encounter problems, and there are ways to solve the most difficult problems.

The other kind of parents, on the other hand, are autocratic and overbearing. Everything is arranged, and children are not allowed to participate in exercise, so that children will develop dependence and become inactive and inactive. If parents are too impatient and strict, they will make their children afraid, afraid to communicate with their parents, and afraid to seek their parents' help when they encounter something. Over time, their personality will become weak and timid.

Therefore, to change a child's weak character, parents should first start from themselves. You know, parents are the most direct teachers and the most powerful dependence of children.

Kindness children's unsociable personality will make them keep their worries in their hearts. If they are not close enough to their parents, even their parents don't know what they are thinking.

This kind of personality is worrying for children who are growing up. If children don't talk, our parents won't know what happened to them, let alone help them.

There are only two reasons why children choose to be silent: one is that they don't want to talk, and the other is that they dare not talk. The former is because of introversion, while the latter is because children are too timid and cowardly.

so how can we get the child to talk? As parents, the most important thing is to give children enough sense of security and belonging to win their trust, so that no matter what happens, children are willing and dare to talk with their parents.

Secondly, parents should take the initiative to care for their children. Once they notice that their mood has changed, they should take the initiative to ask even if the children don't speak. Don't ask twice at a time, twice without asking three times, let your child feel your concern, and let him know that no matter what happens, you will support and help him, then the child will eventually be willing to speak out.

Finally, the key to the problem is to cultivate children's confident and strong personality, and pay attention to training their ability to deal with problems at ordinary times. You know, children have to face life by themselves one day, and all the problems on the road of life have to be solved by themselves.