Please read the scripture: (Gen. 2: 18 ~ 23)
? Love is an eternal topic, and marriage is established by God and sacred. Of course, it also needs to be managed. If it is managed well, it will be happy and happy! Christian marriage is no exception. However, people often walk into the marriage, just like walking into the grave, experiencing pain and even suffering.
As Christians, the relationship between our marriage and God is very important. If you blame your spouse for the pain of marriage, it is actually equivalent to letting the other person control you or yourself control your life and marriage instead of taking Christ as the Lord. If I return my sovereignty and the sovereignty of my spouse's marriage to the Lord, I will only seek what the Lord wants me to do, instead of being self-righteous and trying to control and change each other. Then our marriage life will be very different. The more we obey the Lord, the easier it will be for God's power of change to manifest itself in our family.
? How many lost lambs have been saved by God and how many people's marriages have been overturned by God. The painful marriage was finally overturned by God, because after believing in the Lord, both of them realized their sins, and both of them began to sacrifice themselves and carry the cross, and began to let their past selves die and let Christ live in themselves. If you can rely on the Lord to do this before marriage, then whoever you marry will be the blessing of the other party. Otherwise, no matter who you marry, it may be painful.
? There is no denying that people like romance. Many people are still immersed in the longing for love, so it is difficult to adapt to the complicated and tasteless life after marriage. Especially after having children, facing trivial family matters, children's education problems, relations with elders and so on, it will bring many disunity and even contradictions, and eventually they will go to the edge of marriage and even go their separate ways.
So, as Christians, how can we manage our marriage well in Christ? Next, let's learn together.
? 1. Husband and wife unite and love each other (Gen. 2: 18 ~ 24) < P >? The Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to live alone, so I will make him a spouse to help him" (Gen 2: 18) "So the Lord God made a woman out of the rib of the man and brought her to the man. The man said, "This is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh. You can call her a woman because she was taken out of a man. Therefore, a man will leave his parents and join his wife, and the two will become one. This love story of Adam is the earliest love poem in the world. God created women to help men, and men have an obligation to protect their partners. Just as at the beginning, when two people enter marriage, it not only means physical union, but also represents life union. Since then, women's lives have men's existence, and men's lives have women's participation. The two create their own values of life.
? However, due to human crimes, this alliance was destroyed, and women were no longer men's helpers, demanding independent existence. Men no longer protect women. Human beings show the sorrow that "husband and wife are birds in the same forest, and they fly separately when the disaster comes". This is because people are contemptuous of marriage and only want to get the romance they want from marriage, but they are selfish and refuse to give their true feelings to belong to each other. That is, if we can't commit ourselves to each other, we can't support each other. No pains, no gains. Therefore, today's marriage has disappointed many people.
? A happy marriage does not only exist in fantasy, but also needs sincere efforts, careful management and care. There is no happiness for nothing. A happy marriage is actually very simple, as long as we handle the relationship between husband and wife according to the truth in the Bible, let God be the master of the marriage, and recognize that the other party is your lifelong partner. You have me, I have you, care about each other and love each other. Then you will feel happy.
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? Second, treat each other as guests and respect each other (Ephesians 5:33, Peter 3:7)
? The scripture says, "But every one of you should love his wife as yourself. A wife should also respect her husband; (Ephesians 5: 33) "Husbands, live with your wives according to reason. Because she is weaker than you, you should respect her because she shares the grace of life with you. So that your prayers will not be hindered. " (Peter 3: 7)
? These two bibles teach us that husband and wife should respect each other. In today's real marriage, what is lacking is mutual respect. We can see that the more society develops, the less people's moral standards rise and fall. The crimes committed by people are getting worse and worse. In the past, unmarried cohabitation and divorce were a great shame for the parties and their families. Nowadays, it has become a common practice, because marriage is not taken as one thing, so we all treat each other lightly, let alone respect each other. Subconsciously, there is always a saying on my lips: "If it's better, it's better. If it's worse, it's better to leave. Who can't live without it?"?
? Sadly, now we Christians are also involved in the crime of fornication. Ignore the teachings of the Bible and ask God for mercy. Just as the Bible says, we should pray for such people, because they are suffering from gall and suffering. A person who commits adultery, whether mentally or physically, is guilty of offending God and his spouse. It is a sign of not fearing God and not respecting your spouse. In fact, the respect between husband and wife is the way of getting along with each other in ancient times, but it is what we should learn most today. Because mutual respect is the basic mode and respect between people. This is especially true for husband and wife, because what relationship is closer than husband and wife? When we hurt our spouses, we hurt ourselves!
Third, poor tea and light rice support each other (Proverbs 15:17)
? Love can be vows of eternal love, vigorous. Marriage needs a steady stream of water, and the warmth and sweetness of "moistening things silently". (Pro 15:17) The scripture says, "It is better to eat vegetarian food and love each other than to eat fat cows and hate each other." The true meaning of marriage is not based on how good living conditions are, but on mutual love and tolerance. Today, the first condition for many people to choose a marriage partner is that the other person should be financially rich. However, the wisdom of the Bible tells us that the happiness of marriage is not directly related to living conditions. We older people have personal experience. At that time, we were short of material resources and poor in economy, but our hearts were simple and our feelings were sincere.
? Now that living conditions are rich, people's desires are great, but they can't pursue true feelings. We have heard from some film and television dramas, or through oral communication, that in the past, lovers could give a hand-woven ornament or rough jewelry, but they were destined for life. Today, many times, gold, silver and precious stones can't be exchanged for true feelings. Why is this? To put it mildly, people are knowledgeable now. It's not nice to say, it's called philistinism, reality and money worship.
? Please think about it: if our marriage has two choices, one is simple, simple and happy. One is luxury, but strange bedfellows. Which way will we choose? Which is more important, mutual affection or living conditions?
Fourth, humble cottage, tolerant of each other (Proverbs 21:9,19)
Today, when couples get married, many people will ask for cars, houses and savings, and it is best to be rich after marriage. I have not experienced any joys and sorrows or hard work. Emotional foundation is not solid, often based on sugar-coated cannonballs and chocolate flowers. And today, how many only children or all kinds of second generation are fragile and delicate. Can't stand a little injustice. Temper easily, anger easily, quarrel easily, divorce easily. No one knows how to tolerate and accommodate, let alone give in.
? Let's look at the Bible: (Proverbs 21: 9, 19) "It is better to live in the corner of the roof than with a quarrelsome woman on a wide roof" and "It is better to live in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome woman"
? Let's take a look at the marriage between David and Michal mentioned in the Bible. At first, David married Michal, a princess, the daughter of a king. And Micha is married to a national hero ~ warrior whom she loves. Therefore, in people's eyes, it is also a perfect match. Their love nest may not be luxurious, but their marriage is happy and sweet.
? From (1 Sam. 19) when Michal helped David out of the hand of his father Saul, we saw that David and Michal's house had no servants or handmaids to serve. And Michal helped David get out of danger by himself. Including a series of behaviors, such as letting David down from the window, putting the idol on the bed, pretending to be David, putting the idol's head on the pillow and so on. Through a series of actions, we can see Michal's love for David.
? However, when the past is like smoke. When David was king, their feelings seemed to change after he took Michal back from his second husband, Pattie. (2 Sam. 6: 2-23) Let us see that two people who once loved each other are tit for tat and bitter. No tolerance, no love. I think at this time, Micha must miss the days when she washed her hands and made soup with David.
Today, many marriages are such a spectacle. Once the husband and wife shared joys and sorrows and worked hard. Husband and wife are kind and loving, and they do it and cherish it. Now, rich, but apart from each other, strange bedfellows. Because the economy is rich, there are more desires and temptations. No matter how big the house is, home is not like home. Even many people have bitter feelings. If I had known today, I would rather live in a small house that used to be ten or twenty square meters, tolerate each other and love each other. It's better than today's indifference. In this way, it is not marriage, but wealth that ruins love.
? As long as there is love in our marriage, even if the cottage is humble and the cold kiln is broken, it can shelter from the wind and rain, and the love between husband and wife is bitter and sweet. As long as we sincerely respect and love your partner, it is not difficult to treat each other as guests. As long as your body and mind can truly belong to each other and commit themselves to each other, you will be willing to support each other instead of taking from each other. In this way, you will get the happiness and happiness of marriage.
? May the Holy Spirit of God shine on every child who belongs to God, so that we can be grateful in marriage, be holy in marriage and have a happy marriage.